Amadoda amaningi awafuni ukukhuluma okuningi, bavame ukucabanga ngento ethile. Yiqiniso, iningi lazo imicabango zabo lizohlala liyimfihlakalo, kodwa zikhona izimfihlo ezimbalwa abantu abazitshele zona.
Yiqiniso, lokho okuzoxoxwa akusebenzi kuwo wonke amadoda, kodwa lolu cwaningo lwaluqhutshwa phakathi kwamadoda ajwayelekile abameleli bezinhlanga ezahlukene zabantu kanye nesilinganiso sokuphila.
- Indoda ayisoze yavuma ukuthi yayiphutha, kanti enye ingxenye yayo ilungile. Lokhu kuyimfihlakalo, ngoba bonke abantu baholi babo bemvelo futhi baqaphele ukuthi bahluke.
- Akalokothi avume ukuthi unomuzwa wokuzwelana noma okunye okunye kuye intombi yakhe yangaphambili noma umfazi. Lokhu kungokwemvelo, ngoba ngubani odinga izigcawu zomona okhwele nomfazi othandekayo. Ngakho-ke, uzokucabangela ngeso lengqondo ngakho okwesikhashana, kodwa maduzane amantombazane asendulo akhohliwe futhi abaluleke kakhulu.
- Futhi phambi kwakho lo muntu akaqapheli ubulili bezintombi zakho.
- Indoda evamile ayinikezi othandekayo wakhe ukuba aphuce imilenze yakhe, ngokuhlakanipha uyathula ngokucabangela kwakho. Kodwa kwakukhona okwehlukile futhi abaningi baze bahlukana ngenxa yeziphakamiso kanye namacebiso anjalo.
- Indoda ayiboni ukuthi intombi yakho ihle futhi ingcono kakhulu kunakho.
- Isikhathi esinzima lapho uhlanganyela nosizi lwakho oluthandekayo nokukhononda ngabantu, impilo, isimo sezulu, noma yini, indoda ngeke ikhombise ukuthi ayikhathaleli ukugcoba kwakho, futhi ubuso bakhe ngeke bubonise ukuthi okwamanje ingoma yakhe ayithandayo idlala ekhanda lakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi abesifazane basebenzisa amadoda njengezindlebe zamahhala, kodwa akekho othanda lokhu kuxhumana. Konke kufanele kube ngokulinganisela bese uzama ukuqhuba inkhulumomphendvulwano, hhayi i-monologue.
- Indoda ayikhombisi indlela engayithandi inja yakho nokuthi nganoma yiluphi ithuba elifanele unqotshwa yisifiso sokumbulala. Uma uhlala udumisa isilwane sakho - indoda ishukukuthele futhi impela ukulungele ukumbulala. Zama ukunikeza isikhathi esincane izilwane, nokuningi kubathandekayo bakho.
- Umuntu owanele angeke akutshele ngesisindo esiningi noma esikhulu, cishe cishe uzohlala ethule futhi anikele ukugijima ekuseni noma ukuya ejimini ndawonye. Ngokuvamile ukuvakashela isikhungo sempilo, ungabona imibhangqwana. Ngokuvamile, lokhu yisibonelo sokuthi omunye wabathandi abathanda ukulahlekelwa isisindo.
- Futhi, indoda ngeke ikutshele ukuthi: "kungani ungangibibi," kusho indima yowesifazane okufuna ukunakekelwa. Zama ukushayela noma ukuthumela umlayezo wakho othandekayo kaningi.
- Abamele ubulili obunamandla abavame ukubonisa umhawu kubathandekayo babo ngakho-ke isimo somhawu siqhubeka.
- Insizwa ngeke ikubonise ukuthi ayinayo imali eyaneleyo yokudla okudliwe, cishe, emva kokudla uzoba "nokuhamba ngothando" ngoba hhayi imali eyanele itekisi.
- Indoda ayifuni ukuvuma kuwe ukuthi ayikwazi ukuthukuthela, ngokuvamile ehlukile, kuyilapho othandekayo engathandi umamazala wakhe, nakakhulu uyoba nesithakazelo empilweni yakhe futhi azame ukumsiza ngazo zonke izindlela.
- Uma umthandi wakho engasho ukuthi uyakuthanda futhi uyakwazisa, ukuthi ungumuntu obaluleke kunazo zonke emhlabeni, kungenzeka ukuthi uyakuthanda kakhulu futhi ulungele ukwenza ukuba othandekayo wakhe ajabule, kodwa futhi, amadoda angasho lutho ngokuzwakalayo ngokuzwakalayo, zibonakalise uthando ngezenzo.
- Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda angavamile ukuba aqaphele ukuthi adinga usizo. Landela ukuhlelwa komuntu othandekayo, mhlawumbe, ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukunikeza usizo.
- Nokho, indoda ayiqapheli ukuthi ilawulwa ngokuphelele yithandekayo yakhe. Kungcono ukukubonisa ngesimo sakhe sengqondo nezenzo zakhe.
Ungalokothi ukhohlwe! Amadoda isithembu, futhi abesifazane bodwa! Ngakho-ke, banakekele amadoda akho.