Umfana uphonsa, kodwa akanawo intombazane: isizathu

Ebudlelwaneni bezocansi akukaze kube yindawo yokulula nokunciphisa. Ngokuvamile ziyinkimbinkimbi futhi zidideka, ikakhulukazi thina besifazane. Ngempela, sesivele sithanda ukucindezela konke, endaweni ethile yokucabanga okuthile futhi sizicasule kithi. Siyesaba lapho sibona ukuthi indoda eyayisenomusa ishaya izinwele zayo futhi yahlekelana ngothando, namuhla iqoqa izinto namaqabunga okuhle. Futhi uyashiya hhayi ngoba uzithola eyedwa ... Isihloko sendaba yethu esithi "Umfana uphonsa, kodwa akanawo intombazane: isizathu?", Futhi sizozama ukuhlaziya kulo: kungani amanye amadoda angasilahli muntu, kodwa owokuqala bheka, njengawo.

Ngakho-ke, isimo: lo mfana waphonsa, kodwa akanawo intombazane: kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Ukuzithola, udinga ukuhlaziya ngokuphelele ubuhlobo bakho muva nje. Awukho ngoba akushiye, ukuthi konke kwakumangalisa futhi kungenasici? Ake ucabange kanjalo-kodwa akufakazeli ukuthi insizwa yakho icabanga ngendlela efanayo.

Khumbula: mhlawumbe, eminyakeni yamuva, into eyamcasula kakhulu kuwe? Futhi awuzange unake, wavuka "e-pos" futhi wamemeza ngokuklabalaza ukuthi akaqondi lutho, kodwa awuhlosi ukushintsha noma yini? Cha, akudingekile ukukhala, akunjalo, akunjalo ngempela - kwanele nje ukuqhuma ama-scandals ukuze wenze umfana ekhathele ubuhlobo. Phela, amadoda adinga ukuthula nokuzwana, futhi thina besifazane kufanele sibe abahlakaniphile futhi sibanike okudingayo. Lokhu akukona ukuzinikela okugcwele nobugqila - lokhu kungukukhathazeka okungazizwa ngisho emehlweni. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kunakekelwa akufanele kube yinto eyodwa - futhi kuyaqondakala, lo mfana kufanele akhombise imizwa yakhe yesethenda. Phela, kwenzeka njalo ukuthi umuntu, ekutshele ngothando, njengokungathi ukhohlwa la magama amathathu alula futhi akakwazi ukuwakhumbula ngaphambi kwesenzakalo noma umcimbi obalulekile. Futhi akusilo ngalutho abakushoyo ukuthi abesifazane bathanda ngezindlebe zabo - kukhona iqiniso kulokhu, sidinga ukuzwa amazwi ngothando, kudingeka siqiniseke nsuku zonke - bese sizobe silungele ukuguqula izintaba ngenxa yendoda yethu ethandekayo! Ngisho noma izintaba zamasokisi angcolile ...

Ngakho-ke, yisiphi isizathu ukuthi lo mfana ngokuzumayo wakuphonsa? Ama-Scandals? Kungani bevuka? Ubani okufanele abekwe icala ngalokhu? Ukuze uthole indlela yokuphuma kweso simo - udinga ukuthola izimpendulo zale mibuzo. Mhlawumbe, enye into ingabuyiselwa uma unesifiso. Futhi uma kukhona isifiso salowo oshiye. Ngempela, izingxabano kanye nokuhlukaniswa ngezinye izikhathi ziyizinkulumo ezibonisa ukuthi zithintekile, okumele zikufake ukuba uzicabange wena nakwe.

Uma uhlaziya isimo sakho futhi usuphethweni sokuthi kwakungekho neze amahlazo okuhlukumeza okwenzako, ngakho-ke kuhlukile. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi, lapho sinqobe inhliziyo yomuntu othandekayo, sinciphisa futhi sikhohlwe into esemqoka - ukuthi singabesifazane. Futhi uma ungakaze uhlangane nomfana uchithe amahora esibukweni, efuna ukwakheka okuhle nesembatho, manje ungakwazi ukuphuma esithende bese uya ezitsheni, ngisho nokuphonsa isikhwama sokuqhayisa ngaphandle kokubona. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi ukhohliwe ukugeza izinwele zakho - akukho lutho, lo mthandi uzokubekezelela futhi ngalesi sila esinamafutha - emva kwakho konke, wabona ukuthi ubuhle obungaba kanjani! Mhlawumbe lo mkhuba wokuziphatha uyiphutha kakhulu. Ikakhulukazi uma ubuhlobo bakho bungakabi isikhathi eside futhi bubi kakhulu. Mhlawumbe akufanele ukhohlwe ngawe nokubukeka kwakho? Emva kwakho konke, umfana angase abe nombono wakho njengentombazane enhle - futhi manje okwamanje akuhlonishwa kakhulu. Ngakho-ke cabanga: mhlawumbe uqale ngokwakho kangangokuthi umfana usuke ekhathele ngokwenza amaphuzu akhohlisayo ekuthungeni kwakho - futhi wanquma ukuthi esikhathini esizayo kuyoba kubi kakhulu? Awudingi ukuphenduka ube ngumama womkhaya ongenamakhelwane onamapulangwe angunaphakade ekhanda lakho ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Yiqiniso, lokhu sikwedlulele, kodwa okusobala kucacile ...

