Ungase umangale, kodwa izingcindezi zihlukile. Kukhona ukucindezeleka okuhle lapho ngokungazelelwe sithole isimanga esimnandi noma sibhekene nazo, ekugcineni, ngomsebenzi onzima ngaphambilini. Futhi kukhona ukucindezeleka okujwayelekile kithi sonke, lapho izwe lonke liphikisana futhi lifuna ukukhuphukela odongeni ekuthukutheleni nasekufutheni. Ngakho: ngomzimba, kokubili ukucindezeleka kokuqala nesesibili kuyingozi futhi kungabi nzuzo. Ikakhulukazi uma kusho ukujabula okukhulu noma ukudabuka okukhulu okuqhubekayo.
Into ewusizo njengokuphathwa kokucindezeleka ezingeni lomzwelo yenzelwe izazi ze-psychologists nama-psychoanalysts maduzane. Yebo, noma kunjalo, nokucindezeleka kwaqala ukuxhomeka kubantu, okwenza ukuba babe neurotic futhi abagula ngengqondo, futhi, kuphela eminyakeni emashumini amuva nje. Futhi lo mkhuba ukhula. Indlela yokubhekana nokucindezeleka? Le nqubo iyingqayizivele. Okungukuthi, kwezinye izenzo ezithile kuzodala ukusabela okuhle okusheshayo - kuyoba lula emphefumulweni, izinkinga zizobuyela emuva, injabulo yokuphila izobuya. Abanye bazodinga isikhathi esiningi nomzamo. Yebo, nokucindezeleka kuhlukile, ngingathini ... Kodwa namanje izindlela eziyinhloko zokulwa nokucindezeleka zinikeza izithelo zazo kunoma yikuphi. Zihlolwe yisikhathi nangokuthi ochwepheshe abavela emhlabeni wonke.
1. Ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincane.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekubhekaneni nokucindezeleka ukugwema okukhulu. Kubonakala sengathi konke kulula. Ungakhathazeki, thola, uphefumule kahle, njll. Kodwa inkinga ukuthi sonke sihlukile, sinezinga elihlukile lokubona ngokomzwelo, isimiso sezinzwa ezahlukene. Futhi izidingo nazo zihlukile. Futhi okubalulekile. Isibonelo, intombazane eyodwa, ukubukeka kwayo kuyinto esemqoka ekuphileni. Futhi manje ngengozi ubeka i-speck kwi-blouse yakhe. Indawo encane, ongakwazi ngisho ukubona eduze, uma ungaboni ngokucophelela. Kodwa usekwesaba! Akazi ukuthi benzeni, efihla ekhoneni elikude lehhovisi futhi akhonze izinyembezi ezibuhlungu. Futhi uyazi, uyabuhlungu ngempela. Ngoba kuye kungukucindezeleka kokuhle kakhulu. Kodwa akakhathaleli ibhobhe elivuzayo ekhishini. Futhi ngisho nomakhelwane abathukuthele abaza begijima ngezikhalo emfuleni kusukela ephahleni, ungesabi futhi ungawutholi. Uzocabangela-kubangele ukuthi locksmith, uvimbele amanzi, ukhokhelwe omakhelwane. Ayikho inkinga! Lokhu kusho ukuthi sonke sinamagugu ahlukene nemibono empilweni. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuba uzame ukhethe kusuka esabekayo kakhulu ekucindezelekeni kwethu okuncane kakhulu futhi ... nje ungawaqapheli. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba zize zibhale uhlu lwezinto ezingakusiza, bese uhlola ngamunye ngesilinganiso sezinto eziyishumi. Izinto eziningi zibonakala zingabalulekile kakhulu futhi ngeke kube nzima ukukuhlupha.
Kuzodingeka ube nesineke futhi uphikelele ukuze ufunde ukuthi udlulisa kanjani izinkinga ezingabalulekile ezidlula wena. Ngokushesha ngeke ukwazi ukusebenza, kuzothatha isikhathi nomzamo. Akuyona imisebenzi embi kulokhu inkulumo ethi "Lokhu yizinto zonke zokuphila okuncane!". Phinda njalo uma uqala ukuthukuthela. Ungavumeli ukuthi isebenze kuqala, kodwa ucabange ukuthi iyinto ebonakalayo. Ngokushesha izinkinga ezinjalo ziyoba yizinto ezincane kuwe, akufanele uziqaphele.
