Uthando yisikhathi esimangalisayo, lapho yonke imicabango igxile kumuntu oyedwa. Ngifuna ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, ngakho-ke lesi sikhathi asichithekanga, angifuni nje ukuhlala ngamukele futhi ngibuke ifilimu yothando, kodwa futhi ujabule.
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, abathandi abakucabangi ukuphila ngaphandle komunye nomunye, ngakho-ke babe nezihloko zengxoxo, bahlale bhala imilayezo komunye nomunye, bakhulume ngokungapheli phezu kwefoni. Ukungaboni, ngisho nesikhathi esincane kubo kubhekwa njengokuhlushwa. Abanye abafuni ukuhamba ngomthandi wabo noma othandekayo okwesibili, bakhetha ukwenza konke ndawonye. Kodwa kufanele kube njalo?
Abaningi bethu bachitha isikhathi esiningi kakhulu ukuthanda izindaba, futhi lokhu kungabangela izinkinga eziningi. Abaningi bayazidela izifundo zabo noma umsebenzi wabo, ukuze babone abathandekayo babo, ukuthi bangachitha kanjani isikhathi esiningi naye. Kodwa lesi sikhundla siyingozi, okokuqala. Akudingekile ukuyeka esikoleni noma ukweqa amakilasi, ukucela umsebenzi wokuqala noma ukungabi khona nhlobo ngenxa yokuthi uthanda futhi ucabange ngomthandi wakho othandekayo njalo ngomzuzu.
Mhlawumbe indlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza ubuhlobo yikhwalithi, hhayi ubuningi. Uma lo mbhangqwana othandwayo bechitha usuku lonke ndawonye, ngosuku olulandelayo ememori yabo, izikhathi ezimnandi zosuku oludlule ziyokhunjulwa. Empeleni, kufanele kube njalo. Ngakho-ke, isikhathi esichitha ndawonye ngokusheshisa, siyokubeka ukulangazelela okukhulu nakakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ungazami ukuphunyuka okungenani iminithi ukuze ubone, kuyoba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlangabezana ngesikhathi sakho sokuphumula bese uchitha lonke usuku ndawonye, kunokuba uhlwithe isikhathi esifushane.
Kukhona umbono wokuthi uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, ungalahlekelwa yi-individuality yakho. Ukungajabuli okuqhubekayo enkampanini yomuntu oyedwa, ngisho nokuthanda kakhulu, kungakhuthaza ukuzihlukanisa kwakho ekukhulumisaneni nabanye abantu. Ngokufanayo, ukujwayele ukwenza konke ndawonye, awukwazi ukuthwala isizungu futhi wenze izinto ezithile ngokwakho, uzofuna ukubona umthandi oseduze, ukuze akusize. Ngakho-ke, uzovele umxhomeke kakhulu emkhakheni wakho wesibili. Akunakutsho ukuthi ubudlelwane obunjalo bubi kakhulu futhi buzinzile, usuku olulodwa uma othandekayo wakho enqaba ukukusiza entweni noma engakwazi ukukhokha kahle, njengoba kwakunjalo ngaphambili, uzobe uthanda ukuthi uyakuthanda.
Ngamazwi, ukukhulumisana njalo njalo kungakulimaza. Futhi konke lokhu kungasinda kanjani?
Mhlawumbe, owokuqala, - akudingeki ukuba ukhohliwe mayelana nabangane nezihlobo, uma unothando lobuhlobo. Ungafaki ucingo kubo futhi ufihle othandekayo, ubhapathizwe ngokuphelele kuwo. Uma kungenjalo, abangane bakho bayomcasula kuwe futhi uma kwenzeka uxabana nomthandekayo wakho, ngeke uhlanganyele nosizi lwakho nanoma ubani futhi akekho oyokwazi ukukusekela. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, uzozicabangela ngokwengeziwe kumngane wakho womshado, futhi ngemuva kwakho konke, naye, ngolunye usuku uzobe ewubona kuphela futhi obani ofuna ukuxhumana naye.
Into yesibili okumele ukwenze ukuzikhethela ukuthi ufuna ubuhlobo bangempela lapho nonke niphakamisa njengomuntu. Udinga ukunquma ngemibandela yakho ethandekayo mayelana nezinto ozozenza ndawonye kanye nokuthi yiziphi okufanele uzihlukanise.
Ungafaki isiphambano ezintweni zakho, izifundo, umsebenzi. Qhubeka ngendlela efanayo ukwenza ibhizinisi lakho futhi unikeze inkululeko kumuntu othandekayo. Uma unamathele kakhulu komunye nomunye, khona-ke uzobeka kokubili kuketini. Kodwa khumbula, umuntu ngamunye kufanele abe nesikhathi sakhe siqu ngisho nomthandi wakho, onelungelo lokuliqhuba hhayi njenge-swami.
