Akungabazeki ukuthi noma ngubani wabazali angathanda ukuthi ingane yakhe ihambe izingubo ezingcolile, isakaze izinto noma kuphi bese ishiya izitsha ngemuva kwayo emanzini. Kodwa futhi i-nerd "iron" engayidlala nabafana, ukuthi, uNkulunkulu makwenqabe, hhayi ukukhwabanisa ihembe, hhayi ukukhetha. Uphi iholide yegolide? Indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuyala nokuyala? Futhi into eyinhloko akumele ibenze ngaphezulu ...?
Okokuqala, ake sithole ukuthi kungani sidinga ukufundisa izingane zethu ukuthi yini? Ekugcineni, bonke abantu bahlukile, kunezikhala ezigcwele, bahlala, banelisekile ngokwabo. "Futhi akekho!" - izazi ze-psychologists zithi. Kunezizathu ezimbalwa izizathu zokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukujwayela ingane ngokuchaneka. Okokuqala, UMTHETHO WOKUTHUTHUKISA. Ukucabanga kwengane kuhlelwe ngendlela yokuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwayo kwenzeka ngokuyala konke okubonayo. Uma ehlala ebona ukungezwani phambi kwakhe, ukuthuthukiswa kwakhe kuyashesha. Okwesibili, kufanele ufunde ukuhlala nabantu. Ngesikhathi sokuphila kwakho, ingane yakho kuzodingeka ibhekane nezikhathi eziningi ezimweni lapho kudingeka khona ukuba uhlangane nabanye abantu. Ukuze ukungacabangi ukuthi ungavimbeli ingane yakho ekwakheni ubuhlobo nabo, kubalulekile ukuhlela impilo yomndeni wakho ngendlela efanele. Izazi zengqondo zikhomba izimiso eziningana okumelwe zilandelwe ukuze wonke umndeni ufunde imithetho yehostele.
IMGOMO 1: Phila futhi uvumele uphile
Imithetho ilula: uma uthathe into - uyibuyisele endaweni, uma uvula into - vala it, futhi uma ikhona
indlu umuntu olala - angenzi umsindo ... Kusukela ebuntwaneni, kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuba izinakekele.
ISINQUBO 2: Imizwa emihle kuphela
Ungalokothi ujezise ingane ngokungabi nesifiso esinamandla kakhulu sokuhlanza. Kungaba yinto ephathekayo uma ethanda ukuhlunga phansi noma ukugeza izitsha.
Ungamphoqeleli ingane ukuba ihlanze, kufanele ivule lokhu: "Ngiyahlanza, ngoba ngiyayithanda uma ihlanzekile."
Woza ngezimo ezahlukene zokuhlanza amathoyizi (isibonelo, amathoyizi athambile athunyelwa "kwenye iplanethi" - ebhokisini).
Hlela imincintiswano (ngubani obeka amathoyizi ebhokisini ngokushesha).
UNGAKHULULELE UKUTHUTHUKISA. Noma yimuphi ingane iyasebenza kusuka emvelweni: iqukethe isimo sokulingisa abantu abadala. Yingakho esheshayo ukusisiza noma ukukopisha izenzo zethu. Uma ngaleso sikhathi ezwa ukuthi "Ungakwenyuka!", "Usengumuntu omncane" noma "Ngeke uphumelele", lokhu kuzomiswa empandeni. Khona-ke uyamangala: kungani evilapha kangaka? Ngoba kwakudingeka ukuthi uthathe umzuzwana ngaphambili, lapho ekunika usizo lwakhe olungenakuqhathaniswa.
UMTHETHO 3: Konke kudinga ukuchazwa
Akufanele nje unike ingane isibonelo esihle sokubhekana nezinto, kodwa futhi uchaze ukuthi kungani ukwenza. Khona-ke ingane izogcina ilungiselelo hhayi ngokusebenza, kodwa ngokucophelela.
• Tshela ingane ngothuli: kuyingozi (emathangeni aphilayo adala izifo).
• Chaza ukuthi kungani kufanele ubeke izinto endaweni yazo: ngoba ngaphandle kwalokho ungakatholi ngesikhathi esifanele.
• Kungani kufanele sigcine yonke into esesimweni esifanayo njengoba yayiyi (vala iminyango, ungaphumi ukuvula i-tube of toothpaste)? Ngoba omunye umuntu ufuna nokusebenzisa lokhu, futhi angase angakhululeki.
ISIGABA 4: Ukugcina ukuhlelwa kufanele kube lula
Yiqiniso, akudingeki ukuthi umuntu ahlukanise ngokungadingekile inqubo yokwakha ikhaya nokuhlanzeka komzimba: izinto ziyisimiso futhi akudingekile ukubeka ukuphila kwazo. Ngakho-ke, kuzomele uzame ukuqinisekisa ukuthi le nxenye edingekayo yokuphila ikhona empilweni yakho okungenani. Namuhla, ngenhlanhla, kunezindlela eziningi zalokhu. Faka indlu yakho ukuze ukuyigcina ngendlela elula futhi kumnandi:
• Ungasebenzisi izembozo kanye nokuqeda ukuthi uqoqa uthuli (amathipiti, amathipiti, izigqoko);
• Gcina izinto ezincane ezigciniwe noma ezigciniwe zamagesi;
• Susa izakhiwo ezizungezile ezidinga ukusulwa njalo ngothuli;
• thola okuningi amabhokisi neziqukathi zezinto ezincane;
• Ungagcini zonke amathoyizi ezingane ebusweni: ezinye zazo kufanele zifihlwe emashalofini angaphezulu, futhi uma ingane isivele ibakhohliwe, shintsha "ukuvezwa";
• endlini yokugezela, faka iziqukathi eziningana zokuhlanza izingubo ezingcolile: ezimhlophe, ezimnyama nezinemibala - futhi uchaze kuwo wonke amakhaya lapho ungayifaka khona (ngokushesha ufundise ingane ukuba ishintshe ama-panties, amasokisi, nezinye izingubo nsuku zonke uma kuba iphunga elimnandi) .
