Izakhamizi eziningi ezijwayelekile, ezisebenzisana nomphakathi wazo othobekile emphakathini, zibuze ngokwabo isimo sezezimali, zilahlekelwe, kungani umuntu engenangqondo empilweni, kanti abanye, abanolwazi oluncane futhi abanelungelo lokugibela ihhashi njalo. Kuyini isici, abantu abanenhlanhla abazenzi umzamo, babe nezinto eziningi ezivela kubazali abacebile, noma bavule ibhizinisi labo, bazikhandle ngokwabo. Yeka ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi uyabacasula kanjani uma ubona umqashi ophumelelayo owake waba, ofunda naye ekilasini, efundela umshini owodwa, wabhala izibalo kuwe, akaqondi lutho emakhemikhali. Futhi manje uyisomabhizinisi! Futhi abantu abanjengawe, izisebenzi ezikhuni, basebenzela kanzima ukuze kuzuze. Kuyinto engalungile, kubangela ukuziqhenya, umona omkhulu nokufutheka.
Ngesinye isikhathi lapho usumncane uphuphe impilo enhle, wacabanga ukuthi konke kuzohluka, kungenjalo, uzofinyelela kulokho kuphila okuhle, uvule ibhizinisi lakho, noma uthole umsebenzi. Kodwa empeleni lokhu kuyadingeka ukusebenza kanzima, ukutadisha, ukuthola imfundo enhle. Yingakho bahlala kanzima esikoleni, lapho bekhuluma khona esikhungweni, baxubha ngaphambi kokuhlolwa, baphumule futhi bahamba nabangani, behlehlisa impilo yabo "ngokuhamba kwesikhathi" lapho konke kuhamba kahle, njalonjalo. Nguwe kuphela owaqedile kancane, akazange acabangele umzuzu owodwa olula. Cabanga, mhlawumbe omunye umuntu ubone impilo yakho ngawe? Phela, mhlawumbe lokhu akuyona into oyikhethayo, kodwa kunalokho ukhetho lwabazali bakho noma umphakathi ohlala kuwo? Njengomthetho, lo msebenzi uphathiswe abazali, uthatha ukunakekelwa okukhulu ngekusasa lomntanakho. Empeleni, lokhu akukubi, kodwa uma ubheka izenzo zabo ngaphesheya, kubonakala ukuthi abantu abathandayo futhi abafisa okuhle, bangazibhubhisa ngokuzithandela, wena ngokwakho ngaphandle kokukwazi.
Iqiniso liwukuthi abazali bakho noma abanye abantu ababambe iqhaza ekukhuliseni kwakho abakaze bacebile ngisho nabantu abacebile kodwa, kodwa, ukukufundisa, bakunike iseluleko sendlela yokuziphatha kahle. Umuntu olambile, njengoba uyazi, akusiyo umngane wesikhathi esigcwele, kodwa umuntu ompofu, ngokufanayo, akakwazi ukufundisa indlela yokuceba! Leli qiniso elilula liye lahlala lifanele ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi lihlala kuze kube manje. Iminyaka eminingi esikoleni ufundiswe ukuthi kubalulekile ukutadisha kahle, bese uzophila kahle. Kodwa ukuphila kunenkani, ngokuqhubekayo kuqinisekisa kuzo zonke izivakashi zayo ukuthi lokhu akunjalo! Izikhungo zezemfundo zanamuhla, ezivela ezikoleni kuya ezifundweni, azidalwanga nhlobo ukuze zifundiswe, zifundise amawadi azo ukuthi zingabakhululeka kanjani, zingazuza kanjani izinsiza zempahla futhi zihlale ngesithunzi. Kunalokho, ngokuphambene nalokho, zonke izikhungo zemfundo "yizimboni" zokuqeqesha abasebenzi, bese zikuxhaphaza ngokwakho. Yebo, akekho okhuluma ngalokhu, kodwa kwanele nje ukufaka