Akungabazeki ukuthi ukuba owesifazane abe ngumuntu oyedwa kuwumsebenzi onzima, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ushiye, ukhononde futhi ungenzi lutho. Zama ukwenza okungenani izinyathelo ezimbalwa ukuze umgomo wokuba owesifazane, lapho indoda engeke ihambe khona.
Yiba ohlukile
UCoco Chanel wabuye wathi uma owesifazane efuna ukungabi nhlobo, kufanele ahlale eshintsha. Lo mthetho, okuyinto engamangali, ukusebenza kanye nendoda enezinwele ezimhlophe. Ukuguquka njalo - yiba intombazanyana enakekelayo futhi ehamba nayo, kanye nomthandi okhuthele olala embhedeni futhi ethanda ukuhlolwa kocansi, nomama omuhle kakhulu ogcina indlu igxilile futhi ihlelekile, nenkosikazi enomphefumulo ohloniphekile ongamomotheka ukuze indoda yona ngena emlilweni nasemanzini. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ungapheli indima eyodwa isikhathi eside, ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi indima yendoda ifana nayo.
Yamukela indoda efana naye
Ungamhlambalazi njalo ukuthi akahlangabezani nesimo sakho sokucabanga somuntu. Akudingekile ukuba unamathele ukushiyeka kwawo - kungcono kakhulu, uma ungathandi ngempela lesi sici kumlingani wakho, zama ngakho ngobuhlakani futhi usho ngokucophelela ngakho futhi uhlinzekele okunye okunye okumele kwenziwe. Futhi, yiqiniso, dumisa sonke isithunzi sakhe (ngendlela, ayisebenzisi nje kuphela ngamadoda, kodwa nezingane).
Qiniseka
Yakha ukuziphatha kwakho ukuze umuntu wakho azi ukuthi ungathembela nini kumzuzwana onzima, futhi uyamsekela kokubili ngenjabulo nangokudabuka. Futhi noma ngabe wenza iphutha futhi unecala lale, ke ungaboni phansi ukugxeka kwakhe, kungcono ukuzama ukuthola amagama ukumkhuthaza.
Zithande wena
Owesifazane ongazithandi yena, ngomuntu, angabonisa isithakazelo se-utilitarian kuphela - njengompheki okhululekile, umgcini wendlu, njll. Zizinakekele futhi uzihlanganise, ungakhohlwa ukuchitha isikhathi esincane nokuhlambalaza.
Ungesabi ukuxabana
Kuzwakala kungavamile okwanele, kodwa izingxabano zisengumthombo owodwa wamandla amadoda nabesifazane. Into ebaluleke kakhulu empikiswaneni ukuxoxisana kuphela imbangela eyodwa yodwa yokuxabana, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ukuphenduka okunjengokuthi "izinsuku njalo ..." nokunye okunjalo, okungukuthi, okwenziwayo nokudlulisa iphutha ngokuphelele kumlingani wakho.
Ungabi umuntu kumngane wakho
Cishe unyaka owodwa ngemuva kobuhlobo bakho buqalile, izinqubo zobuchwepheshe emzimbeni obangela uthando lwakho, kancane kancane wehla. Abesifazane abaningi ngalesosikhathi banesifiso sokuba yindoda yabo, umngane othembekile nomngane omuhle, ukuba athole izithakazelo zakhe, njll. Nakuba ukubukeka kokuqala kuwumqondo omuhle, noma kunjalo, imiphumela ingaba yi-netakimi, eheha owesifazane ngamaphupho.
Okokuqala, uma abantu ababili benesithakazelo esifanayo, khona-ke bangakwazi ukukhipha ngokushesha zonke izihloko zengxoxo futhi bakhathazeke. Futhi okwesibili, ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane unomlutha kakhulu wokufuna ukuba ngumuntu njengomngane, ukuthi uyayeka ukukhangwa ngokocansi kuye, okungeke kwenzeke ukukujabulisa.
Ungakhohlwa ngocansi
Akekho okhansekile ngokobulili emshadweni. Akubaluleke kakhulu kunokudla nokulala. Kulesi simo, sebenzisa umcabango, ungavumeli ubudlelwane bocansi bukhathele ngokuziqhenya nokujwayelekile. Shiya isikhala sezocansi ezihleliwe nezokuzenzekelayo.
Khuluma
Ngokungangabazeki, akusizi ngalutho, uma ubona umyeni wakho, masinyane "uphonsa" konke okwenzekile emini, kepha uma ushukuthele kakhulu, awudingi ukuthula, unethemba lokuthi yena uqobo uzoqagela ngalesi sami ukukhuluma . Khuluma nomngane wakho womshado (nje ungayifaki nomngani) kuzo zonke izinto ezikuthakazelisayo futhi zikujabulise. Kodwa, sicela, ukhohlwe le nkulumo ngokuthi "othandekayo, sidinga ukukhuluma!".
Thatha futhi unike izingxenye ezilinganayo
Uma uzidela njalo, ungathathi lutho ngokubuyisela, ukholelwa ukuthi "kufanele", ukuthi kufanele uxolise - yiyeke! Lokhu akukona nje ukukhohlisa kwakho futhi empeleni indoda yakho isesikweletu. Uma udlala umdlalo wokuzidela njalo, kancane kancane lesi sikweletu singenakubekezelela, bese umuntu ekwazi ukuhamba. Kodwa-ke, akudingekile futhi njalo "kuthatha" kuphela - indoda enomuntu osheshayo ingase ivele ivele imithombo, emva kwalokho ubuhlobo buvame ukuwa. Ngakho-ke, ibhalansi emkhatsini "ukuthatha" nokunikeza "kufanele ihlonishwe.