Amadoda awabheki njengabesifazane abalingana nabo. Babenombono othobekile kakhulu ngabesifazane abasebenza nabo, ngakho bahlulelwa kuphela ngokubukeka kwabo. Yiqiniso, amadoda ayathulile ngokuqondene nabesifazane abahlinzeka ngomsebenzi wabo, okungukuthi, baphrinta, benze amaphepha nokunye okunjalo. Zisebenza nakwabesifazane abangaphansi kwesigaba sabo. Baye bacabange ngokubheka indima yomholi, futhi laba besifazane abaphikisana nabo. Ethimba lapho kunabesifazane abaningi, amadoda ayahambisana uma nje konke ukulawula kusezandleni zabo. Kodwa baqala ukuzizwa behlelekile emphakathini wabesifazane, abalingana nabo ekuthuthukiseni.
Njengamanje, abesifazane baqhubeka bekhuphisana namadoda emasimini abo. Bakholelwa ukuthi banamadoda ebhasini elifanayo, isibonelo, bazama ukuphakamisa inkokhelo yabo. Amadoda azama ukugwema abesifazane abanjalo kuze kube ngaphezulu. Ngenxa yalokhu, abesifazane bangaphumelela ukuba bakhululwe ngokubambisana. Yonke imininingwane ewusizo ivame ukuyifinyelela, ngoba amadoda ayidlulisela komunye nomunye.
Kodwa, ngaphezu kwakho konke, amadoda angasabela ngokuhlukumezeka kokuziphatha kabi kwabesifazane. Lokhu kungenzeka ngesimo sokukhwabanisa, ukusola noma ukuhleka. Okungajabulisi kakhulu ukuhleba kobulili. Ngokuvamile baxoxa ngendlela owesifazane oye waqhubeka ngayo emsebenzini wakhe - hhayi ngokukhathazeka kwengqondo yakhe, kodwa embhedeni. Ngakho uma owesifazane eqhubekela phambili ehhovisi lakhe ngokushesha, uba into yokuhleba.
Ngaphambi kokuphendula ukuhlasela okunjalo, qiniseka ukuthi umlingisi oyinhloko nguwe. Ngemuva kokutadisha uhlobo nobuntu bomphikisi wakho. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukubhekana nayo ngokushesha. Kungcono ukumphendula ngehlaya, ngoba kunciphisa kakhulu amandla okuhlasela.
Yebo, ungazama ukuthola okuthile ngosizo lwezinyembezi. Kodwa ukusebenzisa lolu qhinga owesifazane emsebenzini angakwazi kanye kuphela, kungenjalo uzobhekwa njengomuntu ongazi ukuthi angayithinte kanjani imizwelo yakhe.
Ukuze uvimbele ukuhlaselwa okunjalo, qiniseka ukuthi wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi kusengaphambili nokuthi yini oyifinyelele. Kodwa-ke, ungakhohlwa mayelana nokusekelwa kobudlelwane obuhle nabesilisa emsebenzini: kanye nomphathi kanye nozakwethu. Isibonelo, uma wonke umuntu eqembu lakho ethanda imidlalo, kufanele uqaphele ukuthuthukiswa kwamuva kule ndawo. Ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza ukuvula amadoda ukuze uthole usizo. Kodwa udinga ukuziphatha namadoda, njengongisebenza nabo nozakwethu, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa isikhundla somuntu obuthakathaka. Futhi ngokwezindleko zobuholi kufanele ucabange kusengaphambili. Isibonelo, uma kukhona abambalwa besifazane eqenjini lakho, kungani uyidinga?
Abesifazane abaningi babhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili kwamadoda. Izinhlobo zalo zokubonakaliswa zingahluka kakhulu: ziyi-anecdotes, amacebo, imizamo yokubamba, futhi empeleni, izama zokudlwengula. Lokhu kungalindelwa kusuka kozakwethu kanye nomphathi. Indoda elesi simo ayiqondiswa ukukhathazeka ngocansi, kodwa ngesifiso sakhe sokuba yinto esemqoka.
Abesifazane, njengombuso, banamahloni kakhulu ukuphikisa amadoda, abangafuni ukwenza umsindo. Kodwa uma indebe yokubekezela kwakhe izochichima, khona-ke ingakwazi ukwenza ngokungazi lutho ngokuziqhenya, ukuthatha imizwelo yakhe.
Indlela yokuziphatha esimweni esifanayo? Indlela elula yokuhlala iphephile ukuqala ukuvimbela yonke imizamo engenhla. Okokuqala, shintsha isihloko senkulumo. Noma kunjalo, uma izinkulumo ezinjalo zilula, kuzomele uphendule ngendlela efanayo, ngaphandle kokucasula umuntu. Ngokuvamile ukuziphatha kwamadoda kulesi simo kuvamile. Kodwa uma izinkulumo ezinjalo ziqhubeka, khona-ke usongela ukuthi ungabhalela isitatimende kumphathi wakho noma urekhode inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho kwi-dictaphone, ifilimu eyokuthola kamuva ummeli.