Imithetho yokuziphatha ayikho into eyinkimbinkimbi, wonke umuntu ozihloniphayo kufanele azi. Kuhlale kumnandi ukubuka indoda enemikhuba emihle, iveza ukuzwelana.
Cabanga ngemithetho eyisisekelo yokunambitheka okuhle kwabesifazane. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekukwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela efanele ihlonipha wena. Kungakanani owesifazane ozihlonipha ngokwakhe kulula ukuyiqonda, ngokuzumayo ukuza kumvakashela. Uma indlu ihlanzekile futhi ihlelekile, iphunga lokudla okudliwe lizwakala, umculo omncane uzwakala, kanti lona wesifazane ugibele kahle futhi ehlekisayo, okusho ukuthi ungumama omuhle wendlu, uziqaphele yena nomoya wakhe. Owesifazane kufanele azithanda yena, lokhu kusiza ukuthi abanye bayomfinyelela kuye.
Ukuba ngowesifazane kuyilungelo elikhulu. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile uyohlale enhle kakhulu, agqoke ngokunambitha. Ukuze ukwazi ukusebenzisa izimonyo. Isibonelo, imimoya kufanele isetshenziswe ngokulinganisela. Owesifazane kufanele akwazi ukugqoka ubucwebe. Akekho into engakwazi ukuhlanganisa igolide ngezingubo ezingavamile zokugqoka izingubo.
Ukuba emphakathini, owesifazane kufanele abe nesizotha futhi abe nobungane nabantu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumuntu wezinwele, udokotela wamazinyo, umthengisi wesitolo noma isisebenzi esisebenza nabo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba owesifazane akwazi ukukhuluma kahle, alondoloze ingxoxo, aveze imicabango yakhe. I-silulumagama yanoma yimuphi umuntu ozihloniphayo akufanele ikhawulwe emabintana ajwayelekile kanye ne-slang. Ihlukumeza inkulumo, yenza kube nzima, igrey.
Phakathi nengxoxo efonini nabantu abangabazi udinga ukuhlonipha nokuhlonipha. Shayela umuntu kuphela ngesikhathi esifanele kumuntu abakhuluma naye. Lowo owaqala ukubiza, kufanele aqede ingxoxo kuqala.
Phakathi nengxoxo kubalulekile ukulalela umxhumanisi kuze kube sekupheleni, hhayi ukuphazamisa, hhayi ukufaka imishwana engenamqondo, engxoxweni engekho endaweni. Engxoxweni nomuntu ongajwayelekile, futhi nomngane naye, ungazigabisi ngempumelelo yakho, impumelelo yomndeni wakho noma umyeni wakho. Kubalulekile ukuthobeka nokukhuluma kancane ngawe. Kuyoba ngcono kakhulu uma ubuza ukuthi izinto zikhona kanjani ne-interlocutor, buze mayelana nomsebenzi wakhe, umndeni wakhe. Khona-ke kuyoba mnandi ukuthi umuntu akhulume nawe. Kubalulekile futhi ukuba ugweme imishwana ejwayelekile, ama-clicks, izaga ezishaywa - lokhu kubonisa ukungabi nentshisekelo nokuqala. Owesifazane ozihloniphayo ngeke futhi azitshele izindaba ezidlalayo, azivumele ukuba abe ama-anecdotes amancane noma amahlaya engxoxweni. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukukhathazeka, ukujwayela, ukungacabangi akubambi ekuhlonipheni kwakho.
Kumele futhi ube nomusa nabadala. Bahloniphe, ungaphazamisi engxoxweni futhi ungaxabisani nabo. Impikiswano ekubukeni ikhona njalo, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwezizukulwane ezisencane nasezikhulile, kodwa ungakhuluma konke ngendlela yokuxoxisana ngamasiko, hhayi impikiswano.
Ukulandela imithetho yokunambitheka okuhle, owesifazane akufanele abhema nhlobo. Kodwa uma usenalo mkhuba omubi, akufanele ubheme okungenani ku-cafe nasemgwaqweni. Futhi, awukwazi ukugcina ugwayi emlonyeni wakho ngenkathi ingxoxo, uma usho, thola. Awukwazi ukubhema etafuleni ngenkathi udla.
