Umama noninazala bahlangana nawe esibhedlela ngesigqoko sezimbali, wathinteka ngumntanakho futhi ... wanyamalala engaboni. Kanye ngesonto noma amabili abiza, banesithakazelo sokuthi izinto zikhona kanjani nesizukulwane esincane. Bangakwazi ngisho nokuvakashela futhi "bahambe umntwana" (hhayi njalo futhi ngemva kokukholelwa isikhathi eside). Futhi lokhu kungumkhawulo. Awuzihlabeli ngaphezu kwesilwane somntwana, noma inganekwane noma amahlaya ekhishini ngomzamo wokondla ingane, noma izilahla kanye nezingoma lapho amazinyo eqoshiwe. Ingabe ugogo akayithandi umntwana ?! Futhi uma uthanda, kungani ungasheshi ukuvakashela kaningi?
Kumele uqale ngeqiniso lokuthi ngokungafani nendima yomama, okungalungiswa kusengaphambili uma ulungele ukuthi le nkosikazi, ngenye indlela, inqunyiwe engokwengqondo, ngokomzimba nangokwenyama, ihlelwe ngokuphelele futhi iwela kowesifazane njengeqhwa ekhanda lakhe, lapho lokhu akulindeli neze. Owesifazane uba ugogo ongekho owakhe ngokuzithandela futhi ngokumelene nentando yakhe. Njengoba sithola esimweni esinjalo, abesifazane bavame ukulahlekelwa futhi baziphathe ngokuhlukile kunokwesiko, kodwa kufanele balahlwe ngalokhu? Ake sizame ukucubungula ukuziphatha okungajwayelekile "kuka-ugogo" bese uzama ukuqonda indlela yokuziphathisa omama abancane?Inketho eyodwa: Ugogo omkhulu
Umsebenzi ubelokhu ukhona futhi uhlala kuze kube yilolu suku injongo yokuphila kanyoko noma umkhwekazi wakho. Unogogo, ohlala ematasa emsebenzini noma enezinto eziningi zokuzilibazisa, izinto zokuzilibazisa nezokuzilibazisa, cishe uyosiza abazali abasha abasanda kwenza ngaphandle kwesifiso esikhulu nesifiso esifanele. Anganikeza amathiphu ambalwa wokunakekela nokukhulisa ingane efonini noma ukuthumela isikhwama ngezinto ezintsha noma amathoyizi wengane, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba abe isivakashi unomphela endlini yakho futhi uzokusheshisa lapho ushayele ucingo. Ingabe unomuzwa wokuthi uyazikhukhumeza ekukhulumisaneni nomntanakhe futhi wenza okungaphezu komsebenzi wokusebenza futhi ngoba "kuyadingeka" ngempela, ngoba nje ufuna ukuhlambalaza futhi ahlanganyele futhi axhumane nomzukulu wakhe? Ungagijimeli eziphethweni ezifinyelela kude. Kungenzeka ukuthi uyesaba nje ukuthi ingane yakho ingashintsha impilo yakhe esele isungulwe futhi isungulwe futhi imlethe izinguquko ezinkulu nezinkinga. Ngakho-ke, uzama ukuzibandakanya nezinye izinto ezivamile, futhi umzukulu wakhe noma umzukulu wakhe ulandela isimiso sokususa ohlwini lwamacala akhe okuphuthumayo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Kuyafaneleka ukuvumelanisa nalokhu futhi kungabonakali ku-granny yobubi. Kungcono ukwenze ukuze avame ukuba nomntwana, ngisho noma kungenjalo, kodwa nawe. Zama ukumvakashela kaningi futhi ulethe umzukulu wakho (esebenze ukuhlela lesi senzakalo kusengaphambili, Yebo). Myeke abone ukuthi umntwana uletha injabulo nje, futhi yonke into ayishintshi impilo yakhe ngokubi kakhulu. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umzukulu uzoba ingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwakhe, futhi ukukhulumisana kuzokuletha kokubili injabulo kuphela.
