Phela, ekhaya kuphela, embuthanweni womndeni wethu, sizizwa sivikelekile ngempela. Ngezinye izikhathi senza izinto ezingenakwenzeka ngenxa yabathandekayo bethu. Kodwa, ngeshwa, ubudlelwane obuphelele emndenini buyinto engavamile. Ngokuvamile sibona ubuhlobo bomndeni obuvamile, lapho abalingani abaphikisana khona, bathola ubuhlobo.
Ngokuvamile ngemva kokuhlukanisa isahlukaniso. Uza ngokuzumayo, kodwa kubonakala sengathi lokhu kwenzeka. Kunzima kakhulu uma ingane ihilelekile kulobu buhlobo nentando yesikhathi esizayo. Njengabazali abazange bazenze sengathi konke kuhamba njengakuqala, kukhona ukungavumelani ebuhlotsheni kunoma yikuphi. Into eyinhloko ukuthi abazali emva kokuhlukana bahluleke ukuhlonipha omunye nomunye, okuyinto engavamile kakhulu, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi yonke imizwelo iyadla, futhi abazange bazame ukuphoqa ingane ngayinye ngendlela yabo.
Kulesi simo, ingane ithatha umbono womuntu oyedwa ekugcineni inkantolo ikhetha ukushiya ingane. Ingane ingase ingazi iqiniso lonke isikhathi eside futhi ingavumelani nezenzo zomlingani wesibili. Nakuba ngesehlukaniso, njengokungathi kunoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana nokungavumelani, bobabili banecala, kunjalo. Ukufuna izizathu zokuhlukanisa nomyeni kuyadingeka ngokwakho. Ngokuvamile ubudlelwane obunjalo bomndeni futhi babeke isibonelo sompilo wesikhathi esizayo ubuntu obuseduze. Phela, ubudlelwane emndenini budlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni ubuhlobo bomntwana esikhathini esizayo nobulili obuhlukile.
Uchopho lwabantwana, olusesaba "luhlanzekile" kusukela ekusebenzeni okuhlukahlukene kokuziphatha esingawasebenzisi nsuku zonke emiphakathini yethu, masinyane futhi ngokufanele "akuthinti" hhayi nje kuphela isiteji sezwi nokuhamba kwezwi, kodwa lokho ubaba kufanele akusho kunina, nokuthi umama kufanele akwenze lokhu impendulo. Khumbula ukuthi kaningi kangakanani lapho sibhekana nezingxabano ezinjalo emidlalweni yezingane, uma omunye wezingane efakazela ukuthi umama kufanele akhulume kanje (okungukuthi, yilokho umama wakhe akushoyo ekuphileni okuvamile). I-psyche yezingane kufanele ivikeleke ekushaqweni okunjalo. Kodwa ingumuntu omdala kuphela kule nkathi? Bazizwa kanjani, bedlala ngezinye izikhathi ukunganaki. Ngemuva kwalokho, kungaki ukuphikisana nokuhlukanisa kungagwenywa kuphela ngokulinganisa ukuziqhenya nokufunda nokuqonda imicabango yomphikisi. Kodwa, ngeshwa, lokhu, njengemikhonyovu yokubonisa, akunakwenzeka empilweni yethu.
Izinkinga emsebenzini, ukuqhuma kwezimoto, imigqa, izinkinga ezincane zansuku zonke, ukuzihawukela. Ngaki kaningi, ngenxa yokungalindeleki kwethu nobugovu, asizwa noma sibone okwenzeka kumthandekayo wethu. Izwi ngegama, njengoba livame ukwenzeka, ngenxa yezinto ezingenangqondo, okubaluleke kakhulu, sibheka ukuxabana. Ukusho izinto ezimbi komunye nomunye, kunzima kakhulu ukuzola futhi ubheke isimo, uhlole ngokucophelela. Ngesahlukaniso, nakuba amaqembu amabili ehilelekile, abakho abawine. Ngokuvamile, umuntu oyedwa uba ngu-initiator, isizathu singaba ukupholisa kumlingani futhi uhlangane nofuthe olusha.
Yebo, lokhu ngeshwa kwenzeka. Bobabili abalingani abazizwa ngendlela engcono kakhulu, uma bengasho ukuthi baphele ithemba. Emva kwakho konke, lowo osele ngokuzenzakalelayo uyathandana nokuhamba ngokuthanda kobuhle. Akaqondi ukuthi lo ngumthetho wokuphila: yini esingayigcini, kepha silahlekelwa ukukhala. Into yokudumisa, okwaze kwaba yilapho isanda kutholakala ngokuphelele, manje ingomunye. Napha futhi, umhawu, umqondo wokuzihlambalaza, ukuphelelwa ithemba, amaphupho aphulukisiwe yesikhathi esizayo.
Ngicabanga, futhi abaningi bayavumelana nami, isehlukaniso singabhekwa ukushaqeka okungathí sina hhayi kuphela kwesibhangqwana esisodwa, kodwa nangomuntu. Izisekelo ezisemthethweni ziyawa. Ngokuvamile ukungazethembi kobulili obuhlukile kakhulu isikhathi eside ...
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