Zithobe nje.
Ngezinye izikhathi inqubo yokwehlukana ihlala isikhathi eside kakhulu, idala ithemba elingenasisekelo futhi ibangele ukuhlupheka okungadingekile. Ngokuvamile umsunguli wokuhlukanisa, uzwela nomlingani olahliwe, ufika naye ngokufutheka kakhulu ekwandiseni inqubo yesehlukaniso. Ungavumeli lokhu kwenzeke kuwe. Kungcono ukusinda izinsuku ezimbalwa nje, noma ngisho namasonto, kunokuba izinyanga ezimbalwa zilandelane. Ngokuvamile, izikhalazo ezingathuli zingenza isimo somunye umsebenzi ongapheli. Kulesi simo, udinga futhi - okokugcina - ukuxoxa ngokujulile nomuntu othanda uqobo. Kudingekile ukuzama ukubeka iphuzu elimnandi ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwengxoxo yokugcina. Ngakho-ke ungaphila kanjani ukuhlukana kumuntu?
"Ngokusemthethweni" yisho okuhle
Ngokuvamile, icala lomlingani osishiyile lingasigcina etilongweni ngemizwa yethu, kuze kube yilapho usinda ekuhlukaneni nomuntu. Kuhlale kunzima ukuthethelela, futhi ngisho noma kubonakala sengathi usuvele uthethelele, isikhalazo singabuyela kuwe emizuzwini emihlanu, izinsuku ezingu-5 noma izinyanga. Noma kunjalo, isikhathi siyaphulukisa, futhi njalo lapho uxolela konke kuyoba lula. Njengomthetho, isinyathelo esingokomfanekiso sokuhlukanisa sisiza ekunciphiseni ukuhlukana kumuntu. Ungakwazi, isibonelo, nje uthathe itshe elinzima, bese uliphonsa ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho obungathandani. Noma ukhanyisa ikhandlela bese ucabanga ukuthi nge-wax wakho uthando lwakho luphuma. Into enjalo elula, njengokumane udubule zonke izithombe ndawonye, futhi unomphumela omuhle. Futhi kungcono ukuwashisa ngomlilo noma, sorry, ukuwageza endlini yangasese - kuzosiza ukusinda ukuhlukaniswa. Ungalokothi udingeke ulahlekelwe ngokwakho. Ngokuvamile, abesifazane bazinikela imisebenzi yabo ngenxa yothando lobuhlobo, kodwa empeleni - kuyize, ngoba abantu bajwayele ukuzijwayeza.
Ungaphindi amaphutha odlule.
Kungani sikhanga abantu besithombe esifanayo kithi futhi senze amaphutha afanayo ebuhlotsheni nabo? Ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kuxhomeke endleleni yokuxhumana nabantu. Uma indlela yakho yokuxhumana ihambelana nendlela yokuxhumana yomlingani wakho, khona-ke, ngokuqinisekile, uzoba nobuhlobo obufudumele naye. Futhi uma kungenjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile uzoqala ukuba nezinkinga, futhi uzokhathazeka ngokuthi awuqondi. Uma ngokuphindaphindiwe uthandana "nababi" abafana nokuziphatha kwabo kubazalwane ababili, ngakho-ke kufanele yini kusimangaze ukuthi ngenxa yalokho uyaphula? Zama ukuhlaziya ngokucophelela futhi ngokucophelela ubudlelwane obuseduze: yini okwenzile okungalungile, futhi yini eyiphutha nomlingani wakho. Zama ukushintsha isimo sengqondo nabantu. Ungadluli esigabeni esifanayo. Isibonelo esicacile sabazali sinomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho yonke yabantwana babo.
Yiba namandla.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi, njengoba izazi zengqondo zicabanga, ukuze zisuse noma yimiphi imikhuba emibi noma izidakamizwa, kungaba yihlukaniso noma ukubhema, kuthatha izinsuku ezingu-21 kuphela! Lesi sikhathi kuyadingeka ukuze ubuchopho buvuse kabusha umsebenzi wawo. Ungasiza ubuchopho bakho ukuba bakha kabusha ngokushesha, uma ungavumeli imicabango engafanele ngokuthi "Ngeke ngimbone umuntu onjalo!" Ngokuphambene nalokho, zitshele ngokwengeziwe kaningi "Ngokushesha ngizohlangana nomuntu omkhulu!" Imibono inekhwalithi ehle kakhulu, futhi eyingqayizivele, yenzeke, futhi ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe uthando lwakho olungavamile lukulindele ekhoneni. Yebo, awukwazi njalo ukukhathazeka ngokuhlukanisa nendoda? Kufanele uvule wonke amathuba.