Njengoba izivolonti zibonisa, abesilisa nabesifazane abasha nabavuthiwe bakholelwa ukuthi iminyaka "ye-Balzac" igcwele izikhathi eziningi ezinhle, hhayi ukuzinikela kunoma yini encane. Amantombazane nabesifazane abasha bathanda leli minyaka ngezizathu eziningi futhi bangathanda ukufika kuso ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ngokusho kwedatha yezenhlalo, abaningi abaphendulile bakholelwa ukuthi useminyakeni engaphezu kuka-40 "owesifazane othola ukuthi ungumuntu weqiniso, ozizwa egcwele ubulili obuhle, ubuntu bakhe buqhakaza, amandla akhe okudala kanye namandla afinyelela phezulu. Kule minyaka yobudala, owesifazane uyazi kahle isithunzi sakhe kanye nokwehluleka kwakhe futhi angakwazi ukusebenza kahle, uthola ukuhlakanipha okubalulekile, intuition iqiniswa. Owesifazane uzizwa evuthiwe kokubili ngokwengqondo nangokomoya. Iba ozimele ngokwengeziwe nokuzimela, kukhona ikhono lokuzinakekela wena.
Ngokusho kwalolu cwaningo, ngesikhathi esivuthiwe ukuphakama komsebenzi, ukukhula kwamakhono kanye nolwazi jikelele. Izintshisekelo ziba zikhudlwana futhi zizinzile ngokwengeziwe, okuhlangenwe nakho okudingekayo kwezenhlalo sekuvele kuqoqwe, okuvumela lona wesifazane ngokwakhe ukuba asebenzise ukukhetha kwakhe ezimweni eziningi zokuphila, kuhlanganise nokuphila kwakhe siqu. Lesi yisikhathi lapho okwesibili owesifazane enelungelo lokuzithola futhi aqaphele amandla akhe angaphakathi.
Owesifazane usenayo "isisekelo", ngesisekelo lapho ungaqala khona, uma kunesidingo, enye impilo. Kukhona "konke" kokuphila: umsebenzi, umndeni, izindlu. Owesifazane ovuthiwe, njengombuso, unomqondo oqinile ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo, onengqondo, ongenasiphelo, unendlela engacashile futhi eqondile kuyo yonke into. Unalo ubuhle besifazane ovuthiwe, ubuhle, usuvele wakhe isitayela sakhe. Konke lokhu kunezela nokuthi iqiniso lokuthi owesifazane oneminyaka engu-"Balzac" usemude ngokwanele ukusebenzisa lezi zinzuzo futhi aphumelele empilweni.
Kodwa namanje owesifazane oneminyaka yobudala angakwazi, naphezu kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kokuphila, azizwa engapheli ngokuphelele ngokwenzeka kwakhe, okungenakwenzeka ngaye. Ukungena kulolugibe, ngokwemvelo kule minyaka yobudala, owesifazane ngokuvamile uzwa umuzwa wokulahlwa, ukwesaba isizungu.
Le nkinga ishukunyiswa yilokho okushiwo "ukuwa" ngentengo yowesifazane ovuthiwe emehlweni endoda, ejwayelekile yesikhathi esinikeziwe, kanti "intengo" yendoda yalesikhathi ekuboneni owesifazane iyakhula. Kulesi simo sengqondo, owesifazane angenza enye yezindlela ezilandelayo:
- "Osemncane": lo wesifazane wenqabe ukuqaphela ukuvuthwa, uzama ukuba omncane, abuyele isikhathi, azenzele inkolelo yokuthi "intsha yesibili".
- "Inkanyezi ehamba phambili": owesifazane onjalo ucabanga ukuthi iminyaka engcono kakhulu yokuphila kwakhe seyidlulile - ngokufanisayo, "ubeka isiphambano phezu kwakhe": "Vumela umlilo wokuphila uphele amandla," ucabanga.
- "Abahlukunyezwa": abhekana nenkinga yabantu abaneminyaka emaphakathi, owesifazane onjalo ubona indlela yokuphuma ukuze azishiye yena, "Mina" wakhe kanye nezithakazelo zakhe, umsebenzi awubona ngokuhlanganyela kuphela kubantwana nabazukulu.
