Mhlawumbe ingane izodlulisa ngokuzithoba lokhu futhi ijwayele ukulala ngaphandle kwe-pacifier. Kodwa kunamathuba aphezulu ukuthi isikhathi sokuziqeda sizoba nzima ngokwengqondo kokubili abazali kanye nengane futhi isikhathi eside ngokwanele. Kuyadingeka ukuba ube nesineke futhi uqonde lokho okwenziwe ngumntwana lokhu kuhlukanisa ngendlela evamile yezwe elincane, emva kokuba konke kuyisiko elinjalo, emva kwalokho ulele kahle.
Ungathathi ukungafuni kwengane ukushiya i-pacifier, njengenhlawulo, ngoba asifuni abantu abadala ukuba balahle imikhuba yabo. Nakuba siqonda ukuthi amanye awo ayingozi. Ingane ayiqondi ukuthi yini ewusizo futhi eyingozi, nakuba unina wayinike yona kanye. Futhi uma ubona ukuthi ingane idinga i-pacifier, ke ungayinaki lokho izihlobo zakho nomakhelwane abakushoyo. Phela, lokhu kungumntwana wakho, futhi kangcono ukwazi ukuthi ingane idingani manje.
Ungazami ukuzulazula ngokuzumayo kusuka ku-pacifier, mhlawumbe kuyomenza abe nokukhathazeka kwengqondo, ngoba ingane iboshelwe ithoyizi lakhe eliyintandokazi, futhi kuye, kunoma yikuphi, ukugcoba kuyoba ukucindezeleka okukhulu. Lokhu kubukhali akuqondakali ingane, isetshenziselwa ukunakekelwa kwakho. Thatha lokhu ngobuzwe futhi ulalele izidingo zakhe.
Akulungile ukuthatha i-pacifier yomntwana ngesikhathi lapho ecela yona. Akudingeki umhlekise ngalokhu futhi uthukuthele ingane. Lo mkhuba kufanele ube "ongaphandle".
Futhi lapha kubalulekile ukuthi ungaphuthelwa umzuzu lapho umntwana ngokwakhe ekulungele ukuyeka i-pacifier, futhi lokhu kuyoba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlukanisa. Kodwa umzuzwana onjalo kungenzeka ukuthi awuphumelele kakhulu. Emva kwalokho, emva kwalokho uzolala kakhulu, ngenkathi ekhala, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukuzola nokunye.
Ukusheshisa inqubo yokugcoba kusuka kuma-dummy, izazi zengqondo zincoma ukwenza lokhu okulandelayo:
1) Uma ingane eneminyaka engu-7 noma eyisi-8 ifundile ukuphuza ekomelweni, khona-ke ukudla kufanele kukhishwe ekompini, epulatifini, nasele, ukuze umntwana akhohlwe ngokushesha ibhodlela.
2) Unganikeli ingane nge-pacifier ngaphandle kokuthi yena ngokwakhe ayicele.
3) Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane ikhulume iminwe, ingasebenzisa izinto, kufanele ihlale idlala amathoyizi, ukuze imatasa nayo, futhi ngaleyo ndlela iphazamiseke kusuka ku-dummy.
Ukuphumelela kuyinhloko enkulu kanye neyokuqala yengane esanda kuzalwa. Futhi lesi senzo somntwana sibalulekile njengokuphefumula. Ucwaningo oluthile luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kwengane okuphuza umunwe noma i-pacifier inenzuzo. Ungesabi ukuthi i-dummy izoyiphatha ukulunywa, akukho bufakazi besayense kulokhu. Futhi impilo yamazinyo iyoba usizo kakhulu empilweni yamazinyo kunomlomo kuyoba khona ibhodlela njalo nesiphuzo elimnandi.
Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ingane kufanele ijwayele ukujwayela i-dummy, ngoba ezinye izingane zingakhula ngaphandle kwalesi sihloko. Sizokukhuluma ngaleli cala, uma usondeza i-dummy yingxenye yokuphila kwengane. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lo mkhuba uvimbela abazali.
Ngaphambi kokuba uthole izincomo ezithile, zibuze umbuzo: "Kungani i-pacifier inqanda kanjalo? Ngoba ezinye izingane azizondli? Noma ufuna nje ukubona ingane yakho njengomuntu omdala? Ungakwazi yini ukucindezelwa abangane nezihlobo? Kodwa sikhuluma ngomntanakho. Ingane eyodwa ayitholi ukucabanga okunomsoco okunamandla, abanye bathola okunamandla. Kunabantwana abangakwazi kalula ukuhlukanisa ne-pacifier, kodwa kukhona abanye abayidinga kokubili eminyakeni engu-4 no-5.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi izingane zidinga ukuya esikoleni nge-pacifier emilonyeni yazo. Kodwa ngokuvamile abazali bazama ukuthatha ingane yakhe injabulo yakhe encane, futhi benze ngaphambi kwengane ngokomzimba nangokwemvelo ngoba lokhu kuzovuthwa.
Ungasusa ingane kusuka ku-dummy ngezindlela ezimbili:
1) Lindela kuze kube yilapho umntwana ekwazi futhi kancane kancane anciphise isikhathi sokusebenzisa i-pacifier. Kufana nomuntu obhemayo okwenza kancane kancane ukunciphisa inani lokubhema ugwayi. Unganikeza i-pacifier ngaphambi kokulala. Kungenzeka imizuzu engu-10, uma ubuya enkulisa.
2) Indlela yesibili ayifanele kuzo zonke izingane, kubhekwa njengento eqondile. Ungenza umkhosi wokuxoxisana nge-pacifier, futhi ukwenze ngokuvumelana kwengane. Ungakwazi, isibonelo, "unike" enye inyane, noma uthathe futhi uphonsa ngokukhululekile kudoti. Kubalulekile ukuthi wonke amalungu omndeni aziphathe ngendlela ehlelekile, uma ethi cha, khona-ke kumele kube khona cha. Ngokwemvelo ingane inzima ukubekezelela, ukuthi inxushunxuswe e-pacifier, ukwesaba kuyanda, ukulala kwakhe kuphazamiseka, futhi uma kuthatha izinsuku ezingaphezu kwezingu-10 noma ezingu-14, kungcono ukuthi ungaqhubeki ukuhlukumeza ingane. Futhi konke okwenzekayo kusho ukuthi ingane ayizange ishiye umkhuba wayo, futhi ukuze ugcine impilo yengqondo nengokwenyama, kungcono ukubuyisela i-pacifier. Ngakho-ke, indlela yokuqala izoba ngaphezulu futhi inengqondo kokubili ingane kanye nabazali.
Manje sisazi ukuthi singakwazi kanjani ukuhlukumeza ingane encane ukulala ne-pacifier. Ukulandela lezi zindlela ezilula namathiphu, ungazama ukuncelisa ingane kusukela ku-dummy.