Phela, nguyena wesifazane onesimo semvelo esivumela ukuba azwe ingane yakhe ngesikhathi elele futhi avuke masinyane ebusuku lapho umntwana ehamba noma ekhala. Ukuxhumana nomama - okubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana, kanye nokunakekelwa kwengane kuthola umqondo wokuqala ngesikhala esiseduze, uthando lomama luveza ukwethemba okuyisisekelo ezweni, inkolelo yokuthi "konke kuyoba kuhle." Futhi kwenzekani kubaba, uyini indima yakhe emndenini ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwengane? Ezikhathini zasendulo, umsebenzi womuntu wawunqunyelwe kuphela ukuqinisekisa ukusinda kwabesifazane nabantwana, futhi umama nengxenye yesifazane wesifazane babenakekela ingane. Emphakathini wanamuhla, lapho kungasadingeki ukuzingela, futhi imindeni emisha ihlala ngokuhlukana nokuhlobana kunzima umama wakhe ukuba abhekane nomthwalo owenzayo yena kuphela, udinga usizo nokusekelwa ngumyeni wakhe.Indima yabazali empilweni yezingane kuyisici esibalulekile.
Ukushintsha okunamandla
Ngokuvamile kule nkathi phakathi kwabashadile kukhona ukungaboni kahle. Umyeni ulahlwa yindodakazi yakhe, ebuyisela uhlu lwezabelo nemisebenzi, umfazi uyazinikela ngokuphelele ekunakekeleni ingane. Ngenxa yalokho, ukulungiswa okusha kwezindima kwakha emndenini: umbhangqwana womama nomntwana kanye nobaba osekhona efana. Kulungile kanjani ukudlulisa lesi sigaba, ukwenza ukubukeka kwengane kulethe ubunye nokuqonda komndeni? Ukulungiselela okwesikhashana kokuzalwa kweziqu kungcono ukuqala kusengaphambili. Ngisho nangesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ungabhalisa izifundo zabazali abasha, lapho imibhangqwana ifundisa imibhangqwana ukuthi isisekelo sokuphatha ingane, sitshele okubaluleke kakhulu kwintsana, iseluleka ukuhlela impilo emva kokuvela kwengane. Izifundo azinikezi kuphela ulwazi oludingekayo, kodwa futhi zizosiza abazali bazo esikhathini esizayo ubuhlobo. Lo mbhangqwana kancane kancane uyazi ukuthi maduzane kuzoba nengxenye yesithathu, okuyiwona oyedwa oyoba nomthwalo wemfanelo. Akunakwenzeka yini ukuya khona izifundo? Ungakwazi ukufunda izincwadi ezikhethekile ndawonye, ubukele amabhayisikobho, futhi ukhulume nabangane umndeni wabo usuvele unomntwana. Into eyinhloko ukuqonda ukuthi unyaka wokuqala wokuphila unquma ukuthuthukiswa kwengane, ngalesi sikhathi isimo sakhe sengqondo sokuphila siyabekwa - ithemba elizayo, ukuzethemba ngokweqile kuvela ngokuqondile kubantu abathintekayo. Abazali abahle nomndeni onobungane abazenzeki ngokuzenzekelayo - kudinga ukufunda.
