- Ngoba wayenamahloni.
- Ngoba wayezizwa enecala.
- Ngoba wayesaba. Ukwazi ukuthi ngeke bakholwe nguye.
Ngaphandle kwezwe lethu isimo sihle kakhulu, asizange senze izifundo ezinjalo. Ungacabangi ukuthi idlulisela ingane ngaphandle komkhondo, ngisho noma encane kakhulu ukuqonda okwenziwe kuyo. Le nkumbulo ngeke ishabalale futhi ngemva kwesikhashana uzoqonda konke. Ungacabangi ukuthi phakathi kwabahlobo bakho nabangane bakho angeke baphambukise - awukwazi lokhu ngokuqinisekile, ngoba ngokuvamile babonakala banjengabantu abathandekayo, abafundisiwe, abantu abavamile. Khumbula: abantu abanjalo bangaba phakathi kodokotela, othisha, abaqeqeshi, abaphathi, njll. - bonke labo abasebenza ezikhungweni zezingane.
Indlela yokuvikela ingane futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ungahlwanyeli ukungathembi emphefumulweni wakhe kubo bonke abantu ngokujwayelekile?
Kusukela eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila, ingane ijwayele ukuthi umzimba wakhe ungowakhe kuphela futhi akekho onelungelo lokumthinta ngaphandle kwemvume yengane. Ungamanga noma ucindezele ingane uma engayifuni ngaleso sikhathi. Futhi ungavumeli lokhu kwenzeke ngabanye abantu nezihlobo, kuhlanganise nogogo, omkhulu, njll.
Chaza ukuthi cishe akekho umuntu owaziwayo noma ongajwayelekile ofuna ingane ibe yimbi. "Okubi" kuncane kakhulu futhi hhayi ukuthi ingane izobahlangabeza. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukwazi "okubi", ngoba kubukeka sengathi "kuhle." Ngakho-ke, uma kwenzeka, umuntu akakwazi ukuya noma yikuphi kunoma ubani ngaphandle kwemvume yabazali.
Tshela ingane ukuthi i-"bad" iheha izingane kanjani: ukudla okulula kanye namathoyizi; isithembiso sokubonisa okuthile okuthakazelisayo - amantombazane, ama-kittens, amathangi, umdlalo onomdla kwi computer, njll; izicelo zosizo; kubhekisela kubazali ("Ngithunyelwe kuwe umama ...").
Ungatsheli imininingwane ngokuthi yini "embi" engayenza kumntwana, kodwa uthi kusabeka kakhulu. Uma ingane, ngaphandle kwemvume, isuka egcekeni, kumakhelwane, kubangani - isijeziso kufanele sibe siqinile: kufanele unqande unomphela ukuhamba kwakhe (noma imihlangano nabangani, imidlalo, imidwebo, njll). Ukuziqhenya kule ndaba kuzokuphendula ngokuhlangenwe nakho okwesabekayo lapho umntwana efika ebusheni futhi ungazi ukuthi ukhona, obani ...
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu: yenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ingane ikuthembele. Izindaba zezingane ngaye futhi mayelana nezenzakalo zokuphila kwakhe zizokusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi ingane ivumelane kanjani nezimo ezahlukene futhi ingazivikela. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungathola ukuthi kukhona abaphikisayo phakathi kwendawo yakhe futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokumvikela. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unomatasa kangakanani, kufanele ulalele njalo ingane uma efuna ukukutshela okuthile. Futhi uma ingane yakho ingadingi ukukhuluma ngaye, khona-ke wena kufanele umbize ukuthi akhulume. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukutshela indaba kusukela ebuntwaneni bakho noma kusukela ebuntwaneni bomndeni wakho noma abangane bakho. Lokhu kuyathakazelisa kakhulu izingane: "kubonakala lapho umama (ubaba) engancani kakhulu nami, futhi izindaba ezimbi, ezingathandeki, ezihlekisayo nazo zenzeke kubo!".
Gcina engqondweni: uma ingane ingathintana nabazali, khona-ke uyayifuna kwabanye abantu nangaphandle kwekhaya.
Ngakho-ke, umgomo wezemfundo "ephephile" ukufaka enganeni ukuthi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi uma enamathela emithethweni ethile yokuziphatha, ngeke angene enkingeni, futhi uma kukhona isimo esiyingozi, uzothola indlela yokuphuma ngayo, ngoba abazali bamfundisa ukuthi angayenza kanjani .