Izazi zengqondo azisebenzi ngombono we "egoism enempilo". Bakhuluma ngokuzihlonipha okuvamile. Umuntu ohlola ngokungafani amandla akhe, uvikela izifiso zakhe siqu. Uyakwazi ukuvikela insimu yakhe (isikhala sezintshisekelo zakhe, okunamathiselwe kanye nemikhuba) uma othile efakaza kuso. Futhi ngenkathi ungaphuli imingcele yangasese yabanye, kubhekwa ngezidingo zomakhelwane babo. Inhloso yegolide yokuzihlonipha isungulwa ebuntwaneni ngokusebenzisa imfundo efanele. Kodwa, maye, ngokuvamile abantu bathola abazali babo - abafundisi abanamakhono kakhulu. Khona-ke umcibisholo "Nginguye ..." uphakamisa ngokungenangqondo - noma uwele ...
Isiqubulo sabantu abanjalo: "Konke ngaye, angikuthandi lutho." Bayoba nokushisa bazofika begijima emsebenzini, bazoboleka imali, nakuba bona bengenayo ngokwanele, bazoyeka indawo esitobhini-naphezu kokukhathala. Ifoni yabo ayigodli, ngoba njalo bayasiza futhi basize. Ku-altruists zidinga, kodwa ngemuva kwamehlo ngokuvamile kubizwa ngokuthi isidlaliso esibucayi "nepotniki." Futhi basebenzisa ukungaziphendulela nganoma yisiphi ithuba.
Kusuka ekuziphatheni okuphansi
Babevame ukusebenzisa izinyathelo zokucindezela ukukhuliswa - benza inqubomgomo yokuvimbela kanye nebhande. Babuye baphatha imizwa yabo. Lapho eseyingane, ama-altruists ayevame ukuzwa: "Uzoziphatha - sizokuthanda, futhi singabi nakakhulu - ake sinike ubaba." Njengoba sebekhulile, abantu abanjalo bazama ukuthenga uthando lwabanye ngokuziphatha okuyisibonelo. Futhi bahlala bengama-psychology. Bazizwa bebancane kakhulu-yingakho bezama ukujabulisa bonke abantu, ukuze bakhule ngokwabo.
Abantu abanjalo bavame ukuphelelwa umoya ngokomzwelo, bewela ekucindezelekeni kanye nokuzibulala. Njengendabuko yamaGrisi yasendulo kaNarcissus ne-nymph Echo, owathanda kakhulu insizwa enomlando ukuthi walahlekelwa yi-ego yakhe. Ama-altruists angafanelekile angatholi impendulo kumbuzo: "Ngingubani?", "Ngisho ukuthini kuleli zwe?". Futhi bazohlupheka ngalokhu.
Funda ukucabangela izisusa zabo nezifiso zabo. Okokuqala udinga ukunquma ukuthi yini ebalulekile kuwe, futhi uvikele insimu yakho siqu. Kubalulekile ukubeka izinto eziza kuqala ekuphileni nokuzilandela. Ngezinye izikhathi ungakwenza ngokwakho. Kodwa ezimweni eziningi, umsebenzi ozimele awunakwenzeka. Kuyafaneleka ukucela usizo kumuntu wezengqondo. Ukuphumelela kuyindlela yokucabanga-yokuziphatha. Ngosizo lwakhe, imicabango yabantu iyashintsha, ithinta ukuziphatha kwayo. Isibonelo, umuntu uzama ukusiza wonke umuntu ehhovisi, ngakho-ke umsebenzi omningi wenziwa kuye. Ukuphendula kwakhe ngokomzwelo kuyadabukisa, ngoba akafuni ngempela ukulima. Futhi phakathi kokuziphatha kanye nemizwelo yavutha imicabango: "Ngisebenza kabi," "Angikujabuleli." Isiphetho: ukuzama ukucabanga ngendlela ehlukile: "Ngifunda nje lo msebenzi," "lo msebenzi ngiwenza kahle kakhulu," "Ngingumqeqeshi," "Ngizokwazisa." Ukucabanga okunengqondo kuzokusiza ukushintsha ukuziphatha komunye okwanele, okungukuthi, ukuthatha umsebenzi ngokuphoqa. Ngakho-ke, umuntu onokuziphendukela kwemvelo uzothatha isinyathelo sokuya ekuziphatheni okwempilo: uzokwenza umsebenzi onjengoba angakwenza ngaphandle kokulimaza impilo yemvelo nokuziphatha. Futhi ujabulele injabulo.
Ngokufanayo, isimo sengqondo esingenakuqhathanisa emndenini kanye nabangani siqondiswa. Kodwa umxhumanisi wethu akasincoma ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzakalela. Lesi silinganiso sizosusa kuphela inkinga, kodwa ngeke siyixazulule kuze kube sekupheleni. Yiqiniso, ukunyuka kwenkanyezi ye-Ego kuzoqaphela - futhi abaningi ngeke bayithande. Ngokumelene nokusola okungenzeka kunendlela enhle: ukuzivikela okungcono kakhulu ukuhlaselwa. Isibonelo, uma unemibuzo emsebenzini, ungayiphikisa: "Ingabe banesithakazelo ngempela kimi, ngoba ngiqeda konke abanye? Ngibhekana nemisebenzi yami. " Futhi uzobalinganiswa nabo. Umngani noma othandekayo angasho ukuthi: "Futhi ubuhlobo (uthando) buyini - ukuhlala kuwe futhi uzikhohlwe wena?" Ubani ngempela okuphatha kahle, uzokwamukela.
