Izinkinga ngekhanda labantu abahlala isikhathi eside kunokuba zibukeke
Bheka izandla zakho. Eqinisweni, iminwe yakho yinde kunokuba ucabange, kanti amabhulashi ayencane. Lezi yiziqu zezingqondo zethu: umzimba womzimba wethu uhlanekezelwe kuwo. Kungaba yi-two-thirds emikhulu futhi isifushane esilandelayo kunesimo sangempela. Futhi kubonakala iminwe emifushane - inkulumo engavamile kakhulu ngokubonakala kwayo. Isifo esiphezulu kakhulu sesikhathi sethu singacatshangwa ngokuthi i-dysmorphophobia - ukungaboni kahle umzimba ngokulahlwa okulandelayo. Enye yamagatsha i-anorexia nervosa. Njengoba sekufinyeleleke ngokweqile kakhulu, lapho amafutha kuphela ehlala emzimbeni, kodwa futhi nemisipha, amanzi nakho konke, ngaphandle kokuthi umzimba awukwazi ukusebenza kahle, owesifazane ongenakwenzekayo uzibheka ngobuqotho. Uma ebuka esibukweni, ubona intombazane engenalutho, kodwa i-self-feeder enezinyosi esiswini sayo. Okunye ukubonakaliswa okuvelele kwe-dysmorphophobia kuyisifiso sokubuyisela ubuso nomzimba. Cha, hhayi ukuzinakekela okwanele, kodwa ukuguquguquka okukhulu, okuqhubekayo, okuhlelekile, okungapheli, ngoba akukho mkhawulo ekupheleleni. Into eyinhloko ukusula izici zakho, ukubunjwa okusha, ungathandi njengabo. Phela, ngaphandle kwangaphandle okungaphelele kokuphila lapho.
I-Dysmorphophobia ihlobene nokulahla okwamanje. Isizathu sivame ukuhlala ekuguleni okukhulu kwengqondo. Izindlela zesicelo salo - ukungabalwa, nokuningi - zivela ebuntwaneni. Isibonelo, ukuhleka usulu ngenxa yesisindo esiningi, impumuzo ende noma izindlebe ezihamba phambili, okwenza umntwana angajabuli. Ngenxa yalokho, kuvela inhlangano eqinile: ubuhlungu, inkathazo - izindlebe ezigcwele umzimba / ezihamba phambili. Ngakho-ke, igobolondo "elingalungile" liwukusola konke - kubi, lizodinga ukulungiswa. Ngokuvamile abazali bayasiza futhi. Ngempela, lokho ingane ezwayo futhi ebona ngokuqondene naye, kuyakha ukuzethemba kwayo. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bayakwazisa ingane kuphela ngenxa yezimpumelelo zakhe (smart, enhle, engcono); Uma impumelelo engacacile, inzalo imane ayiboni (okungcono) noma ihlaselwa njalo. "Khona-ke ingane ithatha umqondo wokuthi inani lakhe kuphela yizimpumelelo zakhe nokubonakala kwakhe. Uma kuvela ukuthi ngalokhu uhloniphekile, akakwazi ukuzithanda yena. Awuqondi nje: kanjani? Phela, ngoba nje (egcwele, ngekhala elikhulu kanye namabanga amabi esikoleni), akekho oyithandayo. " "Akukho lutho olumnandi kunomzimba wakho omncane" Leli gama lezithombe zomhlaba ka Kate Kate liye labulala abantu abaningi futhi abanokuqiniseka. Phela, ngisho noma konke kuhambisana nemvelo eseduze, futhi akekho umuntu ophelele noma impumu, akayidambisi amazambane, "umphakathi" uya "ukusiza". Imingcele nemigomo yayo ifana nefomula: impumelelo = ubuhle. Lokhu okulandelayo akuyona umqondo ohambisanayo. Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokubukela umlando womphakathi olandelayo, intombazane inquma ukuthi: uma ngiyinto efanayo (i-skinny / enezimpondo / izicathulo eziqondile ukusuka eLubuten), khona-ke kuyoba nenjabulo kimi, uthando, impumelelo. Uma ngokungazelelwe ucezu lwe-puzzle elimangalisayo luphumile - yonke impilo iyinkunkuma. Iqiniso lokuthi into evela emfanekisweni ayithandeki kumvelo, kodwa kumthwebuli wezithombe nomklami, ngandlela-thile ulahlekelwe ngandlela-thile. Kanye nokuthi izindinganiso eziningi zanamuhla zobuhle azivamile futhi azihlangene nomthombo wobuhle beqiniso - abanalo impilo. Kodwa-ke, akumangazi - ukwethula imfashini emidwebeni yemvelo yomzimba nokubonakaliswa kweminyaka yobudala kungenzuzo. Ubani ozothenga amaphilisi okudla, asebenzise imali ekusikeleni, abaqeqeshi bomuntu siqu, ama-injection, ama-cream kanye nokuhlinzwa? Ngakho-ke kukhona inkolelo yokuthi ukuhlukumeza, ukungabi namandla kanye nentsha ephakade kunendawo eduze - nje welule izandla zakho futhi ukhokhe: umsoco, umqeqeshi, udokotela ohlinzayo weplastiki.