2. Gcina isimo esihle ngokomzimba
Isifiso esiqhubekayo sokuthuthukisa amandla ethu okuvikelwa ngeke silimale ekuphathweni kokucindezeleka ezingeni lomzwelo. Emzimbeni onempilo, njengoba bethi ... Ngakho ukuzigcina ngendlela efanele kubaluleke kakhulu. Lokhu kusinikeza amandla namandla okubhekana nezinkinga, icala lokungeziwe lokuthokoza, ukuphefumlelwa kanye nesipiliyoni esihle. Ungaphuthelwa imininingwane ebaluleke kakhulu ekulwa nokucindezeleka, okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu okubaluleke kakhulu. Awufuni ukubukeka njengomuntu okhathele, lowo wonke umuntu nomuntu wonke ecasulayo? Futhi ubani ofuna? Yingakho udinga ukuzivocavoca, uzikhandle ngokomzimba, ngangokunokwenzeka ukukhulula ubuchopho. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ungadluli! Ngokuzikhulula ngokweqile ngokomzimba, ukukhulelwa kwengculazi kuyawa, impilo iyawohloka, futhi kukhona ukujikijela ngamatshe ukuba kube neurosis. Okufanayo kuya ekulahlekelweni kwesisindo esisheshayo kanye nokudla okunzima. Kodwa ngalokhu ngezansi.
3. Yidla kahle
Ukudla okunempilo nokufanele kukuvumela ukuba ubukeke futhi uzizwe ukhululekile. Futhi akusiyo kuphela kwezokwelapha - emsebenzini omuhle wazo zonke izitho, ngokungazinzi komzimba. Ngokuphathelene nokulawula ukucindezeleka ezingeni lomzwelo, ezingeni lezinzwa. Ukudla okunomsoco kuholela kumuntu omuhle, isikhumba esibucayi esihlanzekile, izinwele ezinempilo ezinempilo, amehlo aqabukayo. Owesifazane ubona esibukweni futhi uyaziqhenya, futhi lokhu sekuyisivimbela esiyinkinga kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokucindezeleka. Uhlelo lwesimiso akuyona into engabonakali. Lokhu kuyinto ekhonjiswe kakhulu, eqiniswa uma yonke imvelo iqiniswa. Ngakho qinisa! Thola kahle ngosizo lokudla okunempilo nokucindezeleka wena uzolandela ngemuva kwakho.
4. Yakha ikhodi yakho siqu enhle
Ubuntu bomuntu siqu ikhodi eyingqayizivele equkethe konke ngaphakathi kwethu - lokhu kuyisisekelo sokwakha imibono ehlukene futhi ehlukumezekayo yokuncintisana komuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke, umuntu ngamunye ukhetha le nqubo edingekayo ukuze aphikisana nobuntu bakhe. Yakha ngokucophelela isu lakho lokuphathwa kokucindezeleka, njengoba isicelo salo sincike emikhondweni yomuntu kanye nendlela yokuphila, imvelo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uhlobo losizo lapho kwenzeka ukucindezeleka okukhulu kunomuntu siqu futhi kuxhomeke kuphrofayela yakho yengqondo. Kubalulekile ukwazi lokhu futhi lokhu akukwazi ukunakwa.
5. Sebenzisa indlela yokuphumula
Kuyasebenza kakhulu ukubhekana nokucindezeleka ngokusabalalisa kwayo okusheshayo. Le ndlela ingasetshenziswa ngokushesha futhi iqukethe izindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokulwa nokucindezeleka. Lona indawo yokukhumbula izinhlobo ezisebenzayo zokuzilibazisa, ukuzivocavoca, ezemidlalo, ukuhamba, ukwelashwa okunamandla nokukhetha okwakulungele kakhulu lesi simo. Zonke lezi zindlela zinikeza umphumela osheshayo, uma usatshalaliswa kahle. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzofunda ukuthi ungayibona kanjani indlela esebenza ngayo futhi engcono kakhulu yokunqoba ukucindezeleka. Isibonelo, uyazi ukuthi emva kosuku olumatasa uyothenga kahle. Sebenzisa le ndlela njalo, futhi ukusebenza kwayo kuzokwandisa kuphela. Ngakho-ke zonke izindlela zokulwa nokucindezeleka ngeke nje zinikeze umphumela wokuphumula, kodwa zizokhulisa amandla akho.