Ngezinye izikhathi, ngeshwa, kufika ebuhlotsheni umzuzwana wokugcwalisa noma ukukhathala kwalabo buhlobo ngokwabo. Lo mzuzu unokwemvelo futhi, singasho ukuthi, silindele. Iqembu ngalinye likhetha indlela yalo yokuliqoba. Maye, isibalo esikhulu sabathandi bakhetha ukuma isikhashana noma ukuthatha isikhashana, kodwa lokhu, esikuphawulayo, akuyikuxazulula inkinga nganoma iyiphi indlela, kodwa kuyayichitha nje isikhala.
Yini okumele yenziwe ukuze kuvuselelwe umdlandla futhi ubuyisele isifiso sobuhlobo? Ingabe konke kulahlekile kangaka futhi akukho ukubuya? Akunjalo! Kukhona ezinye izinkolelo ongazimangalisa (futhi kangcono - ukumangala njalo) umlingani wakho ebuhlotsheni.
Khumbula ukuthi ukumbamba engazi lutho (ngezwi elizwakalayo kuphela) ngezinye izikhathi ngokwanele ukuthi waphinde wazizwa enesithakazelo kuwe. Umangaze njalo, ungaqapheli, futhi ungaqapheli ukuthi konke lokhu kuyilungiselelo elihlelekile ...
Futhi kanjani ukuyihlela? Lapha, njengezo zonke izinto ezihlobene nobuhlobo, konke kuyedwa. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, kunezeluleko eziningana ozothola kalula zona ikhanda lakho kulabo abathembekileyo futhi uzenze futhi.
Udinga ukubukela umbhangqwana ongeke ukwazi ukudonsa kusuka komunye nomunye? Banga nxazonke futhi ezindaweni zonke: emgwaqweni, emabhentshini, ekushintsheni, ezokuthutha zomphakathi, esiteji esicathula ... Ucabanga ukuthi bazana izinsuku ezimbalwa, noma ukuthi bebengakabi khona isikhathi eside? Mhlawumbe, kodwa hhayi iqiniso! Mhlawumbe, bavele bangene ebuhlotsheni babo into ethile. "Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho umangaze umlingani wakho, isibonelo, ngohambo oluzenzekelayo, umhlangano noma usuku endaweni engalindelekile, kukhona isignali esivela ku-tank yokucabanga evuselela izikhungo ezihambelana nobuchopho bomlingani wakho obangela uthando nothando," kusho Ukuhlela Okubomvu, Ph.D., umqondisi we-laboratory neurological eBaylor College of Medicine.
Ngakho-ke, ake sihambe ngqo kule ndaba ... Ekulingweni kwakho nokuqapha kukhona ezinye zezibonelo zokuthi ungamangaza kanjani (kahle, noma ngabe kuhle :) okuhle:
1. "Isoka lami libhalela izinkulumo zokuqopha ngomthetho, futhi kamuva ziphinde ziphinde zibhale encwadini. Ngolunye usuku ngayeka, futhi esikhundleni sokulandela umugqa, ngabhala ngezwi lami: "Ngifuna kakhulu!". Futhi lapho elalela ikhasethi futhi isikhathi salesi sikhombisi siseduze, ngangizilungiselela (isijeziso nakho konke okudingekayo) futhi ngimtshela ngokuqondile. Kumele ngithi lokhu kwakungenye yezinkumbulo ezicacile kimi nangokwakhe. Khona-ke, empeleni, mina, njengomfazi othembekile, ngamsiza ukuba aphinde abhale inkulumo encwadini futhi aphinde abuyele irekhodi elahlekile, "uJane, oneminyaka engu-25, wabelane ngokubonakala kwakhe
2. "Ngesinye isikhathi ngilale embhedeni intombazanyana yami ingihlabelela okuthile ngesiFulentshi. Ngicacile, ngangingazi ukuthi lokho kusho ukuthini (ngisho noma engicela ukuba ngiphume udoti), kodwa bekuzwakala kakhulu, "kusho uChris, oneminyaka engu-28 ubudala.
3. "Waqoqa amanzi kithi. Futhi lapho sithatha naye, wanciphisa ngobumnene i-glova yami, ehlihliza i-shampoo. Angikaze ngicabange ukuthi lokhu kungenza ihansi iqhume emzimbeni. Ukuzizwa kungavamile, futhi ubulili emva kwalokhu (futhi ngisho nasemanzini) kuyinto engavamile nakakhulu! "- kusho uMorgan oneminyaka engu-29 ubudala.
4. "Kodwa isikhathi se-dessert, ngokungazelelwe, kodwa ngamabomu ngaqala ibhola eliyintandokazi ye-ayisikhilimu. Wahleka, kodwa akazange alahlekelwe ikhanda futhi wangiphendula ngendlela efanayo. Ngokushesha kwavela impi yangempela phakathi kwethu, isikhali esasikudla kuso. Ngenxa yalokho, sawela phansi. Ngokwethembeka, angizange ngihlehle ngaleyo ndlela isikhathi eside. Nakuba kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuhlanza emva "kwezimpi" ezinjalo, kodwa njengoba senze lokhu kanye nokuphazamiseka kokujabulisa okuthakazelisayo, isikhathi sasihamba ngokushesha kithi. Futhi uyazi, kamuva wavuma ukuthi wayengakafiki isidlo esimnandi kakhulu! "Kusho uKim oneminyaka engu-21.
5. "Ngelinye ilanga ngangizigqoke izingubo ezijabulisayo ku-videotape futhi ngifake ngokuthula ngidlala kumdlali werekhodi. Khona-ke, kusukela kwelinye ikamelo, ngivimbela i-TV ngenkathi ngibukela umbukiso ozithandayo (ngizosho ngokushesha ukuthi akuyona ibhola!). Wathukuthele, kodwa lapho ecindezela inkinobho, wangibona esesikrinini, wabe esephenduka futhi wabona ngamehlo akhe ukuthi ngimemezele ngeso elifanayo kwelinye ikamelo, akafuni ukubukela i-TV! ", - Phil, 26, .
Yilokho mayelana namacala anjalo angenacala asitshela ukuthi sizwe. Eqinisweni, amathiphu anjalo namathiphu angaba okuningi. Konke kuxhomeke ekuhlakanipheni nasekucabangeni kwakho. Into esemqoka - ungabi namahloni ngemibono emisha. Futhi uphendulele ikhanda lakho ukuze into yothando lwakho ingaqondi ukuthi kwenzekani kulo!
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