Cishe bonke abesifazane bafuna ukuba omama. Ngokuvamile abakhetha umsebenzi womndeni. Ukucabangela ingane encane, umnakekele, ufundise futhi ufundise - konke lokho kamuva kuyabathanda abesifazane abaningi. Kodwa kuphela ukukhulisa ingane kunzima kakhulu, futhi izazi zengqondo zithandana ngokuthi ubaba uyadingeka kakhulu ukuba ingane ifundiswe kahle. Kodwa umbuzo uwukuthi: Ingabe izingane zidinga iphuzu lomuntu? Abantu bacabangani ngalokhu?
Izingane zingabantu abancane. Sithi thina, abadala, kuphela esikhathini sakithi esidlule. Izingane zethu ukuqhubeka kwethu emhlabeni. Ingabe wonke umuntu udinga lokhu kuqhubeka? Kwabanye, izingane "ziyizimbali zokuphila," futhi kwabanye, "izidalwa ezingenabongi." Kunoma yikuphi, izingane, kusukela ekubukeni kwamadoda, zidinga umbuzo ongadingi impendulo engavamile.
Futhi ngalesi sikhathi, inani labantu abazishiya ngokuzithokozisa injabulo yokuba ngumama nezingane zabo likhula emhlabeni wonke - yilokho okuthiwa yizingane (ezingenabantwana). ERussia, futhi, kukhona umkhuba onjalo. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kukhetha kwenziwa ngabantu abafundele imali engenayo, okubonakala sengathi kufanelekile ukuqala nokufundisa abahluleli bebhizinisi labo. Abesilisa nabesifazane abanquma ukuthi badinga izingane, ngokombono wezomthetho kuze kube manje akukho mngcipheko. Kodwa, ngokwesibonelo, eBelarus sebevele bacabangela umthetho ozobangela abantu ukuba bangakhokhi intela "ekunganeni".
Kungani kunemibhangqwana enempilo nangokwengqondo, enempilo engazinzile engafuni izingane? Ingabe laba bantu abanakho ukukhanya kwemvelo? Ungafuni kanjani ukuba nezingane? Kwabaningi kungase kungaqondakali. Kodwa, uma ucabanga ngakho, wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuphila ngendlela afuna ngayo, hhayi ukulalela imithetho evunyelwe ngokuvamile.
Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, lokhu kuziphatha kungachazwa ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo ebuntwaneni. Laba bantu babengazizwa bamukelekile futhi bathandeke ebuntwaneni babo noma, ngisho nakakhulu, bezwa ukusola okuvela kubazali babo ukuthi ngenxa yabo abazali babo babengenalo impilo yomuntu siqu, umsebenzi wabo, okunye okunye.
Esinye isigaba abantu abafuna ukulawula izimpilo zabo. yilaba bantu abazibuza ukuthi badinga izingane, ngoba kusukela ekubukeni kwamadoda nabesifazane, kubanjwe ngezindlela eziningi, izingane zisongela ukuzinza kwazo. Kusobala ukuthi abafuni ukuthatha umthwalo womunye umuntu. Kulula ukuziphilisa ngokwakho kunokuhlala unakekela inzalo yakho njalo. Futhi akekho onelungelo lokugweba umuntu ngokuzikhethela kwakhe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukubheka ezinye izingane nabazali bazo, bacabange ngokungenandaba, kungani laba bantu bedinga izingane ngokujwayelekile, uma bengabathandi? Kungani nginqume ukuthi abathandi izingane zabo? Ngoba ngicabanga uma uthanda ingane, ngeke uphakamise izwi lakho emgwaqweni, ekuthuthweni, ngeke uhlazise ingane nabantu abangabazi. Futhi indlela yokuphatha lo mntwana ekhaya, ungakwazi ukuqagela kuphela.
Ubudlova emndenini bube yisimiso, ngeshwa. Izingane zijeziswa ngenxa yeziphambeko ezimbalwa, ngenxa yokusebenza kabi emfundweni, ukungalaleli, noma yini ... Futhi lapho izingane zikhula, kuvela ukuthi azivumelani nethemba labazali bazo, izindlela kanye namandla aphethwe kuwo, njalonjalo. Kungcono ukungabi nabantwana, kunokuba ube nezingane, bese ubahlambalaza impilo yabo yonke ngalokho abayikho ...
