Njengoba wazi, awukwazi ukuphikisana nemvelo, kodwa izazi zengqondo zanamuhla zithi abapapa ababekhona ekuzalweni kwengane, umuzwa wokuzalwa ovela emaminithini okuqala kokuvela komntwana, kuyilapho amadoda angenalo leli thuba ayokwakhiwa eminyakeni eminingana. Futhi bathi, akukho lutho oluqinisa umndeni njengokuzalwa okuhlangene kwengane. Kodwa-ke, ngesikhathi esifanayo bagcizelela ukuthi wonke lawa mathemba aqhekekile alindeleke kuphela ngalabo abashadile abaye basinda ngokuvumelana nokukhulelwa nokubeletha, okwakudlula ngaleso sikhathi esimweni sothando nokusekelwa. Futhi lokhu kungenzeka kuphela uma usondela kule nqubo ngokucophelela, kuqala ukuqonda ukwesaba kwakho. Ingabe indoda kufanele ibe khona lapho kuzalwa umkakhe-isihloko sesihloko.
Ngesikhathi esifanele ngangizama ukuphoqa umyeni ukuba abe khona ngezinhlobo. Yiziphi izimpikiswano kuphela engizange ngizilethe! Uthi nguye ozobe engumuntu wokuqala okumele abhalwe enkumbulweni yengane esanda kuzalwa engingayifela yedwa ngokwesaba nokwahlula endaweni engazijwayele ukuthi omunye kufanele alawule izenzo zodokotela ngenkathi engingaqondi lutho ... Izidingo zami ezingokomzwelo, maye, cishe yayingenayo umphumela. Kuze sibe ndawonye ndawonye emakilasini ekulungiseleleni ukubeletha, lapho izinkolelo eziyinhloko mayelana nokuthi amadoda angokwesimanje asaba yini njengoba umlilo ususwa. Basichazela: umuntu ophoqelelwe ukuba abe khona ekuzalweni, uzolimaza kuphela inqubo, lapha isifiso sobunye sibalulekile. Ngenxa yalokho, ngawela ngemuva komyeni wami, futhi ngokungazelelwe wavumelana nazo zonke izinto engizicabangayo futhi, lapho kufika isikhathi, waya nami esibhedlela ...
Ukwesaba kukababa
Mhlawumbe, ngaphezu kwakho konke, amadoda angokwesimanje ayesaba ukuzizwa engenasici esimweni esingenakuqondakala ngaso sonke isikhathi. Isiqephu sobuciko esivela efilimu yaseMelika, lapho ubaba ojabulayo ehluleka khona phambi komfazi obelethayo, uyakwazi ukuphonsa abameleli bobulili obunamandla elasha lokuphelelwa yithemba: kuthiwani uma lokhu kwenzeka kimi? Yebo, izazi ze-psychologist zincoma amadoda amaningi kakhulu ukuthi angahlala ekhaya. Kodwa-ke, obaba abaye bathola izifundo zokuqeqesha, lesi simo akunakwenzeka ukusongela - bayakwazi kahle okwenzekayo ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwengane, futhi ngaphezu kwama-melodrames aseMelika esitokisini sabo sokubuka ama-documentary lapho inqubo yokuzalwa ithathwa khona ngokuqiniseka konke. Ukwesaba okuncane okuhlotshaniswa nokungaqondakali okubanzi okukhona ukuthi ukutholakala komuntu ekuzalweni kuthinta impilo yocansi yozakwethu esikhathini esizayo. Eqinisweni, ukubeletha kugcizelela kuphela ukungqubuzana okufihliwe phakathi kwabashadile. Futhi uma lo mbhangqwana unenkinga ngocansi ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ngalesi sikhathi bayokwenza bazizwe begcwele. Kodwa ekugcineni ungabona iqiniso emehlweni akho futhi uthole indlela yokuqonda isimo. Futhi into eyodwa ngaphezulu. Izinkinga zingase ziphakame emibhangqwana lapho indoda engumholi ophelele ovele nje edinge ukugcina konke okulawulwayo. Ubaba onjalo uzonikeza izeluleko kanye nezeluleko kubodokotela nomkakhe, futhi lokhu kuphazamisa kuphela inqubo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu aqaphele ukuthi lapha unendima yesibili eyabelwe yona - abathandekayo abaqhoshayo nabaqhoshayo, kungase kube nzima ukuvumelanisa nalokhu, kodwa ukubamba iqhaza ekubelethweni kubalulekile ukuthi ufunde indlela yokulandela inkambo yezenzakalo.