Thembelana
Ukuze abe ubaba omuhle, indoda idinga ukusekelwa nokwethenjwa komkayo. Oomama abaningi ababandakanyi upapa ekukhulumisaneni nomntwana, ubashiya inkathazo kuphela kulesibili. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isikhundla esinjalo sinemvelo, ngoba ngumama owangokwemvelo kakhulu kwengane, ukuqhubeka kwakhe kwemvelo, umntwana ubona umama ngokushaya kwenhliziyo, iphunga, ukuphefumula. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngezinyanga ezintathu ingane ihlukanisa ngokucacile phakathi kwakhe "no" futhi "abangabazi", ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuba upapa abe nengxenye ekukhulumisaneni nomntwana ngokushesha - ukukhuluma, ukuhlukunyezwa, kanye ne pat. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukuhlakanipha komzali emadodeni nakwabesifazane kwenza ngendlela ehlukile. Uma kwabesifazane inqubo yokuzalwa idala isisulu somama, khona-ke kumuntu ukukhulumisana nomncane, ongenakusiza okuba ngumzuzu oyinhloko ekuqaphelisweni kobuhlobo bakhe. Ukubuka ukuthi ingane ikhula kanjani futhi ikhula kanjani, indlela ukuzethemba kwakhe kuqina ngayo, lo muntu uzwa umuzwa wenjabulo, okunamathelayo okuvusa kuye, okuba yisisekelo sobuhlobo besikhathi esizayo, buvusa kuye.
Kuthiwani ngokukhathala?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kulindeleke isikhathi eside kangakanani futhi wayefisa umntwana, ngokushesha noma kamuva noma yikuphi umbhangqwana kuyodingeka ubhekane nenkinga yokukhathala ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Umuntu omusha nowenxusa udonsela konke ukunakwa namandla akhe, engashiyi isikhathi sokuxhumana naye. Umama uphelelwe imibuzo engapheli futhi engaqiniseki mayelana nokufaneleka kwezenzo zakhe, uvame ukubhekana nakho, noma ngabe konke kulungile yini, kuthukuthele ukuthi asikho isikhathi esanele sokuzinakekela yena. Obaba ngokuvamile bazizwa belahliwe, kubonakala sengathi umfazi uthola "ithoyizi" elilindile isikhathi eside, futhi banomsebenzi owodwa kuphela - wenza kuphela ukuthi uyamnakekela ingane, futhi uyasabela ngokuhlambalaza nokukhononda ngesiphakamiso sokusondelana. Lokhu kuvamile futhi kungokwemvelo Ukuthi owesifazane ubonisa isithakazelo esiningi kwengane isethwe ngokwemvelo - ukusimama kokubeletha kudonsa ezinye izifiso, futhi ukungabi nentshisekelo kumyeni wakhe nakho kuthinteka ukukhathala okuthole enkampanini yokunakekela ingane. Ezinyangeni ezingu-3-4 emva kokubeletha, isifiso sokulala sihlupha zonke ezinye izidingo. Kulesi simo esinzima kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kungokwesikhashana, ubuhlobo bomshado buzophinde bubuyele ubulili kanye nobudlelwane obuseduze.Pattern, ukuzwela komlingani nokuqonda ukuthi manje umntwana waba isikhungo sokunakwa emndenini, kusize ukunqoba lesi sigaba ebuhlotsheni.
Amadoda ngezinye izikhathi azama ukukhipha ingubo phezu kwabo, njengokungathi bancintisana nomntwana ukuze anakekele umkakhe. Lokhu kuziphatha kukwandisa ukucasuka futhi kwandisa ukuhlukaniswa phakathi kwabo. Isikhundla esihle kakhulu somlingani, oqonda ukuthi okwamanje ingane engenalutho idinga ukunakekela ngaphezu kwabanye, futhi isekela lapho umfazi elalela izidingo zengane. Kubalulekile ukuthi owesifazane athole ibhalansi emkhatsini wemisebenzi yomama kanye nomshado. Zama ukusindisa isikhala sokuxhumana komuntu siqu, isibonelo, ngenkathi uhamba nengane ungakhuluma nomyeni wakho ngomsebenzi wakhe emsebenzini, isimo sakho sengqondo, uxoxe ngezinhlelo zekusasa, ubonise ukubonga kwakho ngokusekela nokuqonda kwakhe. Siza umyeni wakhe ukuba athole ukuzethemba ekwelapheni kwengane, kuzothatha isikhathi esincane, futhi uzokwazi ukuthatha ezinye zezinto ezikhathazayo zabazali, futhi uzoba nethuba lokuzinakekela wena futhi uphinde uthole isithakazelo ebuhlotsheni bomshado.