Indlela yokufakazela umfana ukuthi usekulungele ubuhlobo obunzima

Ukuhlala njalo kwezindawo zokuphola kungaqaphela ukuthi abesifazane kaningi emibhalweni yezinkomba babonisa iphuzu elithi "ngifuna umfana ocansini izikhathi ezingu-1-2." Le nto ekusesheni okuvame ukuqashwa amadoda, abesifazane futhi bazame ukujabulisa, ukulungisa izicelo zabo.

Eqinisweni, umphakathi wethu awunjalo ngentando yeningi. Bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bavame ukufuna ubuhlobo obunzima futhi obuhlala njalo. Ngaphandle kokungavamile, azikwazi ukungena enkulumweni yesimanje. Futhi nakuba kunezinhlukaniso eziningi njalo ngonyaka, futhi kunemishado embalwa, bambalwa abahlose ubulili besikhathi esisodwa.

Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukungabi nakakhulu ukutholakala, ukuzimela nobugovu. Ngokushesha uzohlangana nomngane wakho womshado, futhi ngokubambisana ngokungadingekile, ngeke uqaphele ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokufakazela lo mfana ukungathí sina kwezinhloso zakho.

Ake sicabangele amanye amaphuzu aphathelene nendaba, indlela yokufakazela kumfana ukuthi usekulungele ubuhlobo obunzima.

Isikhathi sabangane

Ungabi nesibindi futhi uthi ufuna nje umuntu ongena naye emcimbini noma abe nobulili. Nakuba manje sekuyifashini, ngeke ikulethe imizwa emihle. Amadoda ayethembeki kwabesifazane abafinyeleleka kakhulu futhi abazimele. Ngokuvamile bayaqiniseka ukuthi izifebe kuphela ezingalala futhi zikhohlwe ngomuntu. Kodwa-ke, izinhloso ezinkulu zokumemezela ekuqaleni akufanelekile - ungasabisa umfakisicelo ukuba abe nobuhlobo nawe.

Yini ongayisho mayelana nokuzilibazisa

Ungathanda amaqembu amnandi, ama-nightclub nama-discos. Kodwa nje ungafaki lezi zithakazelo. Akuyona imfihlo abantu abaya kuyo kumaqembu anjalo ukuthola abantu abasha. Futhi noma ngabe ujabulela umculo kuphela, ukudansa nokukhulumisana okujabulisayo, ama-stereotypes abesilisa asebenza ngokumelene nawe. Ngokuvamile, uma ufuna ukuqinisekisa indoda ukuthi ilungele ubuhlobo iminyaka eminingi noma ngisho nezinyanga, ungasheshi ukumtshela ukuthi uyathanda ukulenga.

Indlela yokubhekana nalokho "okwakunjalo"

Ngesinye isikhathi abesifazane bayaphumelela ngesifiso sabo sokufakazela ukuthandwa kwabo bobulili obuhlukile. Bacabanga ukuthi zibuhle obubulalayo, obukwazi ukuphula izinhliziyo. Umuntu uyakuqonda lokhu ngokuhlukile. Ucabanga ukuthi uma owesifazane ejwayele ukushintsha abalingani futhi eqinisekisa lokhu, uvele eqoqa ukunqoba. U-Willy noma ngokungenandaba naye, uqala ukwesaba, uhawukele ekuqaleni futhi akhathazeke ngokuthi intombi yakhe ayilungele ubuhlobo obungathí sina. Futhi ngisho noma echaza inkululeko yobuhlobo ngamazwi, uzohlale ekhanda ekhanda lakhe ukuthi ngeke abe nawe isikhathi eside, ngoba akafuni noma ngeke alwe namncintiswaneni amaningi angamanga noma angempela.

Ukukhombisa ukuvuthwa

Ukungabonakali kanye ne-whims kufanele kuphonswe kudoti elikude letafula, futhi wenze ukubheja ekuvuthweni. Inguqulo elula yempendulo yombuzo wokuthi ungabonisa kanjani ukuthi ulungele ubuhlobo obungathí sina yikhono lokuba umuntu omdala. Lokhu kusho ukukwazi ukufaka izici ezinengqondo futhi ezinengqondo ebuhlotsheni, ikhono lokucabanga ngokucabangelayo, isifiso nethuba lokuthatha umthwalo wezinqumo ezithile, ikhono lokugcina izwi lakho. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kumnandi futhi isifiso sokukhohlisa nxazonke kufanele usuke empilweni yakho - hhayi neze. Ngesinye isikhathi esibalulekile futhi esibucayi umuntu kufanele akwazi ukukhombisa ukuvuthwa, wenze izinqumo ezinolwazi. Futhi into esemqoka ukumbonisa yona.

