Ungakwazi futhi kufanele ube khona esontweni!
Kuyamangalisa ukuthi inkolelo-ze isakazeke kanjani ukuthi owesifazane okhulelwe ngandlela-thile akakwazi ukungena esontweni. Abagogo abaningi "abanolwazi" ngezizathu ezithile babesaba abesifazane besifazane abakhulelwe abanjalo, futhi inethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke igcwele imibuzo yokudangala abesifazane abanjengoba "Kungenzeka yini ukuya esontweni kwabesifazane abakhulelwe? ". Kungenzeka ukuthi uphendule lo mbuzo ngendlela engavamile - akunakwenzeka kuphela ukuvakashela isonto owesifazane okhulelwe, kodwa futhi kuyadingeka!
Izikhonzi zesonto ziphonsa lezo zinqatshelwe ngokuyinhloko futhi, ngokuphambene nalokho, zicela abesifazane abakhulelwe ukuba baye ethempelini. Ukuvakashela esontweni njalo kunika amandla kumama wesikhathi esizayo kanye nenkolelo yokuthi konke kuyoba kuhle nomntwana kanye naye. Noma yimuphi owesifazane okhulelwe kuyasiza futhi kuyadingeka ukuba eze esontweni futhi uthandaze. Ngemuva kwalokho, lapho efika ethempelini, uphendukela kuNkulunkulu nomntwana ongakazalwa. Yingakho owesifazane okhulelwe kufanele eze esontweni! Kodwa lokhu konke kunengqondo, kuphela uma owesifazane efuna ukuya khona. Abesifazane abakhulelwe abakwazi ukwenza lutho ngamandla, ukuvakashela isonto lapha ngeke kube okuhlukile.
Uma owesifazane okhulelwe engakashadi nomyeni wakhe, khona-ke isonto liluleka ukuba lishade ngisho nangaphambi kokubeletha kwengane - khona-ke iNkosi izothumela umusa okhethekile emshadweni wabo. Uma owesifazane okhulelwe engakaze abhapathizwe okwamanje, kodwa angathanda ukukhishwa, ngakho ukukhulelwa akuphazamisi nalokhu. Futhi, owesifazane okhulelwe angadlula ngokuphepha ngesakramente yesakramente - ukwamukelwa kweMfihlakalo Engcwele kuzomzuzisa yena nomntanakhe kuphela.
Ngosuku olulandelayo, isonto akufanele lihambe yedwa - owesifazane okhulelwe kufanele abize nomyeni wakhe, umngane, umama noma omunye umuntu oseduze noma othandekayo. Esontweni, owesifazane okhulelwe angagula ngokuzumayo, bese usizo lwakhe luzodingeka. Noma kunjalo, lesi sincomo asisebenzisi nje kuphela ukuya esontweni - owesifazane okhulelwe ngesikhathi esedlule ngokujwayelekile ngaphandle kwekhaya lakhe kungcono ukuya enkampanini yomuntu.
Kodwa ngemva kokubeletha ethempelini, owesifazane kufanele akhohlwe izinsuku ezingu-40. Ngokusho izisekelo zesonto, lesi yisikhathi esithatha ukuba owesifazane ahlanzwe ngesono sangempela. Uma nje isikhathi siphelelwa yisikhathi, owesifazane angase eze esontweni, kodwa okokuqala umpristi uzofunda ngaye umthandazo wosuku olungamashumi amane olungenakuqondakala. Ngemva kwalokhu, uzophinde avunyelwe ukuya ezinsizeni futhi ahlanganyele emasakramente esonto.
Emathuneni - ungakwazi, emngcwabeni - cha!
Ngokusho konke okufanayo "omazi bonke", abesifazane abakhulelwe abanakukwazi ukuza emathuneni nasemingcwabeni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyingozi ngisho nokubuka oshonile. Besabisa abesifazane abakhulelwe "izindaba ezimbi" ukuthi emathuneni umphefumulo womuntu ongakwazi ukunamathela kumntwana, futhi uma owesifazane okhulelwe ebuka oshonile, umntwana uzozalwa efile.
Izikhulu zeSonto izimpawu ezinjalo zilingana nobuqaba nobuqili. Abapristi bathi isinqumo sokuya emathuneni noma cha kuyinto yendaba yomuntu wonke owesifazane okhulelwe. Uma umphefumulo wesifazane ucela ukuba uhambe-ngingakuya kanjani? !! !! Uma kungcwatshwa umama wakhe, ubaba, umntwana, othokoza naye ngobubele obuzayo, ukudabuka kwakhe noma ubuhlungu? Uma owesifazane efuna ukuya khona - kungenziwa.
Kodwa-ke, uma ukuhlala emathuneni kuhlotshaniswa nowesifazane okhulelwe onemizwa emibi kuphela, uma owesifazane esaba, ekhathazekile noma engajabuli ukuba khona - kungcono ukugwema ukuvakashela lezo zindawo. Phela, noma yikuphi ukucindezeleka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuyathinta ukuthuthukiswa kwengane. Yonke imizwa, kokubili injabulo nokudabukisayo, isakazwa kusukela kumama kuya emntwaneni esiswini. Yingakho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola imibono nemibono emihle. Kulokhu, udinga ukuzivikela ekucindezelekeni nasezikhathini ezimbi.
Ngakho-ke, uma kungumbuzo wokuya emangcwabeni phakathi nezinsuku zokungcwaba, ukubuka, uma owesifazane efuna ukuvakashela izihlobo nabangane abafile, uma eqiniseka ukuthi akukho lutho oluyophazamisa ukuthula kwangaphakathi kwakhe - ungaya khona ngokuphepha.
Ngokuqondene nomngcwabo, ngisho nomuntu ojwayelekile njalo ucindezelekile kakhulu, ungakhulumi ngowesifazane okhulelwe. Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi ukhulelwe, kudingeka uzinakekele wena nomntwana futhi ubalekele emngcwabeni, ukuze ugweme lokhu okuqinile nokulimaza ukucindezeleka kwezempilo.
Isikhathi sokubhapathiza umntwana?
Ngokusho kwemigodi yeSonto, ingane kumele ibhapathizwe ngosuku lwesishiyagalombili emva kokuzalwa. Kodwa-ke, ngokuzikhandla, abazali bavame ukukhetha ukubhapathiza ingane yabo ngesikhathi esinjalo. Njengomthetho, umntwana ubhapathizwa ngemuva kokuwela umngcele wenyanga. Isonto liqotho kakhulu kule ndaba - ngisho noma ucela ukukhumbuza ingane yakho eneminyaka emithathu ubudala noma eyakhula kakhulu, ngokuvamile ngeke ubuze ukuthi kungani uyeza kakhulu. Futhi ngokuqinisekile, akekho emkhakheni webhapathizo ongakwenqaba.
Njengoba ubona, isonto alibeki noma yikuphi ukuvinjelwa kwabesifazane abakhulelwe. Unganaki izinkolelo ezithandwayo, isixwayiso ngokuhambela emathuneni, emngcwabeni ngisho nasontweni. Into esemqoka kukho konke lokhu ukuthi umama wesikhathi esizayo kufanele anikezwe ithuba lokwenza lokho okubheka ukuthi kuyadingeka yena nomntanakhe. Akufanele ulalele noma ubani futhi akumelwe ukhohlwe ukuthi yilabo kuphela abakholelwa kubo abaphethe izici ukuba zigcwaliseke.