Baphinda ngokuphindaphindiwe le model. Kodwa nakakhulu, lapho befuna ukulungisa amaphutha endala ebuhlotsheni obusha.
Yini oyifunayo ekuphileni? Lona umbuzo wabazali ongunaphakade. Ngaso sonke isikhathi, abazali bakhononda ukuthi izingane zabo azifuni ukufunda. Obaba nabomama baphinda lo mbuzo ngokuphikelela okunomthelela futhi abafuni ukuqonda ukuthi izingane azifuni ukufunda. Ithenda yabazali ibonakala ngokucacile ukuthi ingane idinga ukuba nesithakazelo ekufundeni.
Abazali, abakhathazekile ngokungafuni ukufunda kwengane, bahlanganyela kakhulu ekufundiseni ingane yabo. Singasho ukuthi laba bazali bacishe bathathe indawo yengane yabo edeskini. Yenzani yona yonke imisebenzi, ilawule futhi imenzele i-backpack. Ingabe abazali abanjalo "abaphambukayo" bayoke bayeke bese bechazela ingane isidingo sokufunda?
Wonke umzali uyaqiniseka ukuthi imfundo enhle nemfundo ephumelelayo iyohlinzeka izingane zabo ngekusasa elimangalisayo. Abazali baqinisile. Kodwa kukhona ukuphazamiseka kwengqikithi. Ukuqeqeshwa okujulile, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa phansi nokugxeka abazali noma ukuthola isihloko "sokuhlonipha" se "botanist" kungenza iminyaka yesikole ibe isihogo sangempela. Akunakwenzeka ukufunda "ngaphansi kwenduku" nsuku zonke, esimweni esicindezelayo esingenakuthanda ukufunda.
Ekuqaleni, ingane izozama ukuqedela izifundo zayo ngokushesha, bese yonke impilo yakhe iyozonda inkolo, abazali nabafundisi abaphoqa ukuba afunde. Kuvela ukuthi umuntu angakwazi ukufeza imiphumela ephikisanayo ngokucindezela. Azange aqaphele ukuthi iningi lezingane alisho ngisho nepiyano ngemuva kokutadisha esikoleni somculo.
Namuhla, imfundo yanamuhla iyinkimbinkimbi futhi inzima. Lokhu "ukukhululeka" kungabonakala ngokukhulisa iphothifoliyo yomfundi. Ukwengeza lokhu izifiso ezingenakulinganiswa zabazali, izidingo ezidinga kakhulu othisha, njll. Ingane ibhekana nomsebenzi ongenangqondo - ukufeza izinhlelo ezingaphelelwanga zabazali bakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abazali abacabangi ngesikhashana ukuthi isifiso sabo singadlula amakhono abantwana babo. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bayesabeka uma bethola "injabulo" ukubuka ingane yabo, okwazile "ukuziqeda" ekulawuleni kwabazali okwesikhashana.
Abazali abaningi bayaqiniseka ukuthi ingane yabo iwubucayi futhi ifuna ukuhlukana nemisebenzi yabo. Yiqiniso, inkolelo enjalo ilungile. Nokho, akuzona zonke izingane ezicabanga ngendlela efanayo, empeleni iningi lazo lilungele ukufunda. Bangakwazi ukwenza kokubili ibhizinisi nokuzilibazisa, ngokuzihlanganisa ngokuhlakanipha. Izingane nazo ziphupha ngekusasa eliphumelelayo. Bayakwazi ukufunda kahle futhi bahlanganyele ngokweqile ebhizinisini. Ezimweni ezinjalo, umntwana akudingeki afunde ukuchaza, futhi uhlala nje ujabule. Singakufeza kanjani lokhu?
