Ngempela, izingane zidinga inkululeko? Inkululeko, engenamkhawulo, engenakho uhlaka, cha, akudingeki. Akunikezi ithuba lokufunda isiko futhi ube nguMuntu - lowo ophethe incwadi enkulu. Inkululeko, evumela futhi isiza ukuqonda imigomo yokuziphatha phakathi kwabantu, yebo, kuyadingeka. Kodwa ingabe imithetho iyatholakala ezinganeni? Ukuze kuzuze ingane nabathandekayo bakhe, kubalulekile ukukhomba imingcele yalokho okuvunyelwe. Kancane kancane, lezo zimo ezilahlwa yilabo abadala abasondelene nabo ngeke zamukeleke ngane, ikakhulukazi uma abazali bebeka imingcele ngokuhlakanipha nangokucacile. Ngokuba imvuthu, izwe elingenamingcele liyisiphazamiso, futhi ukushayisana kuyaphazamisa, okwenza kube nomuzwa wengozi. Ezama ukuqeda ukukhathazeka, inyane liqala ukubheka imingcele abantu abadala abangazange bambonise yona. Kulesi sosesho, ubonakala "ehlola" abazali.
Ezinyangeni ezingu-18 umntwana waqala ukwenza amahlaya amaningi. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthukuthela ngokomzwelo. Isibonelo, izingane eziningi azibekezeleli ukuphoqeleka okuphoqelelwe futhi zilinde - kulezi zimo, abakhohlisi bangasusa isizathu esingenasidingo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuziphatha okubi kungabangelwa ukufisa okuncane ukuheha abantu abadala, ukungabi nokuqonda ukuthi akuzona zonke izifiso ezingagcwaliseka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu, ngokuvamile umntanakhe ngesikhathi sokuzizwa engakwazi ukubhekana naye. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ihlale iphumule futhi ingalambi, ngoba ukuziphatha okungenakuqhathaniswa kwasebusheni ngokuvamile kuvinjelwa izimbangela zomzimba. Esikhathini sezinsuku zonke kumele kufaka phakathi ukuhamba, imidlalo esebenzayo nokuhamba, kusiza "ukukhulula umusi," ukulahla amandla. Uzwa ukuthi i-crumb iqala ukuhlambalaza, ukuthola ukuthi ingane ifuna nokuthi ingasiza kanjani, chaza ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuqonda umuntu omemezayo. Thatha ingane endaweni ephephile, njenge-crib, qinisekisa ukuthi ingane evuthayo ayikwazi ukuzilimaza. Hlala eduze nesihlubuki esincane futhi umtshele ukuthi ungakwazi ukudlala naye kuphela lapho ehlisa phansi. Indlela yokubhekana nokusabalalisa kokudla kwengane? Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Izingane zibona ukudla njengenye ithoyizi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bathanda ukuhlola izinto, hlola amandla abo phezu kwabo, baphathe. Etafuleni kufanele kube nesimo esibi kakhulu. Nikeza izingxenye ezincane futhi ufake isithasiselo kuphela lapho ipuleti engenalutho. Qaphela lokho ingane ibonisa isithakazelo esengeziwe futhi yiziphi izingxenye ayidingayo. Uma i-crumb iqala ukusabalalisa ukudla, kuyisiginali ukuthi sesivele igcwele.