ingqondo nokuqonda, futhi konke kuzokwenzeka. Okudabukisayo njengoba kuzwakala, kodwa ngeke ukwazi ukufeza umphumela oyifunayo, ngeke ukwazi ukuvula ibhizinisi lakho, ube ngumuntu okhululekile futhi ozimele ngomqondo obanzi wezwi, ngokulandela isimo sengqondo esivamile, izinkolelo ezinikezwe imvelo yakho. Mhlawumbe abantu abaphumelelayo ngeke bakwazi ukuchaza imfihlo yempumelelo yabo, ngoba indlela yale mpumelelo ikhona engqondweni. Umuntu ophumelelayo, engaqapheli ngokugcwele ukuthi kungani enza lokhu, futhi kungenjalo, akahambanga ngombuthano ovaliwe, kodwa ngokuvuthayo, indawo ekhuphuka kancane kancane, okungukuthi, kukhona isici sokuthuthukiswa, inqubekela phambili lapho ehamba khona. Ngokungafani nabantu abaningi abathobekile, abanohloniphekile nabanamakhono abanokulandela ngokulandela imiyalelo abayinikezwa kusukela ebuntwaneni babo bokuqala, abantu abaphumelelayo abazizibophezeli ngemingcele engadingekile nezimiso zokuziphatha.
Uyakhumbula ukuthi yini abazali bakho abakunike yona? Ngokuqinisekile babefana nalokhu: "Ukuze uphile kahle kufanele usebenze kanzima", "Kuyingozi ukuba ucebile, banokuphila okungenasiphelo", "Ungalokothi uzame ukuphuma kwabanye, kungase kungathandeki umuntu", "Ngisaphila wasebenza efektri, futhi sekuyisikhathi sokwenza imali "," Umuntu ongenayo imfundo akakwazi ukuphila kahle ", njalonjalo. Yiqiniso, abazali abafuni ukulimaza, ngokulingana kokungazi kwabo banikeze isibonelo sokuphila esifana neyabo, ngoba abazi lutho ngezinye izinhlobo zokuphila. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunzima kakhulu ukuphikisana nabazali, ngoba noma yikuphi ukudluliswa kweziphakamiso zabo kuholela emibhikisho enobudlova. Ukufunela ingane yabo okuhle kuphela, abazali bafaka impela umbono wabo wezwe, bangaboni noma iyiphi enye indlela ngaphandle kwalowo okhethwe yibo, okulungile kakhulu kusuka ekubukeni kwabo.
Ungaba kanjani kulesi simo? Udlale wena kuphela, ngokuhlukumezeka nangokuziphikisa ngokuphikisana "nabaqaphi abahle", ngaleyo ndlela bangena ekuqinisekisweni, noma bahambisa futhi bamukele uhlelo olujwayelekile lokuphila? Into esemqoka ukuqonda isimiso sayo konke okwenzekayo. Isizathu sokuba zonke izinhluleka zibeka ngokuyinhloko emicabangweni yakho nasengqondweni engqondweni, izenzo ezikhawulelwe. Ukuvimbela ukukhulumisana ne "losers", iningi emvelweni wakho, futhi ngokungafani ukuxhumana nabantu abaphumelelayo, ushintsha kancane kancane ingqondo yakho kanye nengqondo engqondweni engcono futhi inhlanhla. Lo msebenzi obunzima kakhulu, ngoba usukhulile futhi ufundiswa ngokuqhubekayo ukuba ube "isigqila", isikhonkwane esingenakuzikhethela, ukuziqhenya ngesimo somuntu osebenzayo, ukusebenza ngokungafanele ngamapennies, ukuzwa injabulo yamanga kule nqubo.
Maye, makube kunjalo, izigidi zabantu kanye nabamabhizinisi bonke abakwazi ngempela ukuba khona, kodwa ukuhlala nenkululeko kwezinye izinkimbinkimbi zabanye kanye nezinkolelo zesibindi kungcono kakhulu!