Kodwa wonke umuntu uyadlula futhi uyayiqonda ngendlela yawo. Futhi ngesikhathi lapho uqaphela ukuthi lokhu kuyithando ngempela, uyazibuza: ingabe ihlala njalo? Singakwazi yini ukuthi kukhona uthando olungunaphakade manje?
Kunombono oqinisekisiwe wokuthi uthando lodwa ngaphandle, luhlala isikhathi. Noma kunjalo, kunezibonelo zobuhlobo obuqinile nobude besikhathi eside. Yini ehlanganisa laba bantu? Hlonipha omunye nomunye, umkhuba, izingane - kungaba nezizathu eziningi. Kodwa bathi: "Sithandana" futhi sineminyaka engu-25 ubudala futhi sineminyaka engu-65. Ukuba khona kothando olungunaphakade, njengoShakespeare kuRomeo noJuliet, akukwazi ukufakazelwa. Lokhu kumele kuvezwe futhi kukholwe.
Kuyini uthando ezweni lanamuhla? Umthetho kanye nokuziphatha kwangokwesimanje kunika, futhi ungakuvimbeli, ukuhlola imizwa yakho, kukhona umbono wanamuhla wothando nobudlelwano obuhlukile emibonweni yabazali bethu, omkhulu, ugogo. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukubaluleka kwalo mzwelo wokukhanya kuwela.
Manje uthando oluphakade luyiphupho. Kodwa ukugcina uthando, ukulufudumala emandleni ethu. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, sijwayele ukujwayele umuntu, sicabanga ukuthi uzohlala njalo. Kodwa ngeke kube khona uthando lwangunaphakade uma kungabonakaliswa ukunakekelwa, izinkathazo ezimnandi nezothando kanye nokunakekela omunye nomunye.
Abaningi bangase bacabange ukuthi akukho uthando oluphakade, kodwa akunjalo. Ingabe isipho noma indawo oya kuyo? Ikhono lokuthanda liwubuciko olunganikwa wonke umuntu. Ngeshwa, sivame ukuthatha uthando olunjalo njengokuthandana, ukukhanga: kukhanya, kunamandla, kunesithakazelo futhi kuhle. Kodwa badlula. Futhi uma emva kwalokho, emva kokubona umuntu, nazo zonke izinzuzo nezinkinga zalo, uthi: "Ngiyamthanda" , kuphela ke lawa magama mayelana nothando lweqiniso. Kunzima ezweni lanamuhla ukukholelwa othandweni ekuqaleni kokubona. Sithandana nesithombe, kodwa simthanda umuntu, inhliziyo yakhe, umphefumulo wakhe.
Kuyini uthando olungunaphakade lomuntu wanamuhla? Mhlawumbe, kungumthando nje. Manje sekuyi-rarity. Izinto ezibalulekile ziye zahlukana: umsebenzi, inkululeko, abangane, ukuzijabulisa - lokhu kufanele kube khona empilweni yethu, kodwa kukhona umugqa ongakwazi ukuwela uma ufuna ubuhlobo obuqinile. Uthando aluhambisani nobugovu. Udinga ukuhlonipha othandekayo wakho, umbono wakhe nokubukwa. Ukulondoloza nokugcina inhlansi, ukukhanya nokuvutha kuyisisekelo senjabulo.
Manje uthando lwangunaphakade luhluke kakhulu kulokho okuhlangene nakho kwe-XVIII, XIX leminyaka, futhi kwenzeka kaningi kakhulu. Mhlawumbe ubuhlobo buhluke kuye noma amanani ashintshile, - umuntu angaphikisana ngalesi sihloko kuze kube phakade. Kodwa into eyodwa izohlala efana: uthando luvela njalo ngokungalindelekile empilweni yethu. Omunye unomusa futhi omuhle, othile - onothando futhi okhanyayo, kodwa uhlanganisa konke ukubonakaliswa kothando lweqiniso, ukujula nokungafuni.
Ingabe kukhona uthando olungunaphakade? Kungenzeka ukuthi, wonke umuntu unayo eyakhe. Uthando lwangempela lunabangane balo, ngaphandle kwalokho luba lukhuni futhi ludlula: inhlonipho, ukuqonda okubili, ukwethenjwa nokuthembeka.
Ngamunye wethu, othanda othandweni, ufisa futhi uthemba ukuthi lokhu kungukuphila, kuphakade. Kodwa hhayi njalo kuvela ngaleyo ndlela. Uthando lubuhlobo. Futhi nje kuphela ungayisindisa futhi uyenze ibe phakade.
"Uthando aluyona umkhuba, hhayi ukulinganisa, hhayi ukungabaza. Akusilokho umculo othandwayo osifundisayo. Uthando lu ... ngaphandle kokucaciswa kanye nezincazelo. Uthando - futhi ungabuzi. Vele uthande " (Paul Coelho)