Ngakho indlela yokuphatha ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe? Kule nkinga, kunezinketho eziningana ezingenzeka - ukuhlela ama-scandal ezinkathazo, noma ngokuzikhandla ukucabangela isu lokuziphatha.
Uhlale ehlela abahlaziyi ngeke bakwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, isimo esingenakubekezela emndenini sizophoqa umyeni ku-razluchnitse. Kulesi simo, ngeke uhlupheke wena kuphela, kodwa futhi nezingane, ngisho nendoda, okungenzeka ukuthi kwakungewona ukuhlukumezeka, kodwa nje yinto ephuthumayo.
Uma ufuna ukusindisa umndeni wakho, hlala ezinye ukungathembeki komyeni wakho futhi ulondoloze isimo sezulu esingokwemvelo kwengqondo emndenini wakho, udinga ukucabangisisa ngokuziphatha kwakho. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukucabangela amathiphu ambalwa.
Okokuqala, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi isimo somuntu simxosha ukuba afune intsha, isifiso sokuzama okuhlukile, nokufakazela amakhono akhe "omzimba". Kwezinye izimo, ukuhlukumezeka kuwumzamo womyeni wokubonisa ukuthi, ngezinga elithile, umuntu okhululekile futhi unelungelo ezinqumweni nasezenzo zakhe (isimo esifanayo kungenzeka uma umyeni ezwa ukuthi inkululeko yakhe namalungelo aphulwa). Ngakho-ke, umuntu uzama ukuzibiza.
Okwesibili, ubufakazi bokubala buqinisekisa ukuthi amadoda angama-90% ashintsha abafazi, futhi, ezimweni eziningi, amadoda ngokwawo abhekisela ekuhlaselweni njengokuzijabulisa kwesikhathi esisodwa, angeke aqhubeke nhlobo. Uma indoda ingashintsha nabesifazane abahlukene, noma ngabe yenza njalo ngesimiso esivumelanayo, khona-ke leli qiniso alisho ukuthi usehlile kuwe, ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle nawe. Lo wesifazane othembekile ubona ekukhohliseni okungahambi kahle, kanti indoda enothando lapho ebuyela ekhaya iyovele ikhohlwe ngokuhleka kwakhe eceleni futhi iyojabulela ukuxhumana nomkakhe othandekayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu ubhekisela ekuphandeleni, njengokuthi, noma yimuphi omunye umuntu kumbewu noma chips - uma uzame kanye, njalo ufuna ukuqhubeka. Mhlawumbe leli qiniso lizokuvumela ukuthi uphathe ukwedluliswa komyeni wakho ngokuthula.
Okwesithathu, kubalulekile ukuthola imbangela yokuhlubuka. Ukuhlukumezeka kanye nesimo sengqondo kubathembekile njengendoda yabesifazane noma inja ngeke kusize ukuthola indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma. Kungenzeka ukuthi imbangela yokuvukela umbuso yayingekho ukuzwana okwanele phakathi komyeni nomfazi. Mhlawumbe umndeni awunakekelwa ngokwanele noma unakekele izithakazelo nezokuzilibazisa zomlingani wakho, noma into engekho ebuhlotsheni bobulili. Kubalulekile ukuhlaziya impilo yomndeni bese uthole izikhala kanye nokungaphumeleli emndenini.
Okwesine, ekuhloleni isimo sakho sengqondo ekukhonjweni komyeni wakho, zama ukuthola izinzuzo nezingozi kulokhu. Isibonelo, uma umshado womngane womshado uncane kunawe nomyeni wakho, khona-ke kukhona ukuzikhathalela engxenyeni ye-razluchnitsa (uthando lweqiniso aluvamile ukufakwa lapha). Uma uneminyaka yobudala wena nenkosikazi yomyeni wakho nilingana, khona-ke kusobala ukuthi akuyona into engcono kunawe futhi kufanele uzinakekele futhi ubonise umkakho ukuthi ulahlekelwe okuningi ngokuxhumana naye, hhayi nawe.
Ngokuhlukile, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi kukhona ukukopela ngesivumelwano. Lokhu kungukuthi, indoda nomfazi bavumelana ukuthi yiziphi izimo futhi ngaphansi kwemiphi imibandela yokuhlukumezeka kungenzeka. Ngakho-ke, isivumelwano esinjalo singenzeka, uma abantu beshadile isikhathi eside, baye banamathela komunye nomunye futhi isifiso sesiphelile. Kodwa kunezingane, kukhona ukuqonda okuhlangene, kungaba khona ibhizinisi elihlangene - ngegama, kuyasiza ukuthi abashadile bahlale ndawonye futhi abafuni ukuphula umyalelo ohleliwe.
Kwezinye izimo, abashadile baphikisana nokuhlukunyezwa. Kusho ukuthi ngokushintshanisa ezinye izinsizakalo noma izikweletu, umlingani unethuba lokubhalisa ngokuphelele izindlovukazi. Ikakhulukazi, ithuba lokuhamba ngakwesobunxele lingase libe yisisekelo somshado.
Naphezu kwazo zonke izeluleko, noma yimuphi owesifazane, obhekene nokungathembeki komuntu othandekayo, uhlale ebuza indlela yokuphatha ukwedluliswa komyeni wakhe nendlela yokuxazulula le nkinga ngokulahlekelwa okungenani yena nomndeni wakhe.