Angiboni muntu
U-egoist onzima kanzima uzibeka enkabeni yalolu daba futhi akabaleki nanoma ubani. Esikhathini sokunyuka, ushaya isikhwama sakhe sokuvakasha, lapho sidla isidlo sokudla okumnandi kunazo zonke, imali ngeke ibolekise ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo futhi ehhovisi ngokuqinisekile uzoshintsha umsebenzi wakhe emahlombe osebenza nabo.
Ukuzethemba okuzenzekelayo. Kwenzekani, lapho abazali beyithanda ingane yabo, yibheka njengenkaba yomhlaba, ngokuthethelela ukuthethelela noma yikuphi ukulinganisa. Emotionally, i-egoist ngeke ihlukunyezwe kakhulu. Kodwa kukhona ingozi ukuthi abanye bayomhlubuka kuye. Ikakhulukazi akuyona into ehloniphekile, lapho umuntu eyodinga usizo, kodwa ngeke afune ukumsekela.
Funda ukucabanga ngezintshisekelo zabanye. Omunye kumele azwe ukuthi ngabe omunye umuntu uyathanda yini isimo osivumelayo. Futhi uma ngezinga elingezona amazwi lokhu akunakwenzeka ukubamba, kungcono ukubuza umuntu ngakho ngqo. Ehhovisi lezengqondo, ukuzethemba ngokweqile kulungiswa kalula. Kuzibonelo ezivela ekuphileni, isazi sibonisa izinzuzo 'zokuhamba kubantu' - ikhono lokucabangela imibono yabanye, isifiso sokusiza abantu. Ubukhosi bakhe bobukhosi be-Egoist bazoqonda izinzuzo zokuziphatha okunjalo futhi kuzothatha isikhundla sobukhosi obuphelele bokuzithanda okuphelele kombuso wezomthethosisekelo "Ngiziphilela mina kanye nabanye."
Isimo sengqondo sozakwethu nabangane nabo sizoshintsha. Abantu bayomomotheka kaningi "ku-egoist" elungisiwe, bameme ukuba avakashele, ibhuku lekheli lizogcwaliswa ngezinombolo ezintsha zefoni. Ukuze uvule emhlabeni futhi uthola kuwo ukubuyisela kuyinto okumele usebenze kuyo.
Izinganekwane ze-egoist
Eqinisweni, izakhi zofuzo azilutho, njengoba nje kuhlale kungalungile ukuba nobugovu. Ukuzithanda ngokweqile kungumphumela wemfundo engalungile, hhayi umsebenzi wama-chromosomes. Kodwa umbono ongalungile mayelana nokudluliswa kwe-egoism ngefa kukhona ngoba abantu bavame ukukopisha izindlela zokufundisa abazali babo. Futhi uma umuntu ekhulile emkhathini "unayo yonke into" - cishe, uzodlulisela amakhodi afanayo kumntanakhe.
Sabailers - kaningi amadoda, abazithandi - abesifazane. Isithoko esinamandla samantombazane - ukunakekelwa kwabanye kulaba besifazane sinemvelo. Futhi, abesifazane bayakwazi ukwenza izinto eziningana ngesikhathi esisodwa kunamadoda. U-Guy Julia Caesar angama ekhishini futhi abhale umbiko - kulula ngaye ukuba avumelane. Ngakho-ke ukuguquka emsebenzini, emndenini.
Indoda ibona umgomo owodwa futhi ayikwazi ukuhlakazeka kwenye. Ukufeza okuthile ekuphileni, kulula ukuba abe yi-egoist. Futhi, kukhona umehluko ekukhuliseni. Umfana uvame ukuba yinhloko, unikezwe indima yomlandeli wesibongo. Ngenkathi intombazane ifundiswa ukuzidela ngenxa yabanye. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi bonke abathandayo baya kuMar, futhi i-chelovekolyuby - ku-Venus. Ngesinye isikhathi, ama-egoist anamandla angama-ladies, futhi ama-altruists enhliziyo enhle bangamadoda.
Abesifazane besifazane - ama-altruists
Amagama athi "Ngazalela futhi ngakhulisa, unesibopho sokuzidela kwami" yisibonelo sokuthi u-egoism wesifazane omboziwe. Indodakazi eyedwa iyakuba ngumama wendlu (umyeni uyothola). Khona-ke ugcizelela emadodaneni akhe namadodakazi akhe ukuthi ngenxa yakhe uzinikezele umsebenzi. Maye, lezi zingane zihlehliswa umuzwa wokuzizwa unecala phambi komama wazo, futhi zivame ukwakha okuthiwa ukuzibulala. Benza indlela yokuphila engenandaba nokuthi "angifanele lutho" - ukuhamba ngemoto ngesivinini se-frantic, ukukhuphuka izintaba, ukugijima ngeparachute (ukuguqulwa kokufakwa lapho laba bantu benomndeni). Ukuze ulungise isimo somfazi wokuzidela, kungenzeka ukuba usize ukuba utholakale ngaphandle kwendlu. Isibonelo, ukuze uhlanganyele ekusizeni, ubuciko - ukubonisa wena hhayi kuphela epuleti, kodwa nakwezinye izindawo zokuba khona.