Umsizi Omkhulu
Uma, naphezu kokucindezelwa kwezihlobo, ukwesaba nokukhathala okwenziwe ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, upapa uzimisele ukuya esigodini sokubeletha, kufanele azi ukuthi akulula ukubuka inqubo. Yiqiniso, kukholelwa ukuthi ukuba khona komuntu othandekayo kunciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi kuthatha isenzo sokubulala umzimba. Kodwa-ke, into kuphela okufanelekile ukuzalelwa kuyo ukuba yingxenye ebambe iqhaza kule nqubo, lapho umntwana engena khona kalula ezweni elisha. Ngokusho kwezidakamizwa ezinolwazi, uma owesifazane enethuba lokuphumula ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ukubeletha kuzodlula kalula futhi kungenabuhlungu. Futhi ukwakha isikhala lapho kungekho khona isizathu sokwesaba nokukhathazeka, umuntu kuphela ongakwazi. Uzomnciphisa umsebenzi womkakhe uma, isibonelo, uthatha ingxenye yemisebenzi yakhe: uzoqoqa isikhwama ngezinto ezidingekayo esigcini sokubeletha, enze zonke izingcingo ezidingekayo odokotela bese uphendula imibuzo yomhlengikazi lapho efika esibhedlela. Kodwa-ke, izenzakalo eziyinhloko zizokhula emnyangweni wezinhlanga, futhi lapha usizo lukapapa luba usizo olukhulu ngempela. Kulokho, yiqiniso, uma umzuzwana omkhulu wokuphila kwakhe efika ngempela. Izifundo eziningi zokuqeqesha zifunda ukusebenzisa ukusikhipha isisindo, ukuvivinya umzimba okukhethekile okunganciphisa kakhulu ukuhlukunyezwa phakathi nokulwa, zonke izinhlobo zokuphumula kanye nezindlela zokuphefumula. Owesifazane ogcwele ngokuzizwa kwakhe, njengomthetho, ukhohlwe konke lokhu kuhlakanipha. Kodwa lo muntu, onengqondo ehlakaniphile futhi enkumbulweni eqinile, angasebenzisa ngempumelelo ulwazi olutholiwe ngokusebenza. Yiqiniso, upapa kufanele akhumbule ukuthi ukuziphatha phakathi nempi ejulile kufanele kube nokukhalipha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukulalela ngokucophelela noma yikuphi ukufisa komuntu wesifazane: ngokungazelelwe kungase kuvele ukuthi amanye amathinta angamjabulisi kuye, kanti ezinye izivivinyo, ngokuphambene nalokho, ziletha ukukhululeka okukhulu kunabo bonke abanye. Kuvame ukuthi kwenzeke ukuthi amagama amathenda kanye nobumnene othinta akubangeli lutho ngaphandle kokucasula. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukukhombisa ukuhlakanipha nokubekezela: kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi yonke imizwelo emibi yowesifazane ayiqondisani nomyeni, kodwa ngokumelene nobuhlungu abhekene nayo. Ngokuthula nje udinga ukuphatha ukukhamuluka, ukuthukuthelela nezinye imizwelo. Kodwa uma ekugcineni ingane izalwa, upapa uyakwazi futhi ukubonisa imizwelo - ngesikhathi ingane esilinde isikhathi eside ifika emhlabeni, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuqukatha izinyembezi zenjabulo. ... Ngibheka umyeni ojabulayo ebambe indodana esanda kuzalwa ezandleni zami, angiqondi ukuthi yini eyenza yena, naphezu kwezinkolelo zakhe, eze lapha, ekamelweni lokulethwa. Isifiso sokungisekela esimweni esinzima, ukuziqhenya ngokuthi indodana ngeke izalwe ngaphandle kokuhlanganyela kwayo, noma ilukuluku olwamkhuthaza ukuba ahambe kule ndawo engaziwa ngokuphelele? "Angiyazi," wangiphendula, engamthinti ingane enokuthula, "Ngangibona nje ukuthi uma ngenqaba, ngizophuthelwa umzuzu oyinhloko empilweni yami ..."
Imisebenzi eyishumi yePapa yokuthakazelisa
Ingane yazalwa. Uthathe ingxenye esebenzayo kule nqubo enzima. Kungaba yinqaba ukuyeka lokho okuye kwafezwa futhi ushiye zonke izinkathazo ezalandelayo mayelana nezicucu zomkakho. Ubaba akakwazi ukunakekela ingane kuphela, kodwa futhi athole injabulo yangempela kuyo.