Namuhla sicabanga kabanzi ngalokho umzimba okubukeka khona, futhi hhayi ukuthi yiziphi amathuba okwenzayo. Ukukhathazeka kwamanje ngokubonakala nokuhlelwa kwebhizinisi konke okubizwa ngokuthi "impilo enempilo", okuyinto, ekufundiseni, kufanele inikeze ubuhle obufunayo, ukuthi umuntu ulahlekelwa ukuthintana naye, uyeka ukuzizwa ezidingweni zangempela, ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwakhe "okuhle" nokuthi "kubi." Kodwa kuwukuzibonakalisa ukuthi indlela eya ebuhleni bayo yangempela iqala. "Ukwelashwa kwe-Gestalt yamukela inselelo yokuthi ngingumzimba wami. Yilokho - udinga ukuzinakekela wena. Uma ukubunjwa kuhlukile - ngiyakuthinta umzimba wami, bese kuba into ehlukile, uhlobo lwendlela. Kuvela ukuthi kusebenza, udinga ukwenza lokhu nalokho. Eqinisweni, wonke umuntu akadingi ukugcinwa kwesondlo, kodwa uthando. " Ukuze uthole okuhle, udinga ukuxhuma kabusha ngomzimba wakho futhi uyayithanda. Mnike lokho akudingayo, hhayi lokho okufashisayo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Didkovskaya siyaqiniseka: "Ukuze uthole izifiso nezidingo zangempela, kuvame ukudingeka uzibuze umbuzo:" Ngifunani ngempela? Ngempela, sonke sihlukile futhi wonke umuntu unezibonakaliso ezilula ezikhomba indawo yokududuza: okufudumele noma okubandayo, okuhlwabusayo noma okungahambi kahle, ngifuna ukuza noma ukuhamba. Into ebalulekile kuphela ukuthi ikufanele yini wena noma cha. "
Emva kwakho konke, naphezu kokuvinjelwa kokusebenzisa onobuhle obungenasidingo emibonisweni, ukusebenzisa izithombehop ekukhangiseni imikhiqizo yokuguga, imfashini yokungabi namzimba kanye nekhanda elibushelelezi elingakabonakali lisasebenza. Intukuthelo yabadlali abathile abazame ukuvela emaphethelweni omagazini ngaphandle kwe-photoshop yihlasi olwandle. Into eyodwa ihlala - ukuqonda ukuthi ukugqama kokugcina nokuntuleka kwemibono eminyakeni engama-60 kuyinqwaba yamamodeli nama-actress. Umzimba kubo uyisitsha. Bangayishintsha futhi babuyisele kabusha - bayayikhokha, futhi baningi. Okunye ukushiya izinga. Amathiphu amakhulu mayelana nokubukeka akufanele abe izinombolo kanye nemingcele, kodwa imizwa yakho. Uma izinhlangothi zomzimba zigijima, kukhona ukuphefumula okuncane, noma, ngokuphambene, ukuqina ngokweqile kuholela ekutheni unesizungu - kunesizathu sokucabanga ngokushintsha indlela yokuphila. Akekho oshiwo ukuthi udinga ukukhuphula ngamandla amafutha, ukushintshela kokudla ngokuthi "ukudla okungenamsoco", ukhohlwa ukuthi kukhona umoya omusha, ukunyakaza, izimo ze-cosmetologists nezembatho ezifashisayo. Kulimaza psyche, impilo kanye nokuzethemba. Kusukela kuzo zonke iziphakamiso kufanelekile ukukhetha okuhle, okujabulisayo nokwamukelekayo wena ngokwakho. Sinezikhathi zokuzikhethela. Khetha isisindo esithambile nokuthi ungayilondoloza kanjani. Khetha izinga nehlobo lokuzivocavoca okujabulisayo. Khetha umbala nobude bezinwele, umthunzi we-shades ne-lipstick, isitayela sezingubo. Yakha izinga lakho lemvelo nobungane lobuhle kuwe. Yiphakamise ngendlela ekhethiwe ngayo izicathulo ezihle: zihle, kodwa zikhululekile, ezingazizwa ezinyaweni zakho, kodwa ikusiza ukuba uhambe ngokuphila kalula.
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