Ngokuvamile, abazali abaningi bazibuza ukuthi bangazethemba kanjani ingane yabo, babasize bangesabi ukuveza imibono yabo, ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani ukuze bakwazi ukuzivikela ngokwanele, bakwazi ukunqoba izithiyo zokuphila, bezama ukuxazulula le nkinga ngokuzimela, ngaphandle kokufihla ngemuva kwezingane zakhe.
Ngingathanda ukuqala ngento yokuthi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqinisekisa abazali ukuthi konke kuxhomeke kubo, ngokuzibandakanya kwabazali nezindlela zokukhulisa emndenini, kanye nendlela yokuthola ingane. Isimo esibaluleke kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakho, ngoba iningi lezingane liqondiswe komunye wabazali, likopishe ngokuphelele ukuziphatha kwakhe, isitayela sokuxhumana nabanye abantu. Umzali wukugunyazwa kwengane, ngakho ingane ikholelwa ukuthi zonke izenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe zilungile. Uma wena unayo izinkinga zomuntu ongakwazi ukuzixazulula, ikakhulukazi lezo ezihlobene nokungavikeleki kwakho, khona-ke lokhu kufanele kusetshenziswe, futhi mhlawumbe ngosizo lesazi sengqondo.
Imithetho esiza ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba komntwana
Umthetho wokuqala: ingane kufanele iqiniseke ukuthi wena uyamthanda.
Uthando olunjalo akufanele lube lukhuni, uthando-uthando noma uthando, okumele ingane ikhokhele usizo kulo lonke indlu, isifundo esihle. Ingane idinga ukuthandwa ngalokho okuyiyo nokuthi iyini. Kudingeka wazi ukuthi akazalwanga ukuze afakazele okulindelekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa ukuze abe umuntu onesizotha.
Umthetho wesibili: ingane kufanele ibe nokuqiniseka ukuthi ingaphansi kwesivikelo sakho, kodwa hhayi ngaphansi kwe-hood.
Mtshele ukuthi uzohlale ukhona, kodwa ngeke ube munye naye. Kufanele ihlale ivulekile futhi ifinyeleleke kwengane. Mtshele ukuthi angakucela usizo ngaphandle kokwenqaba, ukuthi ngeke uphambuke, uzishiye ukuxazulula izinkinga ezinzima kuye yedwa.
Umthetho wesithathu wukuthi ingane kufanele ibe nelungelo lokwenza iphutha, kanye nethuba lokulilungisa, ukuba lingalahlwa noma liqalekiswe.
Msize ekuqondeni iphutha futhi alungise. Ingane akufanele ikwesabe ukwenza amaphutha, ngoba ifunda kubo, futhi ilungisa iphutha, ungamvimbela ukubukeka kwayo.
Isimiso sesine: ukukhulumisana nomntwana kufanele kwenzeke ngokulingana okulinganayo , hhayi ekuphakameni kwebudala futhi ngaphandle kokukhulisa ingane yakhe, kumenze abe uhlobo lwezithombe.
Ukubusa kwesihlanu: unikeza ingane ithuba lokuxazulula izinkinga zabo , ungabhekana nezingxabano ezinganeni ngenxa yamathoyizi, ungasheshi ukudlulisela kwesinye isikhungo semfundo, uma ungatholi ubudlelwane nabathisha nabangane bakho. Uma kungenjalo, ingane ngeke nje ikwazi ukufunda ukubona isimo futhi ifune indlela yokuphuma, kodwa futhi ngeke iphumelele. Kulesi simo, uzama ukugwema ukwehluleka, ukushiya inkinga, nokuzama ukuxazulula.
Umbuso wesithupha: akufanele uqhathanise ingane yakho nezingane zabanye abantu.
Kungcono ukugcizelela izimfanelo zakhe, ufundise ingane ukuba ihlole izenzo zakhe kanye naye, masizame ukuzibheka ngaphandle. Uma ingane iqala ukuziqhathanisa nomuntu, ekugcineni ixhomeke ekuboneni nasekuhloleni kwabanye, okuyinto, njengokungumthetho, kuyinto ephansi.
