Emaphupheni ethu sicabanga ukuthi impilo yomndeni iyinto ekhethekile, sithemba ukuthi lokhu kuzoba yinguquko yangempela, emva kwalokho, kuyofika isikhathi sokujabula okuphelele nenjabulo. Ukukhohlwa ukuthi ekuphileni nakho kunezinkinga, esizobhekana nazo ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kodwa impilo yangempela iyingozi kakhulu, futhi inemivimbo emhlophe nemhlophe. Lokhu kubonakala ngokukhethekile ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kombhangqwana osemusha, lapho umndeni wabo usanda kuqala ukubeka imithetho nemithetho yabo.
Abantu abakhulile ngokukhuliswa okuhlukile, izindlela zomndeni, ababona ukuziphatha okuhlukile kwabazali babo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi bahlala ngaphansi kwezimo ezehlukene zezezimali - okokuqala kunzima ukukhetha indlela eyodwa okufanele baqhubeke ngayo yokwakha umndeni wabo. Kuneziphakamiso eziningana zokuthi ungasungula kanjani umndeni osemusha, okumele, uma ungawenzi ukukhuluma, okungenani ucabange.
Abazali.
Abazali basondelene kakhulu futhi basithandayo kakhulu abantu abafuna thina kuphela okuhle kakhulu. Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi ukhetho lwethu lomlingani empilweni yonke eye yaba, kahle, aluhambisani, ngaphansi kwalowo mfanekiso okhanyayo, abawudonsa iminyaka eminingi emcabangweni wabo. Ngakho-ke, ngokushesha kuyadingeka ukuxazulula lo mbuzo, bese uchaza ukuthi yini oyikhethayo, futhi uhlala. Futhi kaningi, abazali abavela ekuphakameni kwempilo yabo siqu bazama ukugcwalisa labo abasanda kushada ngezeluleko zokuziphatha ngendlela yokuphila, ukusebenzisana nokuphatha izimali. Yiqiniso, phakathi kwakho konke lokhu kunenzuzo, kodwa njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, wonke umama uqala "ukudonsa ingubo" kumntanakhe. Ngakho-ke, "akuwona umsebenzi womuntu", "umfazi ongenamfazi" nokunye okuningi.
Ngakho-ke, uma kwenzeka ngokushesha emva komshado ukuqala ukuhlala ngokwahlukana nabazali - yenzeni. Zama ukungabhekisi ukuxabana kwakho nezinkinga ngaphandle kwesidingo esikhethekile sokwahlulela kwabazali, ukuxazulula kuphela phakathi kwabo.
Uma usadingeka uhlale ndawonye nomunye wabazali bakho - ungabekezelelani izingxabano ezingaphezu kwemikhakha yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, ungawaphuli abazali bakho, ubaphathe ngenhlonipho. Uma uthola isichotho sezeluleko kusukela ngosuku lokuqala - vele ucele ukukunika ithuba lokwenza konke lokhu. Uma ngabe isicelo asizange sisize, sisalokhu silalele, silalele noma cha - lokhu kungokwakho.
Bytovuha.
Kunombono wokuthi izinkinga zansuku zonke emndenini omusha, ngokuvamile zibangele ukuwa kwemizwa. Kulokhu kukhona iqiniso. Kodwa ukunqoba kubekezelela kuphela labo abangakwazi ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga, noma kunalokho abafuni ukukwenza. Imisebenzi yasendlini yayiyiyo, ikhona futhi iyoba, futhi ayihambanga noma kuphi. Kuphela lapha kusuka ekusakazeni kwakho, kuzoxhomeka kukho konke ukuphila okulandelayo. Lapho usakaza imisebenzi endlini, bobabili kufanele bahileleke. Ukulungisa impilo yomndeni osemusha kungenza izenzo ezihlangene zabashadayo. Ungabuki emuva esikhathini esidlule bese wabelana yonke imithwalo yemfanelo yabesilisa nabesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, namuhla owesifazane, njengendoda, uthola imali, nokupheka, ukuhlanza nokugeza, ngenxa yobuchwepheshe banamuhla, akudingi umzamo omkhulu. Kusukela ngosuku lokuqala, vumelana ukwenza konke ndawonye, futhi uhambisane nalesi sivumelwano. Uma ngamunye wenu edlulela inkambo egcwele yesosha elincane endaweni yokuhlala ekhaya, uzokwazi ukuqonda imizamo yomunye nomunye, okuzoqeda ukulwa kwempi.