Indlela yokulawula isithakazelo somntwana ezifundweni eziyingozi? Abantwana abaneminyaka eyodwa banesilinganiso esiphansi kakhulu sokuzithiba kanye nesifiso esikhulu, ngakho kunzima ngabo ukuba banciphise insizakalo yabo ezintweni eziphephile kuphela. Qaphela ngokucophelela imizamo yengane ukuze ufunde isikhala esengeziwe futhi ngaphezulu: uma usabela ngokwengeziwe ngokomzwelo, ukukhangisa okuba ngokwengeziwe kuba into encane, okwenze ukuthi umuntu omdala aphendule. Akudingekile kuphela ukudala izimo lapho umntwana angakwazi ukuhlola khona ngokuphepha umhlaba, kodwa futhi afundise ingane ukuthi kukhona izinto ezingaphephile. Lapho ingane idonselwa into engafanele ithinteke, yisho ngokuthula, kodwa ngokuqinile: "Cha! Lapho awukwazi! "- bese uyisusa kude nale ndawo. Unganika ingane yakho isipiliyoni sokuxhumana nokuthile okuyingozi ngendlela elula: thinta ama-prongs emfolokweni kumunwe wengane, ngenkathi uthi: "Kakhulu. Kuyingozi! "
Indodana encane iyashaya futhi imlonda umfowabo omdala. Ngingayeka kanjani lokhu? Ngokuvamile, izingane zisebenzisa indlela yokuhlukunyezwa, lapho zingenakuveza imizwelo yazo ngamazwi. Abanye bangase babhekane nobudlova ngenxa yokwanda kwe-system yezinzwa. Ukuhlukunyezwa kuthinta izingane futhi ukugxeka abantu abadala, ukuvinjelwa okuningi kakhulu. YINI OKUSENZA? Umsebenzi kaMama ukugqugquzela ukuthi ukulwa nokuluma ukuziphatha okungamukeleki usebenzisa imishwana elula: "Awukwazi ukuluma!", "Asilwi!", "Ungenzi! Kungikhathaza! "Kumele simise ngokomzimba umntwana, sibambe isandla esithinta omunye umuntu. Kubalulekile ukusho: "Ngiyaqonda ukuthi manje usithukuthele, kodwa angikwazi ukukuvumela ukuba ucasule omunye." Enhliziyweni yezobudlova kukhona umzwelo - intukuthelo, ukufutheka. Ekukhulumisaneni nengane, ungabeki ukuvinjelwa komzwelo, ungasho ukuthi: "Yeka ukuthukuthela!" - lokhu kungaphezu kwamandla wengane; ngokucacile nangokucacile ukuvimbela kuphela izenzo ezinonya. Awukwazi ukushaya ingane ekuphenduleni, ukuze yena ngokwakhe azizwe ukuthi ubuhlungu kanjani: "Ububi buveza ububi." Kunalokho, cindezela "umhlatshelo". Kulolu cala ukuthi lo mgqozi uyaqaphela ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyabuhlungu, futhi "ukucasuka" kudinga ukuzwelana. Ngitshele indlela yokuxazulula le mpikiswano. Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo kwezingane kusuka emidlalweni yokuxhumana, ukuphikisana kwengane, lapho izingane futhi ziqhube khona, futhi zithatha futhi zikhalane. Ukungenelela kuphela uma omunye wezingane ebuza ngalokhu noma ubona ukuthi omunye wabantwana ulimazekile.
Uma ingane ingenangqondo, i-scandals noma ihlela abahlaziyi endaweni yomphakathi, akudingekile:
- umemeza;
- hamba ingane futhi ufeze izidingo zakhe;
- ukwesaba imizwelo embi yengane;
- qhathanisa ingane nezinye izingane "ezingalokothi zenze noma yini";
Yisho ama-sacramental abazali "Nonke nibukele !!!" - Ukuba khona kwababukeli kuvame ukwenza kube nzima ukuziphatha okubi.
Ungakwazi, futhi ngezinye izikhathi udinga:
- ukuthatha noma ukuthatha umntwana endaweni yesehlakalo;
- guqula ukunakwa;
- ukudumisa ingane lapho eziphatha kahle kuyisisusa kuye;
- siphenduka ekuziphatheni okubi nge "cha" ecacile nesibonakaliso esibucayi.
Ngisho noma ingane ingayiqondi amagama, ukubonakala kwakho kwesobuso kuzomnika lonke ulwazi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo kwezinye izingane igama elithi "akunakwenzeka" liyi-rag ngenkunzi. Bathi, ngisho noma bebancane kakhulu, banamagama afaneleka kakhulu "Ngakho akudingi, ngoba ...". Kumele kuchazwe - ngaphandle kokushiwo isikhathi eside (ingane encane, amagama amancane) futhi kuphela lapho ingane ikhubeka, ukuthi awukhathazi ngokuziphatha kwengane nokuthi kufanele uziphatha kanjani; funa izindlela zakho zokuqondisa, ucabangela ukuzikhethela, kokubili okwenu futhi wenze njengokufana komntwana wakho obomvu.