Ngeshwa, izikhulu ezinamahhashi amhlophe esikhathini eside esidlule zigibele endaweni ethile. Ngakho-ke, thina, besifazane banamuhla, kufanele sithande abayeni babo, kanye nazo zonke iziphambeko zabo. Kodwa yini okufanele uyenze uma, ngokwesibonelo, ithempipthi endlini yokugezela isuke igeleza inyanga manje, kodwa ingabe umthandi wakho oyithandayo akayiqapheli? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuthi izinyoka nabesifazane banezinto ezifanayo - ukuhlakanipha. Njengoba ixhunywe ekuhlakanipheni i-charm, lo wesifazane uyakwazi ukuguquka ukusuka emadodeni.
Isimo 1
Amandla ethu alele ebuthakathakeni bethu
Ngakho-ke, ake siqale ngompompi. Esikhundleni semini nobusuku ukukhumbuza umyeni wakhe ukuthi uyadonsa (ithopini, okungukuthi), ungadlala ikhanda kanye nezwi ngezwi elibuthakathaka tshela umyeni wakho ngephupho ukuthi uhlushwa ngamanzi awela emcongweni.
Noma kunjalo, ukusikisela okunjalo okufihlakeleyo kumakhelwane kungase kungabi. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile uzohlangana nomthandi wakhe ngesithombe esithinta inhliziyo sentombazane edidekile ngesigxobo esandleni sakhe, ubuso bakhe bugcwele ithemba: "Ngangifuna ukulungisa, kodwa akuzange kwenzeke kimi ..." Kubalulekile ukuhlakaza indlu yokugezela engenamsebenzi kanye nendawo ehlangene iqoqo lamathuluzi, kufaka phakathi i-saw ne-soldering iron. Ngesikhathi esematasa ngephepheni, kuyadingeka ukuba ulandele izenzo zakhe ngokubonga okungaqondakali futhi abuze imibuzo efana nalezi: "Ngakho lezi ziqhwaga ziyizingulube, yebo?" Konke kusihlwa kusihlwa kudlula ngaphansi kwesibonakaliso samandla akhe.
Isimo 2
Amazwi omlingo
Le ndlela ifana nalokhu esetshenziselwa izazi ze-psychotherapists, ngokusizwa ngamazwi angabonakali, abakwazi ukucwilisa iziguli ezingenakuzizwa zibe yi-trance. Ukuze unobtrusively umxhwele umbono wakho ozithandayo wesimo, imibuzo yempendulo-ndlela iyinto enhle kakhulu:
"Ukudumisa, kodwa i-kettle isivele ibilisiwe?" Noma izitatimende ezifihliwe: "Uke waphawula ukuthi unobhala wakho ugqoke kanjani ukunambitheka okungalungile?" Igama elithi "OR" ngokuvamile alihleleki. Isibonelo, ungabuza: "Sizofika nini e-bazaar ngoMgqibelo noma ngeSonto?" Njengomthetho, umbuzo othi "Ngifanele ngihambe nhlobo?" Akusekho yini okushiwo.
Isimo 3
Mayelana nokuzuzwa kokuncenga
Ngubani othi owesifazane kuphela othanda izindlebe? Eqinisweni, amadoda awanandaba nokuncoma. Into esemqoka ukukhetha isithunzi esinzima ukuyihlola ngokucacile. Isibonelo, uma umuntu ethi unezwi elimangalisayo elimnandi lezwi, kunzima ukuyihlola, kodwa imizwa yakhe iphakama, futhi lokhu kuyisizinda esihle sokukhuluma ngokuthenga umshini wokuhlanza omusha. Into eyinhloko lapha akumele ikwazi ukudlula. Isibonelo, akufanele utshele indoda e-bald ukuthi unekhanda lokuqala.
Indlela eqinisekisiwe yokudumisa umuntu phambi kwabantu abathintekayo: "Uyazi, ucabangisisa kakhulu, ingaba nezimbali ngaphandle kwesizathu sokunikeza" noma "Uhlangana kahle nezingane, angikwazi ukukwenza." NgeSonto, lapho eqhuba izingane ukuya e-zoo, ungakwazi ukulala ngokulala embhedeni nombolo yombumbulu.
Isimo 4
Sithatha ukwesaba
I-avarice yamadoda yokuncoma ingenye yezingqikithi eziyinhloko zezingxoxo zethu. Kukhona njalo okukhulumayo ngento ethile, ngoba ngokuvamile isimo sikhula njengokungathi ku-anecdote. Ukuze uzicabange yena, unesifiso sokugqoka i-mask igesi. "Usukhipha amashiya akho?" Uphendula. Kukhona umqondo omkhulu. Ukuqhathanisa izinwele zakhe eside, engazange azijabulise isikhathi eside, umuntu kufanele abe nokungabaza: "Ingabe kunqunywa, noma yini?" Ayikho amandla okuma lezinwele. Futhi mhlawumbe ungazivuselela? "Ungacabanga futhi ngomsebenzi weplastiki ukuze unciphise ama-lens noma ama-lens othintana nombala:" Bathi manje amehlo asundu asemfashini ... "
Ukuziphatha kuzo zonke izimo ezingenzeka, Yebo, ayikwazi ukuchazwa. Kodwa umgomo oyinhloko wezinye izikhathi zokuxhumana nengxenye yakho eyigugu, cishe usuvele uqonde. Into eyinhloko isicupho esibekwa ngokuhlakanipha.
Isiphetho somshado sinqunywe ekuqaleni
Isiphetho somshado singacaciswa ngokunembile eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwayo. Lesi siphetho senziwa abacwaningi baseMelika, ukulandelela, kungakapheli iminyaka engu-20, imibhangqwana engu-156.
Kwakukhona ukuthi iningi lamathemba omshado ophumelelayo futhi ohlala njalo ungatholakala kulabo abaye bakwazi ukugcina isimo sengqondo esihle kumlingani phakathi neminyaka emibili yokuqala yokuphila. Labo abahlukanisa ngemva kweminyaka eyisikhombisa bomshado babezithandwa kakhulu lapho kuqala impilo entsha. Kodwa iphupho elimnandi lalingakafiki isikhathi eside: ukuhlukana nezinkolelo ezithatha kuphela iminyaka yokuhlala ndawonye. Le "dynamics of relationships" ibonisa amathuba okuhlukanisa ngemva kweminyaka eminingana yomshado.