Noma ubani wesifazane okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wayenomhawu ngomyeni wakhe. Lokhu kwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi, uma kunengqondo ukuthi ungakwazi ngisho nokuzethemba ukuzethemba kwakho. Futhi uma ingena e-paranoia, kufanele uqale ukulwa nayo. Uma kungenjalo umyeni wakho uzokushayela ucansi.
Indlela yokubhekana nomhawu womyeni wakhe. Impendulo yalo mbuzo ayikwazi ukungaqondakali. Lena ibanga elandisiwe le-psychology yesilisa. Bangabanikazi bezindlalifa, futhi abathandi uma othile engena endaweni yakhe. Baqala ukulwa uthando lwabo, kuphela ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Inomboro yenqubo 1. Ukuhawukela ngesisekelo somndeni, esidlula cishe ubuhlungu. Indoda kuleli cala inomhawu ngomphumela wobuhlobo. Lokhu, ubonakala ephakamisa ngaphezu kwabaphikisanayo, okuyinto ngokusemthethweni engekho. Le ndlela yomhawu isiza indoda ukuba ibuke umfazi wayo, futhi inikeze ubuhlobo obuseduze. Owesifazane ngalesi sikhashana uhlekisiwe yize, futhi uyaqonda ukuthi akekho omunye okudingekayo kumyeni wakhe. Uyesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ngumphefumulo wakhe. Indoda ngesikhatsi sendlela enjalo yomhawu, ngakolunye iyakubheka ukubonakala kwakhe ukugcina umkakhe ngokulandelayo.
Kulezi zinsuku, ucabanga ukuthi uma amanye amadoda ebheka oshade naye, wabe esekhetha kahle. Futhi uzokwazisa futhi uthande othandekayo wakho ngaphezulu.
Inombolo yesistimu 2. Ubukhwele obukhulu. Ubulala ubuhlobo obuvamile emndenini. Ngenkathi ungakwazi ukulawula oshade naye njengengxenye evunyelwe, ungakwazi ukulwa nomhawu wakhe.
Kodwa, uma iqala ukuhamba ngaphezu kwalokho okuvunyelwe, owesifazane angase aqale ukumemeza ethi "Qapha!", Ngaphandle kwalokho umhawu womyeni ngeke uqede umfutho womhawu womyeni wakhe. Ngesikhathi somhawu, akanikezi owesifazane ukudlula, ahlalise ubuntu bakhe kuze kube yilapho, ubhekisela kuso njengendawo. Le ndlela yesikhwele imithwala ubudlelwane, futhi isikhathi ngasinye siyaqhubeka ngokuqhubekayo.
Inombolo yesistimu 3. Inomhawu kusuka esigabeni sokukhubazeka. Ngesikhathi somhawu, owesilisa wesaba ukukhohliswa, konke lokhu kuhambisane neuroses ne-hysterics. Lolu hlobo lomhawu alunikezi empilweni, kuyisishushiso sokushushiswa. Indoda kulezi zinsuku idonsela ekhanda lakhe ukuthi owesifazane othandekayo naye angayishintsha kanjani futhi. Kule nkathi yomhawu ongavinjelwe, indoda isilungele noma yisiphi isenzo sokungaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ngakho-ke, naphezu kwakho konke, amadoda abe nomona. Konke lokhu kwenzeka ngaphandle kwesizathu, kunesimo esithile esingabonakali somhawu. Ngokuvamile, umhawu uvela ekungalondeki, abaningi abanokholo kwengqondo bathi. Ngokuvamile abantu abanobukhwele bahlala benesisindo sokukhathazeka-hypochondriac. Nomaphi lapho bezama khona izinkampani, ukuhlubuka, besaba kakhulu ukuqhathanisa, futhi bavame ukunyusa ngokweqile inkinga, njengoba bethi, "ngendiza yezindlovu".
Umhawu yi-infantilism ebonakaliswa ngumuntu omusha. Abantu abanobudinga badinga uhlobo lwe "mama" ozohlala njalo eceleni kwabo bese esula impumulo yabo. Ngakho-ke, zonke izinyathelo zabathandekayo, lo muntu uqala ukulawula uma owesifazane ehamba kahle, lapho kudingekile, lokhu kuyisizathu somhawu ojulile. Futhi wonke lo mhawu uhambisana nabangqingili besilisa.
Futhi ngomona kaningi umhawu, bona ngokwabo bashintsha abashade nabo. Ngakho-ke, bebodwa futhi bahlulele omkabo, ngoba bangaba nesikhathi sokuhamba "ngakwesokunxele", ngakho-ke oshade naye usho futhi. Basola amakhosikazi abo kuzo zonke izono ezifa, ngenkathi benza izenzo ezimbi ngokwabo.
Abanye abasha abanomhawu bahlangana nabesifazane abashadile, futhi beze bakhumbula ukuthi le ndoda ayingashadile ngokwanele. Futhi bangathola kanjani lokhu konke ohlangothini. Khona-ke bangakhumbula ukuthi uhlangane kanjani naye, nokuthi wazipha kanjani emhlanganweni wokuqala. Ngakho ungakwenza lokhu ngenye indoda.
Indlela yokubhekana nomhawu? Uma ufuna ukuhlala ngokuthula nomlingani wakho, kudingeka ugcine imithetho ethile yokuziphatha okuhle.
Ungamcasuli umlingani wakho, kodwa akudingeki uhlale isikhathi eside emsebenzini.
Nikeza oshade naye izinhlelo zakho. Qinisekisa ukuxwayisa oshade naye uma ubambezelekile.
Gcizelela futhi ukufaneleka kwayo, khumbula. Mtshele amazwi amahle futhi omnene, ungakhohlwa ukukukhumbuza ukuthi ujabule kakhulu eceleni kwakhe.
Memezela nabo abadlali abathandekayo kuphela, amadoda angama-traditional orientation.
Ayikho imidlalo yezocansi embhede, uma lokhu ungakwenzi ngaphambili.
Ungashintshi isithombe sakho ngokucacile, ngaphandle kokuvumelana nalokhu oshade naye. Uma ufuna ngempela okuthile okusha ekubukeni kwakho, ubuza umyeni wakho ukuthi ufuna ukukubona.
Uma kwenzeka ukuthi usashintsha oshade naye. Ungamtsheli ngalokhu, ngisho noma akubambelele endaweni yesehlakalo.
Futhi ungakhohlwa "Ukuzivikela okungcono kakhulu ukuhlasela!"
Okubaluleke kakhulu, uma wazi ngezici zomzimba womhawu wakho, ungamvusuli futhi. Ukuze uhlole imizwa yakhe ngawe, imizwa ingase ingabikho, futhi ukuhlala kwendawo kuhlale kukhona.