Umthetho wesi-7: uma umntwana esencane, ke ekuhloleni kwakhe, zama ukugwema igama elithi "okubi."
Akayena omubi nhlobo, kodwa nje ephutha, ukhubeka. Chaza ingane yakho ukuthi kukhona izinto ezingalungile ezibangela inkathazo nobuhlungu, lapho angase ahlupheke khona.
Umbuso wesishiyagalombili: ake ingane ifunde lokho okuqalisiwe ukuqeda.
Kodwa-ke, ungacindezeli ukuthi kudingekile ukuthi uhambe lo mzila futhi wenze lokho nje, uma ngabe umsebenzi okwenziwe kumntanakho awuthandi. Ekukhuleni, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba ke ukwakha izithakazelo, ukukhetha umsebenzi ozayo. Lapho umntwana ezozizama ngokwengeziwe emisebenzini ehlukahlukene, nakakhulu kuyoba namathuba esikhathini esizayo ukuthi uzokwazi ukwenza okulungile.
Umthetho wesishiyagalolunye: udinga ukusiza ingane ngokuzijwayeza eqenjini labantu.
Phela, indlela eyodwa noma enye, impilo yonke yomuntu, eqala enkulisa, ixhunywe nokusebenza eqenjini nokuxhumana. Lona ikamu, isikole, isikole sezemidlalo, kanye neyunivesithi. Emaqenjini ezingane kukhona njalo ukuncintisana. Izingane ezindala zizibheka njengabantu abadala, zinokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi kokuxhumana futhi zingakwazi "ukufaka ibhande" kalula kalula ezinganeni ezincane. Into yokugcina isele indlela yokulalela.
Uma inkinga yokuxhumana nezingane ezincane neontanga akuthinti ingane yakho, ekugcineni uzokwazi ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nezingane ezindala. Kudingeka ukusekela ingane yakho, mnike ithemba. Buza uthisha we-kindergarten ukusiza ukuthatha imidlalo eyobuthela izingane eqenjini. Ngokuyinhloko, lena yimidlalo lapho ngisho nengane enesabekayo ingaba khona, isibonelo, umongameli wezemidlalo. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuzivocavoca okunjalo kusiza ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwengane, ukuzethemba kwakhe kuphakama, futhi ekugcineni angazibonakalisa futhi abonise.
Indlela enhle yokwandisa ukuthandwa eqenjini ukuza neyakho, umdlalo omusha (ngosizo lwabazali), thatha ithoyizi nawe enkulisa bese umeme izingane ezidala kumdlalo wakho. Izingane zihlangana ndawonye, zidlala imidlalo ehlangene, zithola ezinye izihloko zoxhumana nabo.
Umthetho weshumi: hlonipha ingane kanye nalokho akwenzayo, lokho akufunayo nalokho akuphuphayo.
Awudingi ukuhleka futhi udinga ushintsho kwisinqumo esivela kuye. Uma ukukhetha kwengane yakho kungeke kwenzeke ekuthandeni kwakho, zama ukuthola amagama angamfakazela ukuthi lokhu akulungile noma akulungile neze. Vumela ingane yakho ifunde okuthile futhi, ngokwesibonelo, kwenye uhlobo lokuthola imidlalo, ukuphonsa ibhola, umdlalo omusha noma ukufaka i-bauble.
Umthetho weshumi nanye: gxila kulokho ingane enhle kakhulu, ungakhohlwa ukudumisa , kodwa kuphela ebhizinisini nasesikhathini. Ukwanele kufanele kube nokuhlola.
Ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwengane akuyona umsebenzi olula. Le mithetho ayisebenzisi nje kuphela ekuthuthukiseni ukuzethemba, kodwa nazo zonke izindawo zokuxhumana nokuxhumana nomntwana, futhi nawe, abazali, okokuqala. Isihluthulelo sokuzethemba esikhathini esizayo futhi kuwe ngokwakho inkolelo yokuthi uqondwa, uyathandwa futhi uyamukelwa yilokho oyikho.