Okukhethwa kokubili: Ugogo osemncane
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane kuthola ugogo ozayo esikhathini esizayo. Angazi ukuthi aziphathe kanjani, kufanele akwenze kanjani, angaqala ukungabaza, futhi uma ekulungele ukuba ngugogo nhlobo, kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu - ngokuzumayo uqala ukuzizwa ngokujulile indlela eqhubekayo yokuguga futhi engasencane. Ungamangazi uma ngokungazelelwe uthole ukuthi ufihla abantu ababaziyo, abangane noma abasebenzisana naye ukuthi umzala wakhe wazalwa futhi waba umkhulu osanda kutholakala. Ngomane nje, ufuna ukuhlala esemncane njengangaphambili, futhi hhayi ukuzibiza ngokuthi "ugogo", okwenza owesifazane osemusha aphendule owesifazane osemdala emehlweni abantu abakuzungezile. Ungayidli, akukaziwa ukuthi uziphathe kanjani uma usendaweni yayo. Mnike isikhathi sokujwayela le ndima entsha, kudingeka aqonde futhi aqaphele leli qiniso. Phela, izingane zakhe sezikhulile isikhathi eside, abazukulu baqale ukuzalwa, okusho ukuthi yena uqobo lwakhe usekhulile, futhi lokhu kudinga, njengoba bethi, "ukugaya", ukuqaphela nokuqaphela.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Indlela engcono kakhulu yokwehlisa ugogo nomzukulu wakho ukushiya ingane yakho yedwa naye okungenani ngezikhathi ezithile. Mhlawumbe lapho bebodwa ndawonye futhi kungabikho ongabakhazamisayo, uyayikhathaza ingane, uzokhumbula ukuthi ngesikhathi esisodwa wayesephethe isikhwama esincane ezandleni zakhe futhi wacabanga ukuthi ngemva kokuzalwa kwabazukulu bakhe futhi bathola isimo sikagogo omusha, ukuphila akupheli, futhi ngezindlela eziningi ngisho nokuqala kwemicimbi ejabulisayo iqala.
Inketho yesithathu: Ugogo ongenalwazi
Umama wakho noma unyoko wakho angase nje angazi ukuthi kufanele aphathe kanjani ingane yakho esanda kuzalwa. Hhayi ngomqondo wangempela, kunjalo. Mhlawumbe ngesikhathi esisodwa, lapho engumama osemncane, wabeka konke ukunakekelwa kwengane yakhe emagxeni kagogo, ngakho-ke manje wesaba ukuthatha umntwana ezandleni zakhe, njengokwokuqala. Kodwa lena yiyona elula futhi elula kalula ukuphathwa.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Uma kungenalwazi lomama omusha osanda kwenziwa, zama ukumsiza ukuba anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe. Thatha isinyathelo kuqala, mbize ukuthi aphuze itiye futhi ashiye umntwana (kodwa okwesikhashana nje!) Nogogo wakhe kuphela. Ungakwazi, isibonelo, cela umyeni wakho noma intombi ukuthi bakubiza ngesikhathi sokuvakasha kwakhe, bese ushiya imizuzu engu-20 kuya-30 ngendaba ephuthumayo (okusolakala ukuthi umngane uthenge izingane zakho zezinwele noma ithoyizi - kufanele uyikhethe noma ubone esitolo esicacile ukuthi izithelo ezihlanzekile noma ubisi lwe-milk, okuyinto udokotela wezingane zakho akucebisa yona, - kuyadingeka ukuphuthuma ukugijima ukuthenga). Uma ufika ekhaya, ungathola uMgogo kancane ... ukhathazekile. Kodwa lena kuphela okokuqala. Ngemuva kokuvakasha ezintathu noma ezine (futhi isikhathi singancipha kancane kancane kuze kube ihora nengxenye), ungalinda imiphumela emihle yokuqala. Ngokushesha kungenzeka ukuthi ugogo uzoqala ukukunikeza usizo lwakhe.
Ukunqoba ubunzima bokungenisa ugogo ukuxhumana nabazukulu, konke kuzozuza kulokhu. Uzoba nesikhathi esengeziwe samahhala, ongayisebenzisa kuwe. Ingane izoba nomunye osondelene naye omthandayo ongamethemba. Unogogo ekukhulumisaneni nabazukulu bakhe uzothola inkokhelo yamandla futhi phambi kwamehlo abo bayophonsa iminyaka embalwa.