Isici sokuqala.
Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ukugcina oshade naye ngosizo lokubeletha akusizi, ngeke kuqinise ubuhlobo, kodwa kuzosheshisa ukuwohloka. Kodwa namanje ukubukeka kwengane kusakwazi ukuhlanganisa ubuhlobo - ikhambi elihlangene lezinkinga zezingane liphinda liphikisana nezingxabano zabo ngemuva. Kodwa ingane izokhula futhi konke kuzobuyela endaweni, abazali bayobuyela ekuphikisana kwabo, kuyilapho ikhono lokukhulumisana seliye laphela. Amacala avame kakhulu lapho umndeni usendleleni yokuhlukanisa, ingane iqala ukugula ngaso sonke isikhathi, izinkinga zenzeka. Lokhu kubhikisha okungazi lutho ngokuhlukana komshado wabazali, okubangela ukunakwa. Ngaphandle kokungabaza, lokhu kuyintengo ephezulu yokuphuma komndeni kusukela esikhathini esibucayi. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali abaseduze kwekhefu lomshado bathola ukuthi maduzane bazoba abazali futhi banqume ukuthi lesi sipho sesiphetho kuyithuba lokusungula ubuhlobo babo. Ezimweni eziningi, imibhangqwana iphumelela.
Isici sesibili.
Isici esiyingozi empilweni yomndeni ingumshado wokuqala. Babhekwa njengabantu ababuthakathaka, ngoba emahlombe omshado omusha kunezinkinga eziningi okumelwe bazixazulule: izinto, ezifuywayo, ezomsebenzi. Imishado ephakathi kwabantu 'abame ngokuqinile ezinyaweni' iprofetha isikhathi eside. Ngemuva kokuphila kwesikhathi eside, kuzoba nzima ukuguqula ukuguqula impilo yomndeni, ukulungisa kumlingani wakho, ushintshe indlela yakho yokuphila. Emishadweni yokuqala kunalokho, isikhathi sokuzivumelanisa futhi "ukugaya" nomngane wakho womshado kulula kakhulu ngosizo lwengqondo eguquguqukayo, okuyingqayizivele kuphela kwabancane.
Isici sesithathu.
Iningi licabanga ukuthi uma umndeni uphoqeleka ukuba uxazulule njalo izinkinga zokunqoba ubunzima, usheshe "uphule", hhayi ngokucindezela okunjalo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi imbangela yenkinga emndenini yilokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ukuhlaselwa", ukukhwabanisa, ukujwayela, kanye nobunzima bebambisana nabo. Inkinga emndenini ingabhubhisa kokubili ubukhulu bokuphila nokuzinza kwayo.
Ngokushesha noma kamuva, owesithathu ubonakala emndenini ngamunye, futhi lokhu kuholela ekushintsheni okuningi. Okokuqala, abazali babheke phambili izibulo ngokulindela okukhulu nenjabulo, futhi ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa nje bebeletha, kukhona ukungezwani endlini.
Ukukhulelwa, ukubeletha, ihora eli-24 elinakekela amathayi wengane umama omncane. Umfazi ophelile uveza izikhalazo zomyeni wakhe, amangalele ngakho konke, unxenxa ukumsiza ngomlingani wakhe. Ubaba akathuli: uhlale ekhumbuza ukuthi usebenza futhi uthola ukhathele, futhi uma engakwazi ukubhekana nemisebenzi yasekhaya, uyinkosikazi embi nomama. Umbono onjalo womuntu ngomkakhe awunhle kakhulu, ucabanga ukuthi kwakuyiphutha lakhe ukuthi kunezinkinga zocansi. Futhi njengoba isigamu sesilisa asithandi ukuthola ubuhlobo, yingakho bezama, bangabonakala kanjani ekhaya. Ngokuvamile kulesi sikhashana ukuphinga kokuqala komyeni wakhe - akabheki kakhulu ngokobulili, kodwa ikakhulukazi ezindlebeni zamahhala, kudingeka adlulisele izimangalo kumkakhe, azibonakalise ukuthi useyindoda.
Ukuhlukana phakathi kobudlelwane kukhula ngokujulile, izinkinga zomndeni ziqala ukukhula njengebhola le-snowball. Usizo lwezihlobo (ugogo, omkhulu) kumzali omncane unomphumela omuhle, okungenani ngempelasonto umama osemncane okhathele angakwazi ukuphumula ezinkingeni zansuku zonke. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ngokuphambene nalokho, lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi ebuhlotsheni bomshado: isizukulwane esidala sithandwa kakhulu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukuvimbela futhi singabonakali umbono wabo, sihlole abazali abasha. Ngokuvamile kaningi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezimweni ezinjalo, ubaba osemncane akalokothi akhangwe ekuziphatheni nasekunakekeleni umntwana, uqala ukuzizwa engadingekile, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ucabanga ukuthi imali ilindeleke kuye. Kuhlale kuhlazisa kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Ngenxa yalokho - isikhathi esiningi nabangani, wanezela isikhathi esengeziwe, amathuba okungathengi ayaqhubeka njalo. Ephendula, uthola izimangalo ezengeziwe ezivela kumkakhe.
Ukuphila komndeni wombhangqwana osemusha kufana nomkhumbi. Ngonyaka wokuqala emva kokuzalwa kwengane, "isikebhe somndeni" sabo sigijimela ngamandla ukuthi singaya kalula. Ngokwezibalo ngalesi sikhathi, imishado enkulu kunazo zonke imibhangqwana esemisha ihlukanisa. Nakuba kwakukhona isiqalo esihle kangaka.