Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ingane enokuziphatha kwezingelosi, isifinyelele eminyakeni engama-4, ishintsha kakhulu, ukuziphatha kwakhe kuyinto engalawuleki, izinyane lezinhlanga ezihlala njalo, livumelane, libhebhe, liphikisana nezinkathazo nabadala, ikakhulukazi abazali. Futhi manje, kubazali, okokuqala, ukubekezela kuyadingeka. Kulula kakhulu ukumemeza, ukuhlambalaza, ingane encane, unike upapa kunokuba ube nesineke futhi usize ingane yakho iphile esinye isigaba sokukhula kwakhe.
Izingane ezineminyaka emine zinezintshisekelo kakhulu. Bafunda ngenkuthalo izwe elibazungezile. Ngalesi sikhathi, ingane iqala ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nalokho okwenzekayo, isenzo sabanye, umbono omuhle noma omubi wezenzo zabantu abadala. Kakade kule minyaka uvinjisela okuthile kumntanakhe, udinga ukwakha kuphela ukuvinjelwa, kodwa incazelo yokukhonjiswa, okungukuthi "akuvunyelwe" kuphela, kodwa "kungani kungenjalo."
Kule minyaka, kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuhlaziya izenzo zakhe, okwenza umehluko ocacile phakathi kwesenzo esihle nokuhle. Ukuze wenze imisebenzi emihle okufanele udumise, kanye nokuhlazeka okubi futhi ungagxeki, kodwa ukuchaza okungahambi kahle. Kubalulekile ukuvumela ingane ukuthi iyindoda enhle kakhulu futhi ethandekayo, kodwa lokho akwenzayo akulungile. Xoxa umculo kumasiko athile okuziphatha, ngoba "uhlwanyele" manje, bese "uvuna" esikhathini esizayo. Fundisa ukuhlonipha abadala. Kubalulekile futhi ukufundisa ingane ukuba igcine umyalelo endlini, imjwayele ezindabeni zasekhaya, kodwa hhayi ngokumemeza nangokuhlelekile, kodwa ngemisebenzi ehlanganisiwe ejabulisayo ifomu elidlalayo. Ngakho ngeke ushaye ukuzingela, ukuhlanekezela, kubangele isithakazelo nemizwelo emihle.
Lapho eneminyaka emine ubudala, umntwana udinga ukuxhumana noontanga. Ukukhulumisana okunjalo kudala amakhono okunamathisela kwabanye abantu, ngaphandle, lokhu kungukuqala kobudlelwane obungane.
Izingane ezineminyaka emine ubudala zilimale kakhulu. Ukugxeka ekuqondiseni kwabo kufanele kube okulungile, kodwa hhayi kabi. Malysh udinga ukuqashelwa kwakho. Izingane zalesi sizwe zidinga "indlela yokuphuma" yolwazi, ngakho-ke umgomo wabazali ukusekela ngokugcwele futhi ngokugcwele ingane yabo ngolwazi lwezwe elibazungezile.
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ingane, ngaphambi kokuba imtshise umama wayo ngokufutheka, lapho kuqala ukuguga kweminyaka emine iqala ukuyilahla futhi ithi ayiyithandi. Kubalulekile ukuthatha lo mzuzwana ngokuthula futhi ngaphandle kokucasula nokuphazanyiswa. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho idinga ukubonakaliswa okwengeziwe kothando, ukunakekelwa, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kumqaphela njengomuntu ozama isenzo esizimele.
Ngezansi izincomo eziyinhloko ezisiza ukubhebhethekisa ubudlelwane obunzima phakathi kwezingane nabazali babo:
- Khuthaza ingane ukuba yenza izinto ezinhle. Ngokuvamile umdumise ngaphezu kokujezisa. Ngakho-ke, umntwana uzokwakha isimo sengqondo esihle sokuphila.
- Smile kaningi futhi ujabule nengane yakho. Kakhulu ngangokunokwenzeka unake ingane yakho, hamba ndawonye. Isimo sengqondo esihle senza ingane ijabule futhi inempilo, futhi ukuhlanganyela isikhathi esizayo kuyosinika isisekelo sobudlelwano obufudumele esikhathini esizayo.
- Lalela ngokucophelela ingane yakho, uxhumane naye, ungaphikisani kakhulu, ngisho noma ungavumelani nemibono yengane yakho.
- Uma uthembisa okuthile kumntanakho, njalo ugcwalise isithembiso sakho. Ngakho wenza isimo sengqondo esinokwethenjelwa emazwini abo kusukela esemncane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukudumazeka nokulindela okungamanga kwamlimaza kakhulu ingane yengqondo.
- Uma wenqabele okuthile kumntanakho, kufanele kube phakade, hhayi namuhla, kodwa kusasa ungakwenza, ngoba isimo sakho sengqondo sishintshile.
- Ungalokothi uqalekise noma ushayele ingane yakho.
- Zama ukungakhulumi ngezinkinga zomndeni nengane futhi ungaxabisani, ngoba lokhu kuzophazamisa ingane yakho futhi kuzokulimaza.
- Uma umntwana ekhononda noma eshaya emanzini, zama ukuzola, kungcono ukumcindezela umntwana bese ubamba kuze kube yilapho ephumula.
Abazali bengane eneminyaka emine badinga ukunquma ukuthi hlobo luni lomuntu okufanele aluphakamise: ivulekile, inomusa futhi imnandi noma ivaliwe futhi ivaliwe egoist. Izingane, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukukopisha abantu abadala, ngakho qaphela ukuziphatha kwabo, ubuhlobo bomunye nomunye, isiko lokuziphatha emndenini. Uma ungathandi okuthile ekuziphatheni kwengane, bheka i "nail" kuwe. Imfundo engcono kunazo zonke yisibonelo sokuhlangana komndeni okuhambelana. Futhi nakuba ukukhuliswa kwezingane kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, kodwa kubazali abacabangelayo nabahlakaniphile abangafundisi kuphela kodwa futhi bafunde ngokwabo, kungenzeka ukuthi bakwazi ukuqonda le nqubo.