Hamba ukuhamba
Ubaba unamandla, angakwazi ukuphakamisa umqhubi we-kilogram ayishumi ngokuhamba kancane kwesandla esisodwa. Ngakho-ke, thatha umthwalo wokuhamba nomntwana uma isikhathi sivumela. Emgwaqweni, izingane zivame ukuthanda ukulala, ngakho umzali ojabulayo ohamba ngezinyawo unesikhathi esiningi sokufunda incwadi ethi oyintandokazi noma ubiza umngane omdala. Yebo, inzuzo yokuba ngaphandle ingaphinde ikhanseliwe.
Amagagasi e-dissect endlini yokugezela
Izingane ziyakuthanda ukubhukuda: amanzi kubo yizinto ezijwayelekile, ngakho ezinyangeni zokuqala ezintathu zokuphila kwengane umuntu angafunda kalula ukugebha nokushayela. Yiqiniso, lokhu kuzodinga usizo lomchwepheshe oqeqeshiwe. Ehlomile ngolwazi, upapa angaba umfundisi onolwazi. Futhi kuhle kangakanani ukugibela indiza encane ngezandla ezinkulu nezinamandla emanzini - okokuqala ngesisu, bese ngemuva. Ngenxa yomsana ngeke kube nomkhawulo.
Hlalani izilahla
Thola indlela yakho yokuzolalisa ingane engahlakuleleki - umsebenzi othakazelisayo, uma usebenzisa indlela yokudala. Kuyaziwa ukuthi abantwana bayakhala lapho befuna, bedla futhi uma badinga ukushintsha i-diaper. Kodwa uma ukukhala kuzwakala ngemuva kokuba izidingo eziyisisekelo zifinyelelwe, sekuyisikhathi sokunikeza umqondo wangempela. Isibonelo, ukuhlabelela i-lullaby ngesitayela sodwala, ukuze ingane imise okungenani isimanga.
Shintsha izindima
Ukuze unikeze ithuba lomama, njalo usebenza ekuhlanjululeni-ukuhlanza-ukupheka-ukupheka-ukuhlanza, ukujabulela ukulala kancane noma umsebenzi ozithandayo, upapa angakwazi ukuthatha imisebenzi yasendlini. Esinye isandla sishaya ama-diapers, kanti enye-ishukumisa isobho ekuqaleni ngeke isebenze, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi inqubo ingathuthukiswa futhi yengeze kuyo, isibonelo, ukuxhumana nengane elele esitokisini kanye nokuziqhenya, ukubukela indlela ubaba osebenza ngayo ngesikhathi esifanayo esebenza ngensimbi ne-ladle .
Yaba "i-watch watch"
Umthwalo wokugxuma ebusuku emakholi wezingane umama uzonikeza ngenjabulo. Inselele enkulu ukufunda imizuzwana embalwa ukufika ekuqaphelweni bese uhamba emkhathini.
Yisho amazwi anomusa
Njengomthetho, amadoda awakuthandi ukuqubuka kokuncoma. Kodwa ngeze. Kusukela emazwini okusekelwa ngumkakhe kuyodingeka avuseleleke, futhi asebenzise amagama amabizo okucindezelayo ngokuphathelene nomntwana, upapa uzothola isihloko esithi "okungcono kakhulu emhlabeni".
Thatha ezitolo
Ngisho noma konke okudingayo - isikhalazo, umculi, izingubo, amabhodlela nama-diapers - wathengwa ngaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe, i-wardrobe ayizange ibuyekezwe unomphela: izingane zikhula ngokushesha; izindiza ziyadla ngokushesha; ezinyangeni zokuqala ngemva kokubeletha, umama cishe akafuni ukuthenga ukuthi izitolo kuzodingeka ziye ePapa.
Shayela usizo
Abaningi bomama abahlengikazi bacabanga ukuthi bahlele usuku bese beya e-cinema noma emidlalo yaseshashalazini ngesizathu esithile ngisho noma kungenzeki. Ngakho-ke, umhleli wezinhlelo zamasiko angaba papa kuphela. Umsebenti wakhe - ukubuza abakhulu noma izintombi ukuba bahlale nomntwana, bathenge amathikithi futhi bakhulume ukudangala ngokubonakaliswa kokunakekelwa okunjalo kumkakhe endaweni yokuzilibazisa kwamasiko.
Ukupunga umzimba kanye nokuzivocavoca
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba amaningana amantombazane akusho neze kunzima: kwanele ukugoba izintambo nemilenze ngendlela ethile. Kodwa-ke ungakwazi ukuziqhenya ngokuziqhenya imiphumela yokuqeqesha izivakashi.
Dala irekhodi lasekhaya
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