Isihloko sendaba yethu yanamuhla sithi "Umshado, Umndeni, Umshado". Kuyo uzofunda kabanzi mayelana nezinkathi ezine zonyaka womshado.
Umshado, umndeni, ubudlelwane bomshado ... Lokhu kuningi okulotshwe izazi zezenhlalo, kodwa yini izazi zezingqondo zicabanga ngalokhu? Ubuhlobo bomkhatsini bobabili bukhula kanjani? Ngesikhathi samanje inkolelo yezinkathi ezine zithandwa kakhulu.
Spring
Ukuvuswa kwemvelo kusukela ebuthongweni busika, imifula yokuqala namaqabunga, umoya ugcwele ukuhlanzeka nokulindela isimangaliso ... Akuyona yini impilo yomndeni ekuqaleni: ingane enhle ehlanzekile futhi igcwele izilindelo? Abantu ababili abanemibono yothando kakhulu ngomunye nomunye, babhekane neqiniso. Abashadile baqala ukuqonda ukuthi isithombe somlingani ofanelekayo, ngakho ngothando nangemininingwane elandelwa yiyo ngaphambi komshado, akuhlangene nhlobo ngokoqobo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo singathuthuka ngokusho kwezimo eziningana, okutholakala kakhulu ekutholeni ukulingana, lapho bobabili abalingani bezama ukukhokhela ukunganeliseki kwabo ngezindlela ezintsha ezitholakale zinobuciko ngesimo sengqondo esihle. Ukungaphumeleli akugcizelelwe, isithunzi sidunyiswa, umndeni uqhubeka nokuphila kwawo okunokuthula.
Okubi nakakhulu, uma isithombe esihle siseduze futhi sizalwa kakhulu kunokoqobo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, inqubo yokuqala kabusha imfundo iqala. Ngokuphathelene nomngane ohluphekile, impi engacacisiwe iyasetshenziswa: ukuphutha kuqedwe, imikhuba nendlela yokuphila iyashintsha. Kodwa kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi kabusha imfundo ingahle iphulwe.
Kukhona okuthile phakathi, lapho umyeni engakwazi ukwamukela isithombe futhi angeke asishintshe. Kulokhu, isehlukaniso singenakugwema.
Kumelwe ukuthuthukiswa kobuhlobo buni? Yiqiniso, ukucabangela ukunciphisa. Uma kunoma yikuphi ukungaqondani, akufanele neze uthule ngezikhalazo, njengoba, njengoba wazi, umuntu ongabizwa ngegama akekho. Ukugwema ingxoxo kungamnaki ukuxabana, ukubhekana nomzamo umzamo wokuwunqanda, futhi inkhulumomphendvulwano kuphela izothuthukisa amasu okuthola indlela yokuphuma kweso simo futhi ukhethe okungcono kakhulu.
Ukuhlukaniswa cishe kunomndeni owenziwe ngokucabangela kwe-mercantile noma ngenxa yokukhulelwa. Okuhlukile okujabulisayo kuyilapho, kodwa kunalokho baqinisekise imithetho.
Ihlobo
Imifudlana yemifula yabalekela, ihlobo lafika. Izipho zemvelo zithelela ekuvuthweni, isivuno siyalinywa, umuntu usebenza ngokungakhathali ukuze kuzuze umndeni.
Abashadile abaye bahlala emshadweni cishe iminyaka eyishumi futhi sebefinyelele eminyakeni yobudala, babhekane nezinkinga ezithile. Umbuzo we-professional self-actualization unzima. Ngesikhathi umyeni wakhe ehlanganyela ekukhuleni komsebenzi, umkakhe wabeletha futhi wakhulela izingane. Kwabe sekufika usuku lapho umndeni engadingi khona khona njalo ekhaya futhi owesifazane angaya emsebenzini.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, owesifazane uthola izinga eliphezulu lokuzibophezela emndenini, wesaba ukuthi angahambisani nezincazelo zokuthi "unina omuhle" nokuthi "umfazi omuhle" futhi uziqhathanisa nomsebenzi owenza umsebenzi wendlu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, udinga ukuzibona njengomchwepheshe, ufuna ukuphuma kubantu, ubheke kangcono, uxoxe nabalingani bakhe. Kulesi simo, ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuphumula, isikhathi nezinye izinkinga eziningi, kuvela ukungqubuzana kombuthano. Owesifazane ukhathele ngaphandle kokuba akwazi ukuzigcwalisa ngokwengqondo nangomuntu siqu. Ngokumelene nesimo sokucindezeleka esiye savela, kukhona imicabango yokuhlukanisa. Indlela yokunqoba ubunzima nokulondoloza umndeni?
Okokuqala, kufanele sivume ukuthi le nkinga ikhona, bese nje uqhubekele esixazululweni sayo. Ungazibeki izinhloso ezingenakufinyeleleka. Ukuze ube ngumsizi womngane omuhle, umama futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukufinyelela ezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu akunakwenzeka - into okumele ihlatshelwe umhlatshelo. Kudingeka ufunde ukuhlukanisa okuyinhloko kusuka kwesibili futhi ungaxhunywanga kwi-trivia yansuku zonke. Ikhono elikhulu lokubheka isimo kusuka ohlangothini, mhlawumbe ngamahlaya, kuzoletha izinzuzo ezinkulu. Ukuncoma okwenziwe ngesikhathi noma ihlaya elifanele kudala umoya wothando nokuqonda okufanayo.
