Yiqiniso, kuhle ukuphupha. Kodwa kungcono nakakhulu uma iphupho liba ngokoqobo. UDanielle Laporte uye wakha indlela entsha yokufeza imigomo, ngenxa yokuthi izinkulungwane zabantu zisishintshile izimpilo zabo. Namuhla sizokhuluma ngalokhu futhi sikutshele ekuzivocavoca okuvela encwadini yakhe ethi "Phila nomzwelo" - kulabo abafuna ukufeza amaphupho abo.
Kungani sidinga "imigomo efanele" namaphupho
Izifiso zethu zithululwa ezenzweni, futhi yiziphi izenzo - kanjalo kuyisikhathi . Ungahlehliseli izinto zonke kamuva bese uzama ukufaka izwi lakho langaphakathi. Ukuphila akupheli, konke akunakwenziwa. Lezi zindinganiso zenza uDanielle Laporte ubheke izinhloso zakhe futhi aqonde ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle. Ukumfundela kwakhe, wayekwazi ukwakha uhlelo olumelana nenqubo evamile yokubeka imigomo, iphendulela phansi. Cishe wonke umuntu eMhlabeni ekujuleni komphefumulo wakhe amaphupho okuphila okuhlukile: kuhle ukushintsha imisebenzi, ubuyekeze ubudlelwane nomngane omdala, thola okuzilibazisa, uhambe njalo, ufunde ulimi futhi unakekele ukuletha umzimba ngokuhlelekile. Kubonakala sengathi lokhu kuhlukaniswe futhi kuxhunyiwe kancane, kodwa yiyo kanye lezinto ezakha impilo yansuku zonke. Uma unayo "amaphuzu" anjalo, sincoma ukuthi sinake indlela kaDaniella Laporte. Kuyinto elula, kodwa ephumelelayo. Ngesizo salo, ungakwazi kancane kancane ukwethula izinguquko - futhi ngenxa yalokho, maduzane uza ekuphileni okujabulisayo nakwehlukile.Iyini Imephu Yesifiso
Ikhadi lesifiso yiluhlelo olukuvumela ukuba uphendule imibono ngokoqobo ngosizo lombuzo owodwa: "Ngifuna ukuzizwa kanjani?". Lo mbuzo olula wenza ukuthi uhluke kakhulu ukuhlela impilo yakho futhi wenze imisebenzi yansuku zonke. Into yokuqala oyenzayo ukugxila kumzwelo nemizwelo ofuna ukuyenza kusasa / ngesonto / ngonyaka, bese kuphela wabeka imigomo futhi uwaphule zibe izenzo ezincane. Ngokuvamile abantu bahluke: kuqala babhala imigomo, bese kuthi lapho befinyelelwa, baqonda imizwa evelile. Isibonelo, washukumisela izinga lezemisebenzi, njengoba ayekade efuna, futhi waba ngumphathi omkhulu. Kodwa kwaba ukuthi lokhu akusiyo kuphela umholo ohloniphekile, kodwa futhi ne-sotail kangaka yokuzibophezela kanye nesimiso esingekho esimisiwe. Umphumela uba ukudumala, ukucasula, ukunganaki. Akuyona imizwa engcono kakhulu emhlabeni. Kodwa ungakwenza ngokuhlukile! Okokuqala, unqume ngemizwa ofuna ukuyizwa. Kungaba injabulo, ukuthula, ugqozi, amandla, ukuhlushwa, ubuciko. Imibuzo elandelayo ozibuzayo iyoba yilezi: "Ngimiphi imigomo engizoyizwa yona le mizwa?" Futhi "Yiziphi izenzo okufanele ngizithathe manje / kusasa / kuleli sonto / kule nyanga ukuzwa le mizwa?" . Ngakho uzodala uhlelo lonyaka ozayo noma ngisho namaningana, amaphuzu amakhulu azoba amaphupho akho kanye nemigomo yakho yangempela - labo okufunwa ngumphefumulo, hhayi imishwana ejwayelekile njengokuthi "uthenga imoto", "yiba umuntu ophumelelayo" (ngendlela, angazi ukuthi yini ingabe lokho kusho?) noma "thola umndeni".Ukuzivocavoca "Umzimba Nempilo"
Ungakwazi ukufeza okuningi - lapha nje sidinga ukuthola ukuthi kungani uyidinga (nokuthi ngabe uyayidinga nhlobo). Uma uqaphela ngokucacile imizwa nemizwelo ofuna ukuyithola ekuseni, ukuvuka ebuthongweni, emsebenzini, ebuhlotsheni nabathandekayo, uzothola ukuthi uzama izinto ezihluke kakhulu kunomsebenzi ohloniphekile "kumalume . " Futhi indlela eya emgomweni wakho iyoba injabulo kuwe. Ngakho uzothola ukwaneliseka ngokufinyelela umgomo esikhathini esithile kamuva, esikhathini esizayo esiyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa namuhla nanamuhla. Ikhadi lesifiso lingcono ukwenziwa kabili ngonyaka, ukuze kube nethuba lokubuyekeza okufakwayo kwakho - ingabe udinga ukulungiswa ngokuzumayo? Le ndlela ifanele kubantu abasebenza futhi abamatasa: uhlelo olucacile oluqukethe imigomo nezinyathelo ezibalulekile, futhi alishintshi nsuku zonke. Ukwenza Imephu ephelele yezifiso, udinga ukuhamba kuzo zonke izici ezibalulekile zokuphila. Okwamanje, zama ukuthola "imizwa yakho yesikhathi esizayo" endaweni enjengeMzimba Nezempilo. Lokhu kuhlanganisa izinto ezincane: ukudla, ukuqina, ukuphumula, ukuphumula, impilo yengqondo, ukuziphatha, ukunyakaza, ukuphulukisa. Ukwenza lo msebenzi, cabanga ngalokho ongathanda ukukwenza ngokomzwelo kulezi zinto.- Ukuze "ubambe" umvuthwandaba omuhle, bhala phansi ephepheni lakho konke okubonga ngokuphila emkhakheni weMzimba nezeMpilo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzosiza ukuthola ukuthi ungagxila kuphi. Kunconywa ukucacisa ukuthi kungani ubonga kakhulu.
- Isigaba sesibili sifuna ubuthakathaka : dwelisa konke ongawuthandi kule ndawo yokuphila. Emva kwakho konke, ukuze ulungise izinto, udinga ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi. Udinga ukugxila ezinkingeni ezibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ungakhohlwa ngezinto ezincane.
- Isikhathi sesifikile lapho konke kwaqalwa khona - ukuhlonza imizwa efunayo. Cabanga bese ubhala phansi yonke imizwelo nemizwa ongathanda ukuyizwa ngayo ngeMzimba Nezempilo. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzothola uhlu olude. Futhi kuhle kakhulu! Ungazihlolisisi futhi ungayeki ukugeleza kokuqonda - bhala konke okufika engqondweni yakho ngaphandle kokuhlunga. Ingqondo kufanele iqhubeke eceleni, okungenani isikhathi sokuba i-violin yokuqala umphefumulo wakho.
- Futhi manje sinciphise uhlu lwemibono . Ungakwenza ngokushesha noma ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Phinda futhi, cabangela igama ngalinye eliqoshiwe, libize ngokuzwakalayo futhi unqume ukuthi yilokho ngempela okufunayo. Shiya igama uma uzwa imizwelo eqinile kakhulu esimweni sakhe sengqondo: ufuna ukukhala, uthukuthele, ukumomotheka, uthola umuzwa wenjabulo nenjabulo. Lena imizwa eyimfihlo kunazo zonke.