Ingabe thina noma lokhu ukuphila kunesihluku kangaka? Akekho ophikisanayo, ukukhulisa izingane kuwumsebenzi onzima, kokubili kokuziphatha nokuziphatha. Yebo, uma wena, abadala, unomntwana, kungani uvumela ukuthi uhlekwa usulu? Indoda encane ijwayele lesi simo sengqondo, akazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngokuhlukile, uyabathanda abazali bakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayiphatha kanjani. Futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, bamukela indlela yabo yokuziphatha - bayophinde baphathe izingane zabo ngendlela efanayo.
Kusemandleni ethu kanye nasezintshisekelo zethu ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle nezingane kusukela ebuntwaneni. Ingane ilungu elilinganayo lomndeni futhi kufanele liphathwe ngendlela efanele. Ngeke uthathwe njengomuntu ongaphansi kwakhe kuphela ngoba uyiNdodana noma indodakazi yakho. Ngeshwa, ukungabi naluthando nokuqonda emndenini sekuye kwaba yindawo evamile ...
Ingabe abantu baye balahlekelwa uthando? Futhi kusho ukuthini ukuthanda? Ukuthanda ukuphatha ngenhlonipho ngomuntu, ukuyiqonda futhi uyamukele nazo zonke izinkinga zayo.
- Isizakala samantombazane singesinye sezimo ezinamandla kakhulu. Umama ulungele ukudela impilo yakhe ngomntanakhe, angabi nesikhathi esithile, ukuphoqa, izindlela.
- Ukuhlakanipha kukababa kunamandla kancane, kepha kumadoda amaningi angaphezu kweminyaka engama-40-45 ubudala "uyavuka" ngokuzumayo, futhi abhekana nemicabango emihle, engakabonakali kuze kube manje kubazukulu babo noma izingane ezincane.
Kungani kuvela kwamanye abesifazane nabesilisa, kanti abanye abanakho ukuthi yini? Uma ungathandi izingane zakho, khona-ke izingane zizokuphatha kahle uma zikhula. Kubalulekile ukukwazi ukwakha inkhulumomphendvulwano nezingane zakho, ukufeza ukuqonda okubili. Abantu abadala abanolwazi oluthile lokuphila bangakwazi ukukhulisa abangane kubantwana babo. Ubani okumelwe sisadingeke ukubala, kungabi kubantwana bethu? Ubani oyosisiza uma udinga? Futhi ingabe izingane zizokusiza uma ungenalo ubuhlobo?
Yenza izingane kusukela ekubukeni kwamadoda - umbuzo onzima. Kodwa ufana nomfazi osebenza kahle emphakathini, ophumelelayo, uthola umsebenzi wakhe futhi wenza umsebenzi. Noma kunjalo, noma ubani, ngisho nomuntu ophumelele kakhulu - akubaluleke kakhulu, indoda noma owesifazane, ngezinye izikhathi kunokwanele ukukhumbuza izingane njengeprojekthi eyodwa yomhlaba wonke ... Futhi ungadideki ngokuthi uhlobo oluthile lwe "mechanization" noma into enjengale. Ngempela, uMphefumulo uzolandela noma yikuphi ukuqondisa kuqondisa khona, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa kumuntu ocabanga futhi onengqondo.
Kuvela ukuthi ngokuvamile okuvela endaweni yokubuka yindoda yamuntu kuyadingeka, kodwa uyakhumbula ngalokhu nje kuphela uma u-whiskey obumdala begugile, futhi kakade ekuseni kukhona into egwaza eceleni, futhi kusihlwa izinhlanzi inhliziyo ... Siza indoda yakho iqaphele ukuthi akukhona nje injabulo yokuba ngumama, kodwa futhi kuyomzali, futhi uzokwenquma ukuthi udinga izingane.