Kukholelwa ukuthi ukudlala ngothando kuyindlela yokuxoxisana, kusukela ngesikhathi sokuheha umuntu wobulili obuhlukile. Ukukhangiswa kokunakekelwa kwenzeka ngenxa yesenzo esithile, isibonakaliso sobuso, ukunyakaza, okuyaziwa kakhulu kwengqondo njengelulwimi lomzimba. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuletha imiphumela eminingi kunezingxoxo ezilula.
Ngakho-ke, ake sihlaziye lezi zindlela ngokuningiliziwe.
Ngakho intombazane idonsela kanjani insizwa?
Okokuqala, udinga ukuzichaza ngokucacile ukuthi yiliphi uhlobo lamadoda entombazane elikhangayo kakhulu. Kudingeka bagxilise amehlo abo kanye nemizamo yabo. Udinga ukuziqonda ngokucacile lokho okumheha kakhulu: ukubukeka noma umhlaba wakhe wangaphakathi. Ngokuvamile amantombazane, njengamadoda ngokwawo, abheka kuphela izici zangaphandle, ekhohlwa ngomphefumulo womuntu kanye namagugu akhe. Futhi lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, umuntu akufanele abheke kuphela izibonakaliso zangaphandle, ngoba amadoda angempela avame ukufihliwe hhayi ngaphansi kwe-mask ephathekayo. Njengoba bethi, indoda kufanele ibe mnhle kakhulu kunemonkey. Kodwa-ke akudingeki ukuba udlulele futhi ubheke kahle lokho. Ngamane nje, abesifazane abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi uma bezwela lo muntu, cishe uzochitha impilo yakhe ngokukhetha eyodwa. Nakuba zikhona njalo ngaphandle. Ukuze uthole incazelo enhle yohlu lomuntu, izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuthi uthathe iphepha bese urekhoda kuwo izimfanelo zesilisa, ezahlukana nazo zibe ngamaqembu amathathu. Iqembu lokuqala kufanele libe nalezi zimfanelo owesifazane angenakuzenza ngaphandle, okwesibili yizimfanelo ezifiselekayo, kanti okwesithathu kuyamukeleka ... Izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuba zibheke njalo kulolu hlu lapho ozobhapathizwa ngesandla nasenhliziyweni ebonakala empilweni yakho.
Okwesibili, kuyadingeka ukuthi uqondane nomuntu, bese nje uzama ukuheha insizwa. Akudingeki ukuthi usho njalo ukuthi uyigugu, sekuyisikhathi sokunciphisa isisindo futhi isikhumba sinamahloni .... ngakho ngeke umnake. Ukuheha umuntu osemusha, akudingeki ukuba anamathele esidlule, azizwele noma abe namahloni ngento ethile. Kubalulekile ukukholelwa ukuthi empilweni yakho ngokuqinisekile kuyoba umuntu oyokulandela kuwo wonke amaqembu avela kuhlu. Futhi kukhona, kholwa mina. Ngokuvamile, inkinga yukuthi asikwazi ukubeka phambili phambili futhi asibheki abantu abafika endleleni yethu. Shayela yonke imicabango emibi nemicabango. Lena umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko wokuheha umuntu omusha. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele ufake iphepha elilodwa emicabangweni yonke embi, bese uphonsa emlilweni, njengokungathi ukhuluma nabo. Lokhu kuzokuvuselela, ngoba ngesikhathi sokukhulumisana nomuntu akunakuxolelwa ukuba udabuke futhi udangele. Zijabulise futhi ukhululeke. Lo ngumsizi omkhulu ekuheha abantu.
Okwesithathu, khumbula ukuthi ukuzethemba okuphansi kuyisitha sakho, okuvimbela intombazane ukuba ingamnaki umuntu osemusha, imqhube ... Ukuzinza kubangela ukwesaba, ukwesaba ukulahlwa, futhi ngeke kuholele kunoma yini enhle! Uma umngane wakho omusha engaya kumuntu oxhumana naye, akusho ukuthi ubi noma uyesabeka, cha, awukho nje ekuthandeni kwakhe. Ngempela, akubona bonke abantu abonakala bekhanga kuwe. Ngakho kungani uzibeka icala? Yiba wena futhi insizwa yakho izokuza kuwe. Qhubeka usesho. Thatha izingozi futhi ungesabi!
Emva kwakho konke okushiwo ngenhla, ungashiya indawo yakho yokukhosela uphinde uhambe ucwaninga ukuthi u-betrothed wakho. Kungaba yimuphi indawo, kusukela emgwaqweni kuya kunoma imuphi umcimbi. Kuwusizo kuzo zonke izimo ukuya emaceleni ezemidlalo, lapho ngokuvamile kungenabo abantu khona. Vakashela kaningi futhi uvakashele amaqembu. Vumela abangani bakho bazi ukuthi manje usukhululekile futhi ulungele imihlangano emisha. Futhi mhlawumbe banokukhetha?
Okwesine, zibonakale, zihlale ziphakathi kwekamelo. Kodwa khumbula umthetho wegolide wokudlala ngothando - ukubukeka okuhle kakhulu.
Abesilisa abavumi ukuvuma, futhi abesifazane abazi ukuthi bakhangwa iphunga eliqondile labesifazane, abaya kulo, njengamantombazane ashizi. Futhi ukumomotheka. O, yebo! Khumbula iqiniso elilodwa: ukumamatheka kwakho kusebenza izimangaliso. Smile kaningi futhi umhlaba uzomomotheka ngawe.