Sebenza ebuhlotsheni

Ngenxa yokuthi ulwazi lwengqondo selufinyeleleka kakhulu eminyakeni yamuva, ngisho namadoda ahlukumezeka kwengqondo ayazi ukuthi ubudlelwano obukhulu kumele bukwazi ukusebenza. Kusho - ukukwazi ukunqoba ukungqubuzana nokungavumelani, ikhono lokukhuluma ngaphandle kokwesaba izinkinga ezikhulayo, isifiso sokuqonda umlingani, ukwabelana naye ngezintshisekelo zakhe nokuzilibazisa. Ungagqoki isisindo somuntu owaziwayo, kanye nomfanekiso wesifazane ohlala edingwa ukunakekela nokusekelwa - lokhu kungacasula. Zama ukuvumela lowo muntu ukuthi ulungele ukusebenza kuwe, phezu kobudlelwane, ukhulume naye mayelana nezinkinga, ukulungele ukukhuthazelela izinkinga nokuthuthukisa.

Ubulili nobuhlobo obukhulu

Isendlalelo esikhulu sezindaba ezikhathazayo besifazane, sikhathalela isikhathi esihle sokuqala impilo ebuseduze. Abanye bayaqiniseka ukuthi sivumela ucansi ngosuku lokuqala. Abanye bazimisele ukulinda isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokumanga kokuqala, kuze kube yilapho kukhona ukusondelana okungokomoya. Ngeke kube nempendulo engafanele. Kuyafaneleka ukuzama "ukuzwa" isimo sakhe sengqondo kulokhu. Kukhona okukodwa "kodwa": amadoda empeleni ayenamandla kakhulu kunokuthi asibonise. Bakhela ngokwabo ama-daredevils nabakhululekile abaqiniseka ukuthi akufanelekile ukulibazisa ucansi ngokuqala kobudlelwane obusha. Kodwa nokho akufanele unqotshwe yi-charm yalesi mdlalo, ngoba umdlalo, hhayi ngokoqobo. Amadoda amaningi ase-prettyque squeamish futhi asolisa abesifazane abafinyeleleka kakhulu nabangaphezu kwamandla. Noma kunjalo, akusizi ukubambezeleka ngesikhathi sokuqala kocansi bokuqala, noma ngaphezulu.

Ngaphezu kwazo zonke lezi zincomo jikelele, kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi wonke umuntu uyedwa. Unezinkolelo zakhe, imibono yakhe ngokuthi owesifazane uziphatha kanjani, ehlose ubuhlobo obude. Ngakho-ke isikhundla sokunqoba kunoma yikuphi ukukhuluma kancane, lalela kabanzi ekuqaleni kweveli. Le nqubo kulula ukuyisebenzisa: amadoda afisa ukukhuluma ngabo, imibono yabo empilweni, ayithandayo uma alalele ngokucophelela futhi enesithakazelo. Akukho lutho oluyinkimbinkimbi noma olungavamile kulokho ukuba "ahlole" kancane, aqonde lokho akudingayo, lokho akufunayo, ukuthi yini ayesabayo, yiziphi izinbandlululo aziphethe. Emva kwalokho, ungavula kancane, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi ungazithengi. Okusho ukuthi, ungadlala, ubuyekeze - awufanele. I-mask of charm, esiyigqoka ekuqaleni kweveli, ekugcineni izodlula phansi, futhi ingakwazi ukuhlala emgodini ophukile. Noma kunjalo, labo abaqala ukukhuluma kancane futhi balalele kabanzi, banenzuzo enkulu phezu kwamabhokisi okuxoxa nge-narcissistic. Bangakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ngabe lona ungumuntu okufanele afakazele ukungathí sina kwezinhloso ngisho nangaphambi kokuba lolu daba lube lufanele ebuhlotsheni.