Kulabo besifazane abasesimweni esinzima sokuzikhethela phakathi kwekhaya nomsebenzi, izazi zezingqondo zeluleka ukuhambisana nezincomo ezilandelayo:
- hlela izindlu nezinduna ezisemthethweni;
- Ungathathi umsebenzi ekhaya;
- sinqume ukuthi kuqala yini amacala;
- uzofunda ukuphika wonke umuntu ophazamisa emndenini.
Ukulandela lezi zincomo ezilula kuzosindisa umndeni futhi ngeke kuphazamise ukukhula komsebenzi. Kunzima ukubuyisana nomsebenzi nomndeni, kodwa kungenzeka, ngoba umuntu ophumelelayo uphumelele kukho konke.
Khumbula, wonke umuntu wenza "izimfihlo" zobuntwana ezivela ingilazi nezimbali ezihlukahlukene. Izinto ezivamile, ngabanye, aziyona into ekhethekile, kodwa uma konke kuxhunyiwe, umlingo utholakele. Ngakho kwenzeka emkhayeni womndeni, ngoba umshado ubuciko.
I-autumn
Kule nkathi yonyaka ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, njengokwindla, isaga "izinwele ezimhlophe esileni - idemoni emgqeni". Izingane sezikhulile, azikhathaleli abazali bazo. Ngumuphi umthwalo umbhangqwana oshadile ofika kulo mzuzwana weqiniso? Ingabe kukhona okukuxhuma kubo, ngaphandle kwemicabango mayelana nesizukulwane esincane?
Inkinga yobudala obuphakathi ihlotshaniswa nokuhlolisiswa kokubaluleka kokuphila futhi kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa namadoda. Ngemuva kokufinyelela eminyakeni yobudala, babukeka emuva futhi besaba kakhulu ukuthola ukuthi isigamu sokuphila sidlulile, futhi akukho okuphawulekayo okwenziwe. Kungemva kwemicabango enjalo kukhona isifiso sokwakha umndeni omusha njengophawu lokuphila okusha.
Kokubili izifo zomzimba nezengqondo zilula ukuvimbela kunokwelapha. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ngalesi sikhathi ukuba zibe nesithakazelo emisebenzini yobuchwepheshe bomlingani, izenzo zakhe nempumelelo. Ngisho noma lo mlingani engazange azihlukanise nanoma yini ekhethekile - ungamtsheli ngalokhu manje, ukuhlakulela isithombe somuntu olahlekile. Gxila kwimpumelelo futhi unganaki ukulahlekelwa. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu: ungalokothi ukhumbule iminyaka yegama elithi "iminyaka ayifani." Thola noma yiziphi izizathu zokuhluleka nokugula: izinkanyezi azikwakhiwa, imvelo ishintshile, umsebenzi usukhuni - noma yini, ngaphandle kokushiwo iminyaka.
Uma le nkinga ingagwenywe, yiba nesineke futhi uhlakaniphe. Sekela oshade naye, khuluma naye, ungabi nomhawu ngaphandle kwesizathu futhi, ngokuqinisekile, unakekele kahle ukubukeka kwakho.
Okungasiphuliphuli kukuqinisa. Uma uphumelele kule nkathi, umvuzo uzoba ukufudumala ngokomzwelo, ukuhlakanipha kwezwe kanye nobuhlobo obunamandla obuneminyaka eminingi.
Emandleni owesifazane, ubunzima obuphakathi kweminyaka ephakathi buvinjelwe. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukunika umyeni wakho ithuba lokuphumula, ukunakekelwa kwempilo yakhe, ukwandisa ukuzihlonipha komlingani ngokubhalisa kanye nokwedlulela kancane kokufaneleka. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke owesifazane okudingeka ayinqobe inselelo yokuphila phakathi kwendawo ukubekezela. Ubuza, ngubani ozomsiza? Uthando, Umndeni nokuhlakanipha.
Ebusika
Ngokungalindelekile iqhwa lokuqala liwa, ngakho-ke ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwabantu buza ngokuzumayo ebusika.
Kuyoba yini le nkathi yonyaka kulabo abashadile abahamba ngezandla ngendlela ende. Ngiphile ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, futhi inkumbulo yami ikhumbula kahle izikhathi ezibaluleke kunazo zonke.
Umuntu unyaka nonyaka ukhethwe ngokungaqondile ngenxa yobudala bakhe. Kungaba okungalungile ukuqhathanisa injabulo etholakala kwabasha, ngenjabulo etholwa ngabantu abaneminyaka yobudala. Uma kubantu abasha lo mzwelo ubugovu, khona-ke abantu asebekhulile bayathokozisa izingane futhi nsuku zonke bachitha ndawonye. Ukuhlukanana ngalesi sikhathi kuyinto engavamile kakhulu. Uthando lomlingani uthola ikhwalithi entsha engalindelekile: isisa, uthando, ukwesaba omunye nomunye. Umyeni nomfazi bangase baxabane, kodwa ukukhononda okungenangqondo kungukuzimela, okusiza ukuhlangabezana nokuguga ngokwanele.
Yini engcono kakhulu kunombhangqwana oshadile ozungezwe izingane nabazukulu? Ukuphatha uthando phakathi neminyaka, basha njengasekuqaleni komngane wabo, futhi isikhathi asinamandla ngaphezu kwemizwa yeqiniso!
Izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuthi labo abaye bafinyelela "esikoleni sesiliva" balandela le migomo elandelayo:
- Yonke into kufanele iphathwe ngobuciko futhi ibe nemicabango;
- xhumana nabanye nabantu abasha;
- ukuxazulula izinkinga zobuhlakani;
- Uthando luphakathi kwento yonke.