Kubonakala ngendlela ayibheka ngayo, bese ezama ukufihla amehlo akhe futhi abonakale engenandaba. Lokhu kungabonakala emisebenzini yakhe, lapho evele ngengozi noma ebonakalayo, ngokuklolodela, ethinta isandla sakhe. Lokhu kubonakala emqondweni wakhe olahlekile olahlekile, lapho owesifazane ephuma ezandleni zakhe. Eqinisweni, uma umuntu efuna ukusondelana nowesifazane, uhlale efuna ukuthola ukuzwelana nokuzwelana naye. I-Psychology kanye nokukhangwa komzimba kusenza sizame ukusondela kulabo abathanda kakhulu kithi. Indoda ingakwazi ukuyeka ukuyeka imizwa yakhe, ithi owesifazane uyamcasula, kodwa, izibonakaliso ezingekho ngomlomo zikhuluma ngokungafani. Isibonelo, lapho umuntu ethanda owesifazane, uzama ukuthatha indawo engekude naye. Kodwa ukuthi abanye abaqondi imizwa yakhe, uthatha indawo engekho eceleni kwayo, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuthi ubonakala. Indoda ifuna ukubheka umthandi wakhe. Lokhu akumangalisi, ngoba othandekayo uhlale ejabulisa iso. Kodwa, uma ubukela lo muntu, uzama ukufihla amehlo akhe, ukuze kungabikho muntu oqagele ngothando. Ngakho-ke, umfana ubheka njengokungathi uvela podsteshka, futhi uma othile emnaka, uzama ukubheka ngokushesha. Ngokuvamile, abantu abasha bacabanga ukuthi bangakwazi ukufihla imizwa yabo, kodwa namanje bayaziqhenya. Kubalulekile ukuba ube indoda enezinzwa zensimbi nokuvimbela ukuqapha imizwa yabo njalo. Amadoda amaningi angakwazi lokhu, ngenhlanhla, noma ngeshwa.
Uma unemibuzo enjalo, ke ufuna ukuqonda isimo sengqondo somfana othile kuwe noma kwenye intombazane. Ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene nezenzo zobuso, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinolwazi singakwazi ukucaca ngokushesha futhi ngokucacile imizwelo yomuntu, ngisho noma ebafihla ngokucophelela. Uma usola ukuthi uthandana nomuntu noma, ngokunye, owesifazane othile uthanda isoka lakho, qaphela indlela aziphatha ngayo enkampaninikazi. Lokhu akusho ukuthi insizwa izokwenza konke ukuze ikwazi ukunikeza izipho futhi iphoqe eceleni kwayo, kodwa, lokho akuwona umbono, uzozibonakalisa.
Okokuqala, qaphela ukuthi kaningi kangakanani angabheka intombazane emehlweni bese eveza le mibono noma yimiphi imizwelo. Abathandi bazama ukubheka kude, ngoba emehlweni abo imizwa yenjabulo ifundwa ngokucacile, lapho besabheka umuntu othandekayo. Uma umfana kanye nento ayeyibhekile ehamba emgwaqeni, uzama ukusondelana naye, kodwa angasondeli, akholelwa ukuthi uzoveza imizwa yakhe. Uma intombazane icela okuthile, le ndoda, ngokuvamile, yenza sengathi ayithandi kakhulu ukufeza isicelo, kodwa, noma kunjalo, konke kuyenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ulandela ngokulandela ukuziphatha kwamanye amadoda, okungabonakala kusukela ekuziphatheni okujulile nokubheka, kodwa uhlale ethule. Uma lo mfana eqaphela ukuthi intombazane ibonisa izimpawu zokunaka omunye, akayikuqonda ukucindezela futhi abukeke kude, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ubheka ngokucophelela, ngaphandle kokubheka amehlo akhe. Futhi, ungabona ukuthi uyabamba izintambo noma ahlaba amazinyo akhe. Kuzo zonke imibuzo, abantu abasha ezimweni ezinjalo, baphendule kuphela ngamahlaya noma bacele ukuthi bangakunaki, ngokuzenzekelayo bezenza sengathi konke kuhle. Mhlawumbe, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuleso simo, umuntu unikeza isifiso sokunganaki. Uzama kanzima ukuba adlale indima yakhe, ngakho izenzo zakhe zibukeka zingavamile. Yiqiniso, kungabonwa yibo abazi kahle noma abalindile ngokucophelela.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, abantu abasha abakaze babizelwe ukuba babone amantombazane, kodwa bazama njalo ukulinganisa lesi simo ukuze kutholakale le ndima. Yiqiniso, le ndoda ayithathi le ndoda ngesandla futhi ayikhulumi naye nganoma yisiphi into esondelene nayo. Uzama ukuziphatha ngenjabulo noma ngokungenandaba, ezenza sengathi ufuna ukubuyela enkampanini ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Kunzima ngokwanele ukusola imizwa, kodwa kungenzeka, isibonelo, ngengozi, okuphakamisa ukuthi uhambe kancane isikhathi eside. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzovuma ngaphandle komdlandla, kodwa uzohlala nale ntombazane ngendlela ayifunayo futhi angeke abonise igama noma isenzo ukuthi unesifiso esincane kakhulu sokushiya. Amadoda awanamandla ngokomzwelo njengoba ezama ukubonakala. Ngokuphambene nalokho, abafana banamandla kakhulu kunamantombazane. Abazi ukuthi bangalwisana kanjani nemizwelo yabo eduze nento yokububula, okungenani ngenkathi intombazane ibuza okuthile noma inikeza okuthile. Ngesikhathi eside, abafana bangakhuluma ngenzondo ejulile abazizwa ngayo le nkosikazi, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo, lapho bezithola bodwa komunye nomunye, kukhuluma ngokuphambene nalokho. Kungukungahambisani nokuziphatha komuntu ukuthi kulula ukuqagela mayelana nemizwa yakhe yeqiniso, yeqiniso.
Yingakho, uma indoda ifuna ukusondelana nowesifazane, kufanelekile ukubheka konke akushoyo nokwenzayo. Ngisho namagama nemisho ebizwa yile nsizwa ingamkhaphela. Iqiniso liwukuthi umfana uzama ngokungazi kahle intombazane. Uziphatha ukuze aqonde ezinye zekhwalithi yayo. Ngisho noma i-swagger, kodwa le nsizwa iyibheka njengokwakhe, uzoyikhandla ngokuyikhandla.
Ukufihla uthando, empeleni, ubuhlungu kakhulu futhi bunzima. Yingakho, ngisho nalapho besesimweni sowesifazane abathandayo, ngokuvamile abantu baziphatha kabi futhi bekhathazekile. Kusho nje ukuthi imizwa ifinyelela umkhawulo ongaphezulu futhi ngeke ukwazi ukubhekana nabo. Lokhu kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi abanye bangase bacabange ukuthi insizwa iphathe intombazane engathandeki kakhulu. Empeleni, cishe uyazonda, kodwa hhayi yena, kodwa yena ngokwakhe. Futhi ake athi futhi asungula konke okufika emqondweni wakhe kuphela, imizwa yangempela ingasetshenziswa njalo emibonweni nasezenzweni, kulezo zemizwelo ehamba ebusweni bakhe. Uma indoda ifuna ukusondelana nowesifazane, khona-ke uyayidinga ngempela.