Indlela yokuphuma kumyeni wakhe?

Akuyona njalo umshado ojabule futhi oqinile. Ngokuvamile, ngemva kwesikhashana, kunezinkinga nokungavumelani. Abashadile baqala ukubonana kuphela amaphutha futhi bayeke ngokuphelele ukuqonda. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, indoda iqala ukuphuza utshwala futhi ibekezelela ukuhlukumezeka kumkayo. Namuhla sizoxoxa ngokuthi singasuka kanjani kumyeni wakhe, futhi sicabange ngezimo ezimbalwa zokuphila.

Ungasuka kanjani kumyeni ophuza utshwala?

Ngakho-ke, uma umyeni wakho engumthandi weziphuzo futhi evame ukuphuza ngaphandle nangaphandle, lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu. Ama-scandals kanye nezinsongo lapha angeke azisize, ngoba utshwala yisifo sangempela. Uma uzame zonke izindlela ezifana nokwelapha nemikhankaso kumuntu wezokwelapha, kodwa namanje uyaqhubeka nokuphuza utshwala, kusalokhu kunquma ukuthi ngabe ufuna ukulwa nenkinga yakhe noma ukhethe ukuhamba?

Uma impendulo yakho ihambelana nenketho yokugcina, bese ulungele ukuthi ngemuva kokuthi uhlukanise, akudingeki usize oshade naye futhi uphinde uphume ngaphandle kwesiphuzo esiphuzile. Njengoba leli zwi lithi: "Yeka - hamba."

Yilungele ukulalela izithembiso eziningi nezithembiso zokubopha, kodwa khumbula ukuthi lokhu kungenye indlela. Qaphela abajwayele ukujwayela mayelana nekhefu lakho ukuze bangakutsheli ngezinhlupheko kanye nokucela umngane wakho ukuba abuyele. Qonda ukuthi wonke umuntu unomthwalo wempilo yakhe ngokwakhe. Uma umyeni ethandwa udlame ngaphansi kwethonya lokuphuza utshwala, lungiselela kusengaphambili indawo yakhe, engingazi ngakho. Okuhle kakhulu, ungahlali isikhathi esithile wedwa, kodwa uhlale nabangani noma abazali.

Ukwahlukanisa kubeka abameli futhi kuncishiswe ekukhulumisaneni okuncane nomuntu osanda kushade naye. Into ebaluleke kakhulu yisimo sakho sengqondo. Uma uqiniseka ngokugcwele ngesinqumo sakho, akukho lutho oluzokuvimbela ukuba uqaphele lokho okuhlelile. Qala impilo entsha: yenza into oyithandayo, ukhokhele ngokwengeziwe ukubukeka kwakho, hamba nezingane, hamba eholidini. Ukuphila kwakho kusezandleni zakho!

Ungasuka kanjani kumyeni wakhe uma esongela?

Ukwesatshiswa nokwesatshiswa kumyeni wakhe kufakazela ukuphendula kwakhe okubuhlungu ekuphuleni kwakho. Nokho, ngokuvamile abesifazane bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinkomba yothando olukhulu nokuthi umlingani ufuna izindlela zokugwema ukuhlukanisa. Lokhu kuchazwa kweso simo empilweni engalungile, ngoba umuntu osongela ukulimala ngokomzimba kubhekwe njengengqondo engafanele. Udinga ukuqonda ngokucacile - umyeni wakho ungumashiqela futhi kungaba yingozi kakhulu kuwe nabathandekayo bakho.

Kulesi simo kudingekile ukuthi kuhileleke izinhlangano ezifanele zokuphatha umthetho. Noma kunjalo, ukuze kucatshangelwe, kubalulekile ukuqoqa okungenani ubufakazi obunye. Indlela yokubalekela kumashiqela womyeni wakhe nokuthi yini okumelwe yenziwe ukuze kuqinisekiswe izinsongo zakhe:

• ukusindisa imilayezo ye-sms ngokusongelwa;
• izingxoxo zocingo zocingo;
• uthathe i-tape recorder nawe, uma oshade naye ejwayele ukukubuka emgwaqweni bese ebhala izingxoxo.

Ngokuvamile lawo madoda asongela ukuthatha ingane enkantolo. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, amacala ezinkambiso ezinjalo anqotshwa ngabesifazane, futhi akudingeki ukhathazeke.

Kodwa-ke, uma esongela ukuthatha ingane, kuzodingeka uthathe isinyathelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Qaphela othisha noma othisha, ngaso sonke isikhathi bahlangane nengane esikoleni noma ezigabeni. Qinisekisa ukubika lesi simo emaphoyiseni.

Futhi, izinsizakalo zomphakathi zesikhungo somshado zizokusiza. Ezinhlanganweni ezinjalo uzosizwa futhi utshele indlela yokuphuma kumyeni cishe kungenabuhlungu.