Enye inkinga ebuhlotsheni obuqalile ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumlingani oshadile noma isifebe, ovele waqala ukuphola, ngandlela-thile kunombuzo wokuzijabulisa okuhlangene futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuwuqhuba ngenzuzo. Njengasekuhloleni, ekuphumuleni okuhlangene, into esemqoka yikhwalithi, hhayi ubuningi. Kukhona isikhathi esiningi sokungcebeleka endaweni yokugcina, futhi omunye nje amahora ambalwa, kodwa lokhu akufanele kuthinte ikhwalithi yokuphumula.
Okokuqala, kudingeka ukhethe lezo zinsuku lapho uzothola khona mahhala ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuchitha isikhathi kwiholide elihlangene nokuzijabulisa bese ukhetha ukuthi uzokwenzenjani.
Manje ethandwa kakhulu nakakhulu kuya kuma-movie. Iholide elinjalo lizokusiza futhi uphumule, futhi ujabule, ubukele isakhiwo sokubamba sefilimu. Kungaba umdlalo wokuthandana, ukuvusa amadlingozi, nefilimu evelelekayo, into eyinhloko ukuthi isithombe esikhethiwe sihambisana nokuthanda kwabo bobabili abathandi, khona-ke kuyoba yinto yokuzijabulisa ejabulisayo.
Kungaba mnandi okungenani kanye ngesonto, kuye ngokuthi amathuba okuba ngumlingani, ukuvakashela i-cafe noma yokudlela. Isimo sokuthanda, iwayini noma i-champagne, ukudla okulula okumnandi kuzoletha ubuhlobo bakho futhi kukuvumela ukuba uphumule, ukhulume inhliziyo ngenhliziyo.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuhamba emoyeni omusha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yipaki, isikwele noma umgwaqo edolobheni lasebusuku. Iholide elinjalo luthando ngendlela yalo. Ukuhamba okunjalo kungahlukahluka nge-roller skating, ngebhayisikili. Abantu abaningi bathanda ukuvakashela amapaki futhi bahambe ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene. Kuyinto ejabulisayo futhi engenakulibaleka. Usakulangazelela ukukhumbula ngokuzijabulisa okunjalo futhi, ngokungangabazeki, ufuna ukuyiphinda, hhayi kanye.
Ehlobo, indawo yakho yeholide ingaba yinto ehamba ngayo. Akukho lutho olungcono kunokulala phansi ndawonye esihlabathini esifudumele bese ushuthela esitofini epholile. Uma kungekhozindawo zokubhukuda edolobheni lakho, ungaya echibini. Yiqiniso, leli damu alithathi indawo yokuzijabulisa ngaphandle, kodwa kuzokuvumela ukuba uchithe isikhathi ndawonye.
Ukuhamba ngothenga ngesizathu esithile kubhekwa njengomsebenzi wesifazane kuphela. Kodwa kungani ungathathi naye nothando lwakhe, uma ngokuqinisekile engacabangi? Futhi, akudingekile ukuthenga okuthile kuwe, wenze ukumangala okuthandayo futhi ukhethe okuthile ngaye. Kuphela akusizi ukuhamba ukuthenga isikhathi eside, indoda, uma engabonisi ukuthi ukhathele, khona-ke uyacabanga, futhi isikhathi eside ukuphumula okunjalo kuyoba yisikhathi eside sokuphumula.
Ungakhohlwa ngalokhu okunye nabangani. Kubalulekile ukuthi amadoda axoxe nomunye umuntu ngaphandle kwakho. Mema nabangani bakho. Nonke ningaya emvelweni, fry shish kebabs, nikhulume ngokuningi.
Uma usujwayele abazali bakhe futhi wazi insizwa yabo ngeyabo, ngeke kube kubi ukuvakashela, hamba noma uvakashele. Ungalungisa isidlo somndeni omncane, lapho ungathola khona kangcono, mhlawumbe nomkhwezala omusha nomamazala nomkhwezala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma umlingani wakho enodade osemusha, ungabathatha ukuze bahlale emanzini noma epakini. Kuzokwenza umehluko wokuzijabulisa kwakho nokuqinisa ubuhlobo nezihlobo ezizayo, futhi kungenzeka, kuzosiza ukucabanga ukuthi uzohamba kanjani esikhathini esizayo nezingane zakho.
Ngingathanda ukukukhumbuza futhi ukuthi into esemqoka akumele ilukhumbule. Ungasindiswa ngendaba yothando kuphela, ngoba uma konke kuhamba kahle, uzobe uhlala ndawonye yonke impilo yakho futhi ube nesikhathi sokukhathala omunye nomunye. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhohlwa ngokuzilibazisa nokuzilibazisa okuhlangene, okuzosiza ukuhlukanisa ubudlelwane bakho futhi ngeke uthuthuke omunye nomunye.