Umuntu ofanelekayo - ingokoqobo noma inganekwane? Ubukeka kanjani? "Umuntu ofanelekayo emehlweni omuntu wesifazane" yisihloko sendaba yethu yanamuhla.
Kusukela ebuntwaneni ebusweni empilweni yazo zonke izintombi kukhona umfanekiso omuhle wendoda ephupho - induna yenkosikazi. Usuvele unikezwe zonke izimfanelo ezidingekayo kuphela umuntu ongcono ongazuza. Futhi siqala ukumfuna phakathi kwabahlobo bethu, abangane, abajwayele kanye nabantu abangabazi. Siyaqhubeka nokufuna lokhu kuhle ngokwenza amaphutha, sizikhohlise noma ngabe senze ukhetho lomlingani empilweni.
Kodwa ungubani, lo mfokazi ongaqondakali? Futhi kungani lo mlando uhlala futhi ukhula ukuthi, ngisho noma uhlangana naye, uthole inhliziyo yenhle, kusalokhu kungenakwenzeka? Kuyinto engalawuleki, njengesihlabathi esiqongelela ngeminwe yakho, umfula oguqula inkambo yayo ngezikhathi ezithile, njengesikhashana esingeke siphinde senzeke. Ngaphandle kokuhlala isikhathi eside futhi enganikeli izithembiso, uya kumngane wakhe, boss, akunandaba, into esemqoka - komunye owesifazane. Futhi emva kwesikhashana umjikelezo uphinda futhi omunye uvele ekhala emfuleni, eselahlekelwe indoda yakhe ekahle ... Kodwa siyini isizathu? Futhi-ke siqala ukuzibeka icala, sizihlambalaze ngokuthi asizange senze konke okusemandleni ethu, njll Kodwa kungase kungabi ngathi, kodwa ngakho?
Yini esikwaziyo ngomuntu ofanelekayo? Uyini? Ayikho impendulo eyodwa kulo mbuzo.
Kodwa uma sizibeka emgomweni wokumgcina ekukhoneni kwakhe, kufanele sikulungele ukulwa nakho konke ukuphila kwakhe ngokusongela okubonakalayo nangokwesaba. Kuzodingeka sifunde ukuthi singalindela kanjani futhi sixwayise izingozi: lapho umzingeli owaziwayo ehlakaza izicupho, lapho u-lioness oyedwa efihlekile, futhi indoda yethu ekahle iyabaleka njengezinyoni ezingenalwazi elangeni elishisayo. Emahlombe ethu kuzophathiswa umsebenzi wokulondoloza umqondo wekhono elizuziwe. Ngemuva kwalokho, kufanele njalo egqoke ngenaliti futhi ephethwe futhi enomsoco. Futhi njengoba echitha isikhathi sakhe ekwenzeni izenzo ezinhle, akanalo isikhathi esanele sokukhathalela emhlabeni. Futhi i-akhawunti ayisho ukuthi usenabantwana, okudingeke futhi ukuba ubanakekele ngokungathandeki. Futhi kuthiwani ngowesifazane ongcono? Yini okufanele ibonakale? Ngabe ungathatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuphatha konke futhi ugcine ukulinganisa isimo sengqondo? Lo mbuthano ononya awuphuli, kepha uma ubheka - okulungile kuzokweqa kuwe.
Lena inkolelo enzima kangaka. Noma mhlawumbe lokhu kuyiqiniso? Singazi kangakanani ngabantu ababona lo muntu ovelele kakhulu? Akusikho esikrinini se-TV, hhayi kumanoveli womshado, kodwa okwamanje. Lowo ohlala ezimweni zezwe lethu, hhayi emcabangweni wabalobi nabaqondisi. Singakwazi yini ukuziqhayisa ngabangane abanjalo?
Umbuzo uvela: yini okufanele owesifazane akwenze, indlela yokuphila engakaze ihlangabezane nomuntu ofanelekayo? Zinikezela yonke impilo yakho ekusesheni futhi uhlale unesizungu, uhlonipha iphupho lakho? Ungakwazi yini ukuthumela izikhangiso, ukuxhuma abangani nokuhlela usesho salowo mhle?
Kukhona enye inketho engashiwo igama. Umuntu ofanelekayo usengadalwa. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho futhi umfundise ukugqoka kahle, ukulinda kahle, ukulalele amahora amaningi, ube nesithakazelo embhedeni, uyeke imikhuba emibi futhi uzuze okuwusizo ... Lolu hlu luzoqhubeka kuze kube phakade. Kodwa kukhona okukodwa kodwa. Ungayithola kanjani inhliziyo yakho ukusitshela ukuthi le ndoda yinto ekahle kakhulu ongayibaleki? Kuyoba incwadi yethu efundwayo, lapho sikwazi ngekhanda umugqa ngamunye ngenhliziyo, ngoba nabo bayibhala.
Yingakho kufanele sihlupheke, sikhathele futhi silinde, silinde, ulinde ...
Kodwa kungani-ke, lapho abesifazane abaningi behlangana nendoda engaphelele, ngezinkinga eziningi, ukuxoshwa kwezilwane ezidliwayo kubambelele kuye, bashade futhi ezimweni eziningi bajabula emshadweni?
Impendulo i-trite elula. Kwanele ukubuka nxazonke, ukubheka ngempela umhlaba lapho ubude nabantu abalungile, kokubili amadoda nabesifazane, baphile. Lona ubuhle bendawo yonke. Esikhundleni sokufuna nokukhomba amaphutha, kufanele siqaphele isithunzi somuntu, umhlaba wakhe wangaphakathi, ongakhokhelela izikhathi eziyikhulu hhayi nje kuphela ukungalungi kwamadoda, kodwa futhi nokwabo, ukugcwalisa izimpilo zethu ngezincazelo ezintsha, imibono kanye namagugu. Kodwa simatasa kakhulu ukukhulisa izinga lethu lomqondo futhi sichaza izinga labo kwabanye esisebenzisa sonke isikhathi sethu samahhala namandla kule nqubo eqhubekayo, esikhundleni sokunikeza umuntu ongekho omuhle ithuba lokuzidalula ngokwakhe futhi aziveze ngokuqondile.
Zonke izinkomba zizoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngakho-ke kungani ungabukezi isimo sabo sengqondo nomqondo wokuthi "uhle". Yileyo ndlela indoda enhle ekhangayo ngayo owesifazane.