- "Realist": ubukeka ngokufanele empilweni, ithola iminyaka yayo efanele futhi iyathandeka. Ufuna ukuthola kusuka ekuphileni konke okusemandleni kule minyaka nokuthi yini engazange ayenze ukuyizuza ngaphambili - eminyakeni emincane.
Isihluthulelo sokuqala empumelelweni cishe bonke abasebenzi bezengqondo bathi ukuzethemba. Ukuzethemba - ngokuyingxenye kukhona uhlelo lokuphila nenhloso yalo. Uma ucabanga ukuthi awufanelwe injabulo, ngeke uthathe izinyathelo zokuthola ukuphila okujabulisayo. Futhi ngokuphambene nalokho.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukukhetha imigomo efinyelelekayo. Kuthiwa ukuthi umuntu uphumelela impumelelo futhi unengqondo ngokuhambisana nokusebenza ngokuphumelelayo kwalemigomo engeke ibe nzima kakhulu kuye noma kulula kakhulu. Ukhetha indima yengqondo ye "onqobayo" uma imigomo yakho iphakathi kwakho. Uma umgomo kulula kakhulu - uqale ukuwubeka ukuze ugweme ukuhluleka, futhi ungaphumeli. Uma kunzima kakhulu kuwe - uqale usethelwe ukunqoba.
Kodwa ngokuvamile izimpilo zethu zenza izinguquko zazo emigomweni esiyibekayo. Kubonakala sengathi, ukuze sifinyelele impumelelo esiyifunayo, imigomo yethu kufanele ibe mkhulu kunalokho esingayifinyelela ngempela. Ngakho-ke umuntu ofuna ukugibela umfula ukuze afike endaweni ethile ogwini oluphambene, agijimi ngqo endaweni efunayo, kodwa nakwezinye izimpawu ezisemakhaya. Kodwa njengoba okwamanje uyishaya, iwela ngqo lapho ifuna khona.
Ngokwezengqondo eziningi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi owesifazane, ikakhulukazi esekhulile, akhule umkhuba wokuphendula ngenkuthalo izinkinga nokusongela futhi njalo, noma ngabe kwenzekani, hlala ugxile emgomweni okhethiwe. Thatha isimo sokucabangela kuzo zonke izimo zokuphila. Yenza ngokuzethemba nangesibindi uma kwenzeka izimo zenkinga, uphendule ezinkingeni ngaphandle kokugodla, uzigweme futhi ungachazi ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuhluleka okulandelayo, futhi ulwe, unqobe futhi ususe izithiyo ngamandla futhi ngokuhlakanipha, ugxile emandleni akho namakhono akho.
Ngemva kokuxoxisana nabesifazane abaphumelelayo kuzo zonke izici zokuphila, izazi zengqondo zathola ukuthi, ngaphandle kokuhlukile, okuvamile, okuyimfanelo kubo: ikhono lokubheka, ukukwazi ukubona umbono ngisho nasesimo esibonakala sengathi "siphelile". Ngokombono wabo, baphumelela empilweni ngenxa yokuthi, ekufikeni ezimo ezibalulekile ezingaqiniseki, bakhetha indlela yokuzimela, ukuzithuthukisa, babheka isimo njengababangela ukuba bakhule futhi bakhule, kunokuba baphelelwe ithemba futhi baphonsa izandla zabo.
Futhi ukhiye wokugcina obalulekile wokuphumelela: ngokusho kwengqondo, ukuze uphumelele, udinga ukuzikhethela izizinda eziyinhloko zokuziqhenya. Umuntu ngamunye akanalo okuningi - angaphezu kweyishumi, kodwa kufanele aqondwe ngokucacile. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulukazi wesifazane oneminyaka ephakathi, lapho kuphenduka okubukhali empilweni yakhe. Kakhulu kuncike ekutheni ungakha kanjani izinhlelo zokuphila okuqhubekayo nokuthi ungaqonda kanjani okubaluleke kakhulu manje.
Ngakho-ke, ukukholelwa kuwe, ekupheleleni; ephakeme ngokwanele, kodwa empeleni ngezinjongo zakho; ikhono lokujabula ngezikhathi ezinzima nokuzethemba kulokho okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe manje - akuvumeleke ukushiye, futhi impumelelo empilweni iqinisekiswe kuwe nganoma yisiphi ubudala.