Kungenzeka ukuthi lo mfana uphonsa ngesinye isizathu. Cha, akanakho enye intombazane engqondweni, kodwa awuqondi neze! Kodwa ukuvumelana ebuhlotsheni ikakhulu kuxhomeke ekutheni uhambisana kanjani nemikhuba nokuzilibazisa komunye nomunye. Isibonelo, isoka lakho lithanda kakhulu ukudoba. Wena, esikhundleni sokumfuna ngaphambi kwentengo yokusa inhlanzi "akukho msila, akukho sikali," uqala ukugxeka kuye, uthukuthele ekuhoxisweni kokuqala kanye ne-pearl bar embizeni ebhodini lakho ozithandayo. Kuhle, uma uhlala ndawonye. Uma ngokwehlukana - kubonakala kancane kakhulu, kodwa kaningi ugoba isigamu sakho sesibili asikhathali. Kanjani, kunokuba akusize uhlanzeke kulobubusuku, noma uya emabhayisikobho nawe, Ingabe uzophinde aphuze nabangani bakhe? Esikhundleni sokugcina ukwazi abazali bakho, uya ejimini lokuqeqesha? Lokho kuyisimangaliso, akunjalo? Futhi, endleleni, impilo yakhe neyakho ekubukeni kwayo ayigodlanga - futhi konke lokho umfana ayekujabulela ngaphambili kuzohlale kusebenza futhi kuyathandeka kuye. Ungagcini inkululeko yakhe, umuntu - hhayi inja, awukwazi ukumbeka ngochungechunge. Futhi awudingi lokhu. Uvele uzibeke endaweni yakhe. Ungabe ujabule nesimiso, esihlinzeka ngama-hike kuphela omsebenzi nokubukwa komndeni we-movie elandelayo? Ingabe ngempela awufuni ukuhamba nabangani, uphumule ku-nightclub, ukhohlwe, ekugcineni, ngazo zonke izinkathazo nokukhathazeka, futhi vumela ukuba uphuze kakhulu! Nakulokhu, lokhu kusebenza kakhulu emibhangqwaneni ehlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo, kodwa labo abahlala ngokwehlukana abavikelekile kulezi zingxabano.

Izizathu ukuthi lo mfana ngokuzumayo wanquma ukuhlukana nawe, kungaba kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwakho konke okushiwo ngenhla, lapho icala lithinteka ikakhulukazi, abesifazane, kungase kube nezizathu ezibonakalayo kuphela kubantu. Ngempela, kungase kukupholile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudabukisayo kangakanani. Ngisho nesifiso esinamandla kakhulu asikwazi ukukhula sibe uthando, kodwa kancane kancane siphelile, siphelile futhi siphelile - futhi ngezinye izikhathi akukho lutho olungaluthola, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kangakanani. Mhlawumbe isoka lakho liqaphele ukuthi uhlukile kakhulu, phakathi kobudlelwane bakho, ngokungazelelwe uthole ukuthi wena awunandi kakhulu, ukuthi ingxoxo yakho ayisekho ukugeleza okubushelelezi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kukhona igebe elicasulayo enkulumweni egcwele ukuthula okungaqondakali . Lesi yisibonakaliso sokuqala sokuthi ohlelweni lokuxhumana awuhambisani kahle.

Futhi, ekugcineni, esinye sezizathu ezivusa amadlingozi nokucasula ukukhishwa komuntu kungase kube ukunganeliseki ngokocansi. Yebo, yebo, esikhathini sethu akuvamile. Ngokusho kwabakwa-sexologists, uma nisondelana njengabangane obuseduze - lokhu kuyisiqingatha impumelelo yomndeni wakho wesikhathi esizayo, isibambiso sobudlelwane obuqinile nokungenakuqedwa. Kodwa, yebo, akubona sonke esinganelisa abathandekayo bethu ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Futhi-ke kancane kancane sisuka komunye nomunye, ngaphakathi kokuvutha nentukuthelo eqhubekayo, ngifuna ukuwuphonsa kumuntu - futhi ngenxa yalokho, ubuhlungu futhi, othandekayo.

Ngakho sichaza izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani ungashiya umfana, ngenkathi singakhulumi nenye intombazane. Okufanele ukwenze, indlela ongayenza ngayo nokuthi uziphathe kanjani - kungcono kuwe, ngokusekelwe ekutheni ungumlandu wezo zonke izifo, nokuthi ngabe ufuna ngempela ukuyeka wonke amandla akho nesikhathi sokugcina ubudlelwane obanikeze ukubonakala kwe-crack. Uma uzimisele ukuzidela, ungalindeli kuze kube yilapho kungenakugwema khona futhi amaqabunga omfana - kulula ukuvimbela isiphepho ngokwayo kunemiphumela yaso. Khona-ke awukwazi ukucela ukuthethelelwa. Yenza ngokushesha uma ubona uphawu oluyingozi, uphawu oluthi umfana wakho uphonse ngengozi, ngokushesha uphendule kulo bese uzama ukulinganisa isimo - futhi konke okuqinisekile kuzothuthuka!