Ingabe kuhle noma kubi? Ingabe lobu buhlobo buba nekusasa? Abasekeli nabaphikisi baveza imibono ehlukahlukene.
Umfana usemncane kuneyintombazane - kuhle?
"Ukukhuluma nensizwa, owesifazane" ubuyela ebusheni bakhe "okwesikhashana, ejabula ngokubamba kuqala, ehamba ngaphansi kwenyanga, egibela izithuthuthu ngedolobha ebusuku ... Ungakwazi" ukufa ngothando ", ngenxa yokuthi akukho lutho olungenziwa mayelana "Umngane omkhulu uthi ngibukeka njengomfundi wesikole esiphakeme - ngigijimela ukudansa, ngivela endlini ngasese ngezinsuku ..."
Njengomthetho, insizwa encane iyithanda kakhulu. Intombazane enkulu kakhulu ingaba yinye yeyokuqala, uma ingeyokuqala.
- Intombazane endala inethuba "lokukhula umuntu ofanelekayo." Ukuxhumana naye, lo mfana ufuna ukufinyelela ezingeni lakhe, uba nesibindi, athole imikhuba emihle, ashintshe eminye yemibono yakhe. Futhi lokhu kuhle kuye. Intombazane endala inesisindo sezinsizwa phambi kwabancane! Kulula kuye ukuba ithonye umfana, unolwazi, uyazi ukuthi angaqeda kanjani ukungqubuzana futhi angapheli amehlo. Futhi uma ephumelela, angavuma ukuthi naphezu kweminyaka eyishumi umehluko eminyakeni yobudala nabathandekayo bakhe, akakaze ahlangane nomusa omningi, othandana naye othandana naye. Futhi mayelana nokuya ocansini, intombazane enolwazi oluningi kakhulu ingafundisa okuningi kumthandi osemusha.
- Intsha, impilo kanye nobuhle - inzuzo enhle yendodana encane. Akumangalisi, ngoba emzimbeni wakhe we-hormones nokuqhuma. Akakaze athole izilonda ezingapheli, akayekanga phansi isimiso sezinzwa ngokucindezeleka njalo futhi esebenza emsebenzini, akazange akhule, angakhuli kahle, akazange abe nomuthi wakhe omncane nge-nicotine no-alcohol. Intombazane ehlangana naye, izama ukungafani nonyaka wayo. Unezikhuthazo ezengeziwe zokuzibandakanya yena, vakashela ihholo lezemidlalo salon, i-sauna noma i-solarium, uthenge okuhle, kodwa izinto ezibiza kakhulu.
Indoda encane kunentombazane - embi?
- Kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwengqondo yesilisa nowesifazane, lapho umfana, okungenani kuze kube neminyaka engu-27 ubudala, uqondiswa ezenzweni zakhe ikakhulukazi ngokuthi "kwenye indawo", hhayi ngenxa noma ngokuzizwa. Amantombazane ahlanjululwa kangcono, futhi ngokuyinhloko aqondiswa izizathu nemizwa. Ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kunamantombazane, ikakhulukazi asebekhulile, uthatha indima "mama" insizwa engakavuthi njengomuntu. Ukungaqiniseki komfana kanye nesidingo sokuba "soplevytiraniya" kumcasula kakhulu intombazane. Yebo, futhi umehluko ekuhlakanipheni ebuhlotsheni buyathinta.
- Ubuhlobo obunjalo nomfana ngokuqinisekile buyoba ngumphakathi. Akuyona ingozi ukuthi lo mshini ophuzi uxoxisana namanoveli ezinkanyezi ezinjalo. Futhi uma le ntombazane ingeyona inkanyezi, bonke abangane abawazi ukuthi ubudala kangakanani nesoka lakhe, abakwazi ukuxoxa kuphela ngobuhlobo babo, kodwa futhi bayalahla. Ikakhulukazi uma le ntombazane ishadile, inabantwana, ihlala edolobhaneni elincane noma emaphandleni, libukeka lincane kakhulu kuneminyaka yalo, libukeka kahle futhi ligqoka. Isizathu asikona nje kuphela umhawu, kodwa futhi nokuqonda kwendabuko ukuthi ubuhlobo kufanele buhlakulele kanjani. Ngezinye izikhathi intombazane inamahloni ukuvuma ukuthi kukhona umehluko eminyakeni: uhlale elalela imibono yabanye futhi uphatha kabi kakhulu izitatimende ezimbi. Angase azizwe ecindezelekile uma ecabanga ukuthi wenza okungalungile.
- Ukuthembela ngokwanele namandla okuxhumana. Ngokujwayelekile insizwa idonseleka kuyo yonke into entsha, okusho ukuthi angakwazi futhi ukukhaphela. Angasuka kumuntu ovuthiwe ngokwengeziwe kumfazi osemncane. Ayikho ukwesaba okuyimpikiswano: "Uma ushada noontanga ... emva kweminyaka emihlanu kuya ku-5 uzobaleka nganoma iyiphi indlela kunoma yimuphi u-maloleletochke .. lokhu kuyiqiniso lokuphila futhi akukho ndawo yokuphuma kulo ..."
Ngakho-ke, ubuhlobo nomfana obuncane kakhulu kunentombazane kunikeza ukuhlolwa okuhlukahlukene. Ekuthuthukiseni ubudlelwano kungathinta isimo sengqondo sengqondo, umbono womphakathi, ukuziphatha kwabalingani. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kuningi izitatimende ukuthi iminyaka ayiyona into esemqoka, bekuyoba khona uthando. Ngemuva kwalokho, uma abantu behlangana namantombazane amancane, kungani amantombazane kufanele ahlangane nabantu abasha kakhulu kunabo?
Ngaphezu kwalokho, iminyaka yepasipoti ayihambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nonyaka wengqondo. Ngezinye izikhathi umfana oneminyaka engama-18 engakhulumi iminyaka, ehlakaniphile, ethembekile, onentshisekelo, enakekelayo, eziphatha njengomuntu wangempela nentombazane endala ezwa ngemuva kwakhe njengodonga lwamatshe. Nikeza izibonelo lapho insizwa ifuna owesifazane oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala kuye. Ngesikhathi esifanayo wayengeyena u-alfonso futhi wagcina umndeni ngokwakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi ubudala obufanayo nentombazane bangaba "ingane".
Ngenye indlela, azikho izindlela zokupheka. Konke kuxhomeke esimweni esithile, abantu abathile. Yini ongayeluleka kulokhu? Vele ulalele imizwa yakho nemizwa yengxenye yesibili, uthando futhi ujabule.