Ufunani?
Yini owesifazane ophumelelayo adinga? Ufuna uhlobo luni lomuntu?
Njengomthetho, labo besifazane abangakwazi ukuzinakekela, banesithakazelo kubantu njengabanye, kodwa banesidingo esengeziwe samadoda. Bafuna ukubona umuntu olinganayo olingana nomlinganiso wokuphila, kodwa angeke awuvimbele.
Ngokuvamile, abesifazane abanjalo bayavuma ukuba ngabendlukazi noma ukugcina indoda, ngakho isibambiso sobuhlobo obuhle nabo sinhlonipho nokulingana. Uma ungazi ukuthi unqoba kanjani owesifazane ophumelelayo, ke okokuqala, wena ngokwakho kuzodingeka ube oqinile - oqinile, othembekile, ophumelelayo, kodwa ongenamandla futhi okwazi ukuthembeka. Ngisho nabesifazane abathintekayo kakhulu bafuna umndeni ofudumele futhi oqinile, abaningi babo baphupha izingane, abavele bengakakulungeli ukwakha ubudlelwane nanoma ubani ohlangabezana nokuphila kwakhe futhi unzima kakhulu ngalolu daba. Yini okufanele icatshangelwe uma uhlangana nomfazi onzima kangaka.
Ungakhathalela kanjani?
Indlela yokunqoba owesifazane ophumelelayo onakho konke? Umbuzo unzima kakhulu, kodwa kukhona impendulo kuwo. Okokuqala, ungalanda lowo okhethiwe ngezinkinga zakho. Ngisho noma kunezinkinga empilweni yakho, akufanele uzame ukuxazulula lokho ngokuzithengisa. Ekuphileni kwabantu abaphumelelayo, banezinkinga zabo, abakhetha ukubhekana nazo. Izinkinga zabanye abantu ngeke zijabulele ukuzwelana, kodwa ukuphazamiseka kuphela, kungani umuntu omdala engakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kosizo lwesifazane.
Okwesibili, umzamo wokunqoba owesifazane onjalo ngemali akuyona isisombululo esihle. Njengomthetho, abesifazane abaphumelelayo bayothola kahle futhi abadingi usizo lwezezimali. Uma unikeza izipho , ngakho akufanele kube nezishibhile, khetha izinto ezinhle ezenziwe ngokunambitha, kodwa ungazami ukufumbathisa okhethiweyo wakho. Uma uphola, lokhu kufanele kube yindawo ehambelana nezinga lowesifazane. Lokhu kungase kungabi yindawo yokudlela ebiza kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi ubusuku obuthandanayo ophahleni lendlu evamile luzoshiya okungcono kakhulu kunezindawo ezisemakhaya. Into eyinhloko ukuthi akudingeki ukuba azizwe kabi.
Okwesithathu, uthembela inhliziyo kunengqondo. Abesifazane abaphumelelayo bayakwazisa ukuzwelana okuqotho nesithakazelo, hhayi logic engenangqondo. Uma owesifazane ekwazi ukufeza impumelelo empilweni, khona-ke uwanele izimo lapho kudingeka ukuqonda okubandayo. Nikeza okunye okufanelekile.
Okwesine, ungabandakanyi ebuhlotsheni bakho ngisho nasezincekwini zokuzifunela. Abesifazane abaphumelelayo banamuhla bavame ukubhekana nezimo, lapho bezama ukusebenzisa izinhloso zabo siqu abantu abahluke ngokuphelele. Bayakwazi ukuhlukanisa abantu abanjalo, futhi angeke bawa ngenxa yokukhohlisa, noma ngabe ucabangani.
Amadoda asanda kushintsha kakhulu imibono yabo ngokubaluleka kwezimfanelo ezithile zabesifazane ngokubambisana okukhulu. Kodwa babengakakulungeli ukushintsha ama-dummies ancike emadodeni abanele ngokwabo, ngoba cishe abazi ukuthi banganqoba kanjani owesifazane ophumelelayo. Esimweni sabo sengqondo, izindlela ezifanayo namantombazane ajwayelekile azithengayo azisebenzi, zihlakaniphe kakhulu, ziqiniseka futhi zivame ukuzikhohlisa. Konke lokhu kuyabesaba amadoda futhi kudonsela ngesikhathi esifanayo. Imfihlo kufanele ube yedwa. Uma imali yakho nesimo sakho kungathandeki, njengasezimo ezivamile namantombazane avamile, khona-ke kukhona ithuba lokuthi okhethiweyo wakho uyoba nesithakazelo engqondweni yakho, umlingiswa, isipiliyoni, indlela yokuxhumana, ukuthula kwangaphakathi. Uma umuntu eqiniseka ukuthi unakho okumele anikele kulowo wesifazane, ngaphandle kwemali, uyophumelela.