Kuyafaneleka ukuba silungele ukuthi izihlobo zomyeni zizoqala ukuveza umbono wazo mayelana nezindlela zokukhulisa umzukulu wazo ekuqaleni noma ngasekupheleni, futhi noma yikuphi ukwaziswa okungase kube ngaphansi kokugxekwa: amathoyizi, ukudla okudla, izincwadi, isikhathi sokulala. Ezimweni eziningi, ukusabela ekugxeka kungokwehlisa futhi kunzima, kodwa kungaletha, okuqondakalayo, okulimazayo kunesizathu. Kunezinyathelo eziningana ezizosiza ukuphuma kule simo ngesithunzi.
Iqhinga lokuqala: ungagxeki inani
Enye yezindlela ezingcono zokulondoloza ukuthula emndenini nje ukungazinaki ukugxekwa. Kulesi simo, ukusabela kwakho okujwayelekile ekugxeka kufanele kube ukumamatheka okunobungane, esikhundleni sokuthukuthela noma ukuhlazeka. Bomomotheka futhi uthi izeluleko zabo zibalulekile, kodwa ngeke uzisebenzise kuze kube yilapho uxoxisana nodokotela wezingane. Emva kwalokho, shintsha isihloko ukuze uthathe ingxoxo esiteshini esiphephile. Akukho mqondo ukuzama ukukholisa izihlobo zomyeni ukuthi uqinisile - lokhu kuvame ukungena lutho, ngoba wonke umuntu uzohlala embonweni wabo, noma yikuphi ukuphikisana okunikezwayo.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, khumbula ukuthi akuwona lonke ulwazi oludluliselwa ngomlomo, olubonwa yi-interlocutor. Buka ukunyakaza kwakho, isibonakaliso sobuso nesenzo - akufanele neze ngendlela ebonisa ukufutheka noma ukunganeliseki. Kungaba iphutha elikhulu ukuphishekela izindebe zakho ngokugcoba noma ukuphazamiseka kwamehlo. Phatha abazali bomyeni wakho ngokuqonda, ngoba ungumkhulu nogogo wengane yakho futhi ufuna nje ukuthi ulungile.
Indlela yesibili: ngenkani ngenhlonipho
Uma ujwayele ukuphikisana nawo wonke umuntu futhi ungalokothi uzifihle umbono wakho, ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzovele uthule ekuphenduleni ukugxekwa. Yiba nesaba. Eqinisweni, imibono ayibalulekile kakhulu, njengalolu hlobo lwakhiwe. Zama ukungabikho kude nentukuthelo evela emabhulabhini, kodwa ukuphendula ngenhlonipho nokucabangela. Kuyacaca ukuthi iningi labesifazane eligxeka izindlela zabo zokukhulisa izingane kubonakala ngokuzondwa, kodwa khumbula ukuthi umamazana omane uzizwa sengathi uhileleka ezindabeni zomndeni futhi ewusizo. Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi ekuphenduleni ufuna ukwenza iphutha?
Bonga ngokuzithoba iseluleko esihlakaniphile nesithakazelo esibonisiwe, bese uthi kufanele udinga ngokwakho, ngakho uzothembela ekuhlangeneni kwakho. Ngakho unganelisa isidingo sakho sokukhuluma, kodwa ungenzi umama wakho isitha sakho.
Isinyathelo sesithathu: ukuthola isisombululo sokwenza lokho
Kwezinye izimo, ukubukeka okusha okuvela ngaphandle kungasiza ukubheka isimo kusuka ekhoneni elisha. Ngisho noma usuvele uhlanganyele emncintiswaneni, zama ukuyeka futhi ucabange ukuthi kukhona yini iziphakamiso eziwusizo emabhandlwini ahlongozwayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kuzosiza ukuthola umqondo ovamile kubo futhi unike ithuba lokubuyisela ingxoxo emsebenzini owakhiwe.
Ikhono lesine: cela umyeni wakho ukuthi akusekele
Uma uqonda ukuthi awukwazi neze ukulalela ukugxekwa ngezindlela zakho zemfundo, khona-ke ungazama ukungaphenduli ngokuqondile kumamazala wakho. Phuma emphenduleni bese uxhumane nomyeni wakho. Ngaphandle kokumangalela nokuthuka, mtshele ukuthi ucabangani ngeseluleko esingathandeki sezihlobo zakhe bese umcela ukuba abe umlamuleli kwingxoxo elandelayo ngenhloso yokwehlisa ukuze amagama akho abonakale njengesizathu sokusola noma ukuhlambalaza.
Okokugcina, uhlale unethuba lokuzenza sengathi uzolandela iseluleko futhi uqhubeke wenze ngendlela oyidingayo. Akekho ongakuphoqa ukuba wenze noma yini. Ungumama, futhi nguwe kuphela onquma ukuthi kufanele ufundise kanjani ingane yakho nokuthi yisiphi iseluleko ekukhuliseni okufanele ulalele futhi yiziphi ongazinaki.