UMTHETHO 5: Ungasheshi
Isifiso sokuhleleka, njengoba sibonakale esemncane, sibhekana nazo zonke izinhlobo zenguquko kanye nemetramorphoses. Ngokuvamile izingane njengoba zikhulela ngaphandle kwe-chistyul ziphenduke zibe ama-sluts noma ngokufanayo. Lokhu kungathonywa yizici ezihlukahlukene zengqondo. Kodwa lokho kusho okunye okulandelayo: isidingo sokuhlanzeka nokuhleleka kuvela kumuntu kunokuba sekwephuzile - ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa okuphelele komuntu (cishe iminyaka engu-25). Ngakho-ke, uma ingane yakho ngokuzumayo ("Akucaci ukuthi kuphi - sihlanzekile"), azikho imikhuba emihle kakhulu, ungethuki futhi ushaya zonke izinsimbi. Ngokusobala, uma esemncane ingane ibeke imithetho enempilo yokuhlanzeka nokuchithwa, ke, ukuba umuntu omdala, uzobuya kubo. Yonke into inesikhathi sayo. Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu udinga "ukuphuma" esikhathini esiyinkimbinkimbi: ngokuvamile iningi eliyinkimbinkimbi ekamelweni lentsha luhlobo lwezinto ezibonakalayo zokudideka okwenzeka emphefumulweni wakhe.
Leli tafula lizokutshela indlela yokufundisa ingane yakho ukuba ilandele futhi iqondise ngokuphumelelayo.
Ubudala | Lokho ingane engayenza | Ungamsiza kanjani |
Kusukela ngonyaka wokuqala | ? qoqa amathoyizi ahlakazekile ? ibamba izincwadi namamagazini ? uqobo-ubhekisela emakamelweni okugeza ahlanzekile ? ulayishe umshini wokuwasha (faka izingubo emgodini) ? ukufaka ijaji esikhwameni ngemuva kokuhamba | Zonke izenzo ukuzama ukukhiqiza kanye nomntanakho, bonisa konke futhi uchaze izikhathi eziningi |
Kusukela eminyakeni emibili ubudala | ? usizo olubekwe etafuleni (hlela izitsha, ukubeka amafoloko kanye nezinkezo) ? usize ekhishini (ugobe inhlama yamapangcake, ikhasi lamazambane ngunifomu, njll) ? hlamba ipuleti nendebe emva kwakho ? Sula uthuli ngendwangu ekhethekile ? manzi izimbali zasendlini ? uthwale ibhodlela | Kubalulekile ukuhlomisa isikhala somuntu siqu. Igumbi (noma ikona kulo) kufanele lihlelwe ngendlela yokuthi into ngayinye inendawo yayo ngaphakathi kwayo, ifinyeleleke kumntanakho |
Kusukela eminyakeni engu-4 | ? ukubeka amathoyizi wezingane ngendlela ayithandayo futhi ubonakala enhle (ungamphazamisi futhi ungafaki intando yakhe) ? hlamba ezitsheni zabo izinto ezincane: ihekhi, amasokisi, ama-panties ? Vula futhi ululaze phansi nge-mop | Ingane ivuka izwa kahle: kulesi sikhatsi kubaluleke kakhulu kuye ukuthi isikhala esiseduze sibonakala kanjani. Buka indlu yakho. |
Kusukela eminyakeni engu-7 | ? babe nemisebenzi yasendlini (unomphela, qaphela izitshalo zangaphakathi, usule uthuli ekamelweni lakho, ugeze isitsha endlini yokugezela) ? ziqaphe ngokuzimela ukubukeka kwazo (thatha izingubo ezihlanzekile, thumela ekuhlanjeni okungcolile) ? bakwazi ukupheka ukudla okulula (amaqanda aphuziwe, isaladi) | Ungamangaleli ingane uma enza okuthile okungalungile. Mnikeze ukuzimela okuningi. Ukugcinwa kwe-oda kufanele kubonwe njengomsebenzi onzima. |
Kusukela eneminyaka engu-12 | ? gcina ukuhleleka ezindaweni ezivamile (ukugezela, indlu yangasese, igumbi, indawo yokulala) ? hlambulula ikamelo lakho ngokwakho | Kuyinto elula kakhulu ukuhlela ingaphakathi futhi uthenge inqubo enhle. |
IZINHLOKO EZINYE.
Mqeda ingane emisebenzini yokubopha ukuhlanza indlu kuphela, kungcono ukwenza konke lokhu ndawonye: enye yokuhlanza, omunye uhlanza phansi, owesithathu uyasula uthuli, njll. Kuphuma kokubili okusheshayo nokunye okujabulisayo. Ngendlela, kubuye kube usizo kubantu abadala ukuba basamukele lesi siko esihle futhi bangayilahli yonke indaba yasekhaya kumakhosikazi endlu.
Ukuzama isandla sabo ukuze bakwazi ukuhlala nabanye abantu futhi bangabaphazamisi, kuyasiza kakhulu ingane eneminyaka engu-10-12 ukuvakashela ikamu labantwana. Ngokuvamile izingane zibuya lapho zikhona njengabantu abadala futhi zinembile kakhulu.
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