Okokuqala, abazali ngokwabo kufanele baqonde ukuthi konke futhi njalo akukwazi ukulawulwa hhayi konke okuhambisana nomthethonqubo. Uma abazali bekwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ukunqoba, ukungalingani nokuhlukunyezwa kwezingane akuwona kuphela impumelelo yabo namaphutha, kodwa futhi nezingane. Bangakwazi ukukuchazela lokhu izingane zabo. Kubalulekile ukunikeza ingane inkululeko ethile futhi imfundise ukuzihlanganisa. Ingane isabela ngokusheshisa kakhulu lapho inikezwa ukuzimela, uma imatasa ngecala elihlelwe nguye kanye nomphumela omuhle lithembele kuphela ukuthi angasakaza kanjani izenzo zakhe nesikhathi.
Kubonakala ukuthi abazali akufanele babhekane ngqo nombuzo, ukuthi bangachazela kanjani ingane isidingo sokufunda? Ngokuvamile ukukhathazeka okunjalo okukhathazayo kwengane yabo kuvela kumama abangasebenzi futhi baphile kuphela ngezinkinga zabantwana babo. Njengoba sinesikhathi esiningi samahhala, umama uqala "ukusiza" ukufunda ingane yakhe. Uqasha inqwaba yabafundisi, ubhala ingane kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezigaba namaqembu. Ukusuka ekuphileni okunjalo okukhulu ingane ibuye ibe buthakathaka futhi ingacabangi, futhi ngokuphendula, unina uqala ukuqinisa ukulawula. Kunalokho, umama kufanele afundise ingane indlela elula yokuzilawula. Izingane ezingenakuthola futhi ezivimbelayo ziba ngenxa yokuthi abazali banquma zonke izinto ngabo futhi bazenzele esikhundleni. Ukugcinwa kwabo akunawo imikhawulo. Ngisho nangaphambi kwesikole, abazali abawunikeli ingane ithuba lokuziveza futhi benze okuthile ngokwabo, futhi ngokungena esikoleni inkinga ibuhlungu kakhulu.
Izenzo zabo abazali baphindela izizathu ezinjengokuthi: "Ingane ayikwazi ukubhekana okufanayo! "Abazali abafuni ukubona ukuthi umthombo wazo zonke izinkinga akuyona ingane, kodwa kuzo. Umfundi wesikole ukhula, futhi kanye naye ukulawula kanye nokufunwa kwabadala kuqiniswa. Umntwana uqale wathonywa, bese esaba ukuthi kuzoba ngamagceke okuphindisela, bese uya ezijezisweni futhi uzenzele konke. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane ngokuvamile iyeka ukufunda. Isifiso sabazali futhi kuzokwenza ukuthi ingane ifune ukufunda.
Umsebenzi wabazali ukuqonda ingane nesimo sakhe, kungani ephikisana nokufunda. Beka ingane endaweni yengane, bese ucabanga ukuthi othile uhlale eqapha futhi ahlole ukuthi udle, uthatha okudingekayo, ushiye indlu, akhokhe izikweletu, uchaze nentombi, akazange akhohlwe imibhalo, njll. .? Konke lokhu kuzokwenzeka kuwe hhayi izikhathi, kodwa njalo. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyoba isikhathi esingakanani ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuhlubuka ngokuphepha okunjalo nokuzonda umphathi? !! !! Wonke lo mntwana ofanayo uzizwa ngokumelene nabazali. Manje ake ucabange ukuthi umntanakho uzama kanjani umzamo omkhulu wokumelana naye, ngisho nakakhulu kakhulu. Yebo, kuthatha amandla namandla amaningi kulokhu. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane iyancipha futhi ilahlekelwe isisusa sokufunda.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Awukwazi ukulawula ngokuphelele ingane? Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukunikeza inkululeko engaphelele yengane yesimanje kuyisinqumo esingenangqondo kunabo bonke abazali. Abazali kuzodingeka bakhethe amamaki amahle kakhulu esikoleni, noma ukwakheka kuwo izinga le-self-inhlangano, ukuzithiba kanye nokuzibusa. Abazali kufanele bafake enganeni ukunambitheka kokunqoba nokuphumelela. Umsebenzi omkhulu, kodwa akekho othembise abazali bakhe ukuphila okulula nokulula.