Owesifazane kufanele abe nenhle ezintweni zonke - ezembathweni, ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni. Ukuze uhlale kahle emotweni, udinga ukucwila esihlalweni, ushiye imilenze yakho ngaphandle, bese uphendulela bese uwadonsa ngaphakathi. Uma uphuma emotweni, okokuqala udinga ukwehlisa imilenze yakho, ugcine amadolo akho ndawonye.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba owesifazane akwazi ukumomotheka nokuhleka kahle. Ukuhleka okuhle nokuhle kwenza abantu abazungezile bakwazi ukuthuthukisa imizwa yabo nenjabulo. Awukwazi ukuhleka kakhulu futhi isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ukuhleka kuphela endaweni lapho umuntu ehlambalaza, ukuhleka okungaqondakali noma ukuhleka kwendawo kubangela ukuphazamiseka nokucindezeleka okungalungile phakathi kwabanye.
Wonke owesifazane kufanele akwazi ukuziphatha esimweni esibucayi. Uma, isibonelo, lapho uvakashele uphule indebe noma ingilazi, kufanelekile ukuxolisa futhi esikhathini esizayo esiseduze ukuthenga entsha. Uma ngabe usulaze ngephutha incwadi yomunye umuntu, thola okufanayo futhi uyibuyisele.
Noma yimuphi owesifazane, ukwamukela izivakashi, lokhu kuyisenzakalo esibaluleke kakhulu, futhi sinomthwalo wemfanelo kakhulu. Udinga ukwazi ukumema ngokufanele, ukwamukela nokusingatha izivakashi.
Ungamenywa esidlweni sokupheka izitsha zokupheka ezintsha, noma izitsha ezingavamile. Ukuzama kungase kuphele ekuhlulekeni. Akudingekile ukulungisa izitsha ezinjalo, okulukhuni ukuzithumela ngaphandle kosizo lwabanye abantu. Futhi, ngokwemigomo yokuziphatha, awukwazi ukukhonza amapuleti etafuleni ngokudla.
Ungamemeli abantu abaphakeme kakhulu kunani ngesimo senhlalo noma ezingeni lomqondo. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzothola ukwenqaba. Uma omunye wezivakashi ephuzile isikhathi esingaphezu kwemizuzu engu-15, ungacindezeli zonke izivakashi ukuba zilinde, uhlale phansi etafuleni.
Kukhona nemithetho eminingi yokuhleleka kokuziphatha etafuleni. Awunakudla ngezandla zakho etafuleni. Awukwazi ukugcina izandla zakho ngamadolo akho. Kunesidingo esinomlomo ovaliwe. Futhi, akufanele uphuze ngomlomo wakho ugcwele, futhi ngaphambi kokuba uthathe ingilazi, udinga ukusula izindebe zakho nge-napkin. Awukwazi ukukhuluma ngokuzwakalayo nokuhleka etafuleni, kuyisibonakaliso sokunganaki nokubeletha okubi.
Uma umenyiwe ukuthi uvakashele kunoma yikuphi, awukwazi ukuphuza. Kodwa akusekuseni kakhulu ukuza. Ukulandela imithetho yethoni elihle okudingayo ukuba uhloniphe ne-Amandla nezivakashi, ngiyabonga ngezimemo. Ekupheleni kokukwamukela, kufanele uthi izincomo ezimbalwa kulabo abakwaSomandla. Kuyoba mnandi kubo, futhi uzoba nomuzwa omuhle.
Nansi imithetho eyisisekelo yokunambitheka okuhle, eyenzelwe abesifazane. Zonke zibalulekile futhi kufanele zihlanganise zonke izici zokuphila. Izimpawu zemfundo enhle yikhono lokuziphathisa, inkulumo kanye nendlela yokukhuluma, ikhono lokugqoka, ngisho nokuzizwa, ikhono lokuzilawula. Owesifazane kufanele akwazi ukubhekana ngokucophelela kunoma yiziphi izimo, ahloniphe futhi ahloniphe. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ukuzihlonipha wena nabanye.
Ikhono lokuziphatha emphakathini kuzokusiza ekukhulumeni nabantu, kokubili empilweni yansuku zonke nasemsebenzini. Futhi lokhu kuyisihluthulelo sempumelelo yakho.