Ungathukutheli futhi ungenzi izigcawu, uma, kukhona okwenziwe okungalungile. Konke lokhu kuyinto yakho yokuphila, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi yonke imisebenzi izogcwaliseka ngokufanele.
Ezezimali.
"Uthando luyeza futhi luyahamba, kodwa njalo ufuna ukudla" - ngamunye wethu, uma engakhulumi, okungenani wezwa le nkulumo. Futhi uyasondela incazelo emfushane yokuphila kwethu kunanini ngaphambili. Futhi ukuze kube nokuphila okujabulisayo nokubaluleke kakhulu, umndeni osemusha udinga isisekelo somzimba. Ukuthembela kosizo lwabazali akufanele, emva kwakho konke wanquma ukuqala impilo yokuzimela. Kodwa ngokuvamile ekuqaleni kwemali okuningi akunakwenzeka. Futhi kufanelekile ukulungisa ngokwengqondo.
Ngisho noma bobabili abashadile basebenzayo, indlela yokuphila yamahhala yokukhubazeka nokuhluleka ukusabalalisa imali ngokuzenzekelayo bazizwe bazizwa ezinyangeni zokuqala. Ngakho-ke izingxabano, ukufutheka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho namahlazo. Imibhangqwana eminingi ayikwazi ukuyiyeka futhi iyishiye ngenxa yobunzima bezezimali, ikakhulukazi uma ingabonwanga.
Ukuze ugweme izimo ezinjalo, zama ukuhlukanisa isabelomali semindeni yakho zibe izindleko eziyisisekelo, imali eyengeziwe futhi mahhala. Futhi khumbula, kusukela manje umqondo wokuthi "wakho" no "wami" ushintsha "waba" wethu, futhi isabelomali somndeni kufanele sabiwe. Kulezo zimo kuphela ngeke ube nezingxabano ngalokhu, futhi kuyoba lula ukulungisa indlela yokuphila yomndeni osemusha.
Yiqiniso, yonke imindeni ibeka imithetho yayo, abanye abafazi abafuni ukusebenza futhi bathole imali ethile kumyeni wabo njalo ngesonto ngokudla kanye nezinto ezidingekayo, noma, ngokufanayo, indoda enika konke ayitholayo kumkakhe ngokuphila "ngalezi zinto". Kodwa uzicabange wena, ungathanda ukufihla i-stash, noma uyifihle kuwe? Yiqiniso, kuphezu kwakho.
Ungakhohlwa ngemizwa.
Naphezu kwazo zonke izinkinga nezinkinga, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ugqoka izindandatho njengesibonakaliso sothando lwakho olulodwa, hhayi ukuthengwa okuhlanganyelwe nokugeza izitsha. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uthole isikhathi sokuveza imizwa yakho. Qhubeka nokuhamba okufanayo kusihlwa, uye emakhakheni nasezinkundleni zokudla, uxoxisane ngezipho nokumangala, sebenzisa ubusuku bokuthandana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje awudingi ukugijimela ekuthuthweni kokugcina okuphumayo, bese ubika kubazali bakho. Sebenzisa wonke amathuba umshado okunika wona. Ungakhohlwa ukuvuma omunye nomunye othandweni, shayela amagama abonisa uthando, ubonise ukukhathalela nokwethembeka, bese zonke izinkinga zizovela ngemuva. Khumbula uthando lwakho, ikakhulukazi ngenkathi ingxabano isemuva, futhi khumbula ukuthi emva kokuxabana kuzoba khona ukubuyisana okujabulisayo.
Ngemuva kwalokho, mhlawumbe maduzane sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala uzosusa imizamo ehlangene ehlobene nokuzalwa kwemvuthu.