Ukuthukuthela kungavela uma umuntu engaziphatha ngendlela esilindele ngayo. Umngane wami wahlukana nomyeni wakhe, owayekubona kwami, umuntu omuhle, ngenxa yodaka. Kwadingeka kukhishwe ngesikhathi esithile, khona-ke kwakungekho iziqukathi kanye nezikhwama zepulasitiki futhi abantu ababhekene namabhakede baphuma udoti. Futhi emndenini wabazali bakhe, le ndoda yathatha udoti, kwakuwumsebenzi wakhe. Umngane waphetha ngokuthi uma engasusi udoti, angabe engathandi, akahloniphi, futhi uyamahloni. Ngokwemvelo, kwakukhona izikhalazo eziningi phakathi kwalabo abasha abasha, kodwa ukhumbula leli cala iminyaka engamashumi amane.
Izindlela zokususa izikhalazo
Abangane kaningi banikeza iseluleko sokuphambanisa bese bekhohlwa lapho sibatshela futhi ngezikhalazo zabo. Futhi banikeze iseluleko esinjalo, ngoba umuntu ocasulekile, ungumxhumanisi omubi, ukhuluma nje ngokuthi umuntu othile wamcasula kanjani. Kodwa uma sizama ukuphoqelela ukuhlambalaza ngaphandle kwememori, uma siyeka ukukhuluma ngakho, kuyodonsa ubukhona bethu noma kunjalo. Indlela yokunqoba ukuhlambalaza - ukucima: ukuphindisela, ukuphonsa komunye umuntu. Enye indlela ezoba yilapho umphathi wakhe ehlela khona ukukhala kwakhe, futhi yena naye, wafika ekhaya, wahlukumeza indodana yakhe, indodana yashaya inja, futhi inja ekhubekile yambamba umlenze kayise, ngakho-ke imbuthano ivaliwe.
Kodwa lezi zeluleko azisebenzi, yini okufanele ngiyenze? Ukuhlupheka ngenxa yentukuthelo, umhawu, intukuthelo nokwesaba, lokhu ukucindezeleka nokucindezeleka, ukulahlekelwa incazelo ekuphileni, ubuvila, ukwehluleka nezifo. Ukuhlupheka kwengqondo, lokhu kuyisithelo sefilosofi engempilo yokuphila, isithelo sokucabanga okungalungile. Indlela kuphela yokuqeda ukuhlambalaza - udinga ukucabanga ngakho. Thatha umthwalo wemibono yakho. Futhi ukwenza lezi zinyathelo ezingu-8 zokulungiselela nezokuvumelana.
Isinyathelo 1
Ukuze unqume ukufutheka kwakhe, buyela kuwo, futhi ukhumbule indlela ukuziphatha okushintshile ngayo, yiziphi imicabango ezafika engqondweni. Kungcono ukubhala konke phansi, umngane wami wabhalela abahlukumezi bakhe izinhlamvu, kodwa wayengabathumeli ngaso sonke isikhathi, manje unezincwadi zokusebenzela ukubhekana nezikhalo zakhe.
Isinyathelo 2
Bhala ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi umuntu ongiphambene nami kufanele aziphathe kanjani, ukuze ngingamcasuli. Futhi, mhlawumbe, ukukhetha okulungile kungaba ukuthi wangimemeza ukuba angibheme futhi angitshele ukuthi ngiliphi iphutha nokuthi yini engenzile kabi.
Isinyathelo 3
Phendula umbuzo ukuthi kungani kufanele akwenze lokhu. Kuvelaphi izimiso, amasiko, imithetho nokunye okunjalo.
Isinyathelo 4
Kungaba yiziphi izizathu zokuziphatha kwakhe, asidingi ukulungiswa, kodwa izincazelo. Futhi uzibhalele zonke izinketho ezahlukene.
Isinyathelo 5
Ingabe uyakwenza lokhu kubo bonke abantu, noma ingabe yenze lokhu kimi kuphela?
Isinyathelo 6
Ingabe lo muntu angakwazi ukwenza lokho engangikulindele kuye, futhi angakwazi yini ukuhlangabezana nalokhu okulindelwe?
Isinyathelo 7
Yimiphi imizwa nemizwa eyahambisana nokuthuka kwami? Ukungabi nethemba? Inzondo? Ukwesaba? Ulaka? nokunye.
Isinyathelo 8
Ukuthethelela akusona isizathu. Ukuhlala kanye nokuthethelelwa yizwi lesisodwa esisodwa. Ukususa ingqondo yakhe intukuthelo, ukungaboni. Angikwazi ukukulawula. Ngeke ngikwazi ukuphoqa umhlukumezi wami ukuba aziphathe ngendlela engingathanda ngayo. Ngimshiya ukuze ngibhekane nokuphila kwangempela futhi ngilungise amaphutha akhe ngokwakhe. Kufanele udale isithombe sakho siqu sokuthethelela, uphawu. Isibonelo, abangani bami banesithombe se-birch, nginomfudlana wokukhanya, omunye unomfanekiso wesibhakabhaka, abanye banemigwaqo. Intukuthelo iphela ekuthetheleleni, udinga ukusho ukuthethelelwa ngamazwi, udinga ukucabanga ngomuntu oye wakukhubekisa, uxhumane nalokhu kuhlambalaza futhi ukhulume nomonile wakho ocabanga, ngenkathi ethi:
1. Kufanele usole icala lokuthi ... futhi imininingwane eyengeziwe ishiwo, kungcono. Ukusho ukuthi yikuphi kulolu daba imininingwane yesivumelwano ephuliwe, futhi ukuhlola ukuthi ngabe ulethe konke.
2. Kungaba kuhle uma enza kanjalo, ngenkathi ekhuluma ngaphandle kwe-particle akuyona.
3. Mhlawumbe, wayenesizathu sokwenza kanjalo, njengoba kwenza umhlukumezi. Chaza zonke izimbangela ezikhona.
4. Futhi, nakuba kungenzeka ukuthi ube nezizathu zakhe, ngiyazisola.
5. Naphezu kwemizwa yami nalokho okwenzile, ngiyanquma ukukuthethelela. Futhi ake uhambe.
6. Kodwa konke lokhu akusho ukuthi kwakungekho, ngikukhulula. Kumelwe sikubize lesi sithombe sokuthethelela, sihlanganise nayo, futhi sithumele isifufula sothando kumenzi wecala.
Ngenxa yalezi zindlela ezingenhla, ungaqeda ukufutheka futhi uthethelele umhlukumezi wakho. Inqubo yokuthethelela iyabuhlungu. Kodwa uma ungaqedi icala, khona-ke lingabhubhisa umuntu.