Awukwenqabe okusobala. Owesifazane uyisidalwa esiphikisanayo futhi akakwazi ukubeka izifiso zakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Izolo sifuna ucansi lwethenda, futhi namuhla ukuphindaphinda kweskripthi akusinelisi. Akulula ukuqonda ukuthi yini abesifazane abayifunayo ngempela.
Thola izifiso zakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi thina ngokwethu asikwazi ukuchaza ngokucacile izifiso zethu. Kubonakala ngathi singacacile, singenangqondo. Kodwa udinga ukuzibamba bese ufika endaweni, futhi uzobona ukuthi amaphupho akho yikhonkrithi ngempela. Indlela enokwethenjelwa yokuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani ekhanda lakho ukuthi uthathe incwadi yokubhala nokubhala bese uqala ukubhala phansi "lezo zinto" ezingacacile. Ephepha, kufanele senze izifiso zethu. Ungesabi uma imisho yokuqala ibonakala ingenangqondo. Lokhu kuvamile. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi uchithe konke, uphinde ufunde lokho okulotshiwe bese uzama ukuchaza okusemqoka kwisigaba esisodwa. Bese-emigqeni emibili. Futhi ekugcineni - ngokusobala. Lawa magama amabili okugcina ayingxenye esemqoka yobunqunu besifazane. Ziyi-quintessence yesifiso sakho.
Ngempela, asikwazi ukuqhuba ulimi olunembile ngaphandle kokusebenzisa usizo olungaphandle. Amadoda kufanele afunde ukufunda imibono, ezama ukucacisa izifiso zethu ezingafundiwe ezifihliwe emaqenjini angxenye. Njengoba izivolonti zibonisa, iningi lethu lifuna, kodwa alikwazi ukudlulisela imicabango ebalulekile yomlingani. Isibonelo, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuthi impilo yethu yezocansi ibe izimpawu ezengeziwe zokunakekelwa ngezindlela zokwenza izenzo zothando, izipho ezingalindelekile kanye nokuncoma kwangempela.
I-trivia ebalulekile.
Umehluko wobuciko phakathi kobulili besifazane kanye nendoda ukuxhomeka okukhulu kumathonya angaphandle. Uma indoda, lapho ithola embhedeni, ishintshe ngokuphelele ubulili futhi ikhohlwe ngezinkinga emsebenzini, imoto ephukile kanye nokuxabana kwansuku phezu kwekhofi echithekile, khona-ke owesifazane uyakwazi ukulahlekelwa ngokuphelele isifiso sobulili, azinikele ethonyeni lokucindezeleka okuncane. Ubulili kithi buqhubeka usuku lonke, luhlobene kakhulu nokuphila kwethu konke. Uma lolo suku luqala ukwesaba, kungenzeka ukuthi uzofuna ukukhipha imizwelo, uklebhule izingubo zomunye nomunye. Uma "uvila" - amandla anele kuphela okwesikhashana ukwenza uthando ngaphambi kokulala. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuthola injabulo, uze uxhumane nomyeni wakho, nakuba engacabangi ukuthi uxabana, mtshele ngakho. Kodwa ungagcini imibala. Hhayi "Ungakwenza kanjani lokhu?", Kodwa "Uyazi, ngisakwazi ukukhathazeka ngenxa yokuxabana ekuseni. Masiyivuse futhi? "
Ungesabi ukuhlukahluka.
Abesifazane, njengabesilisa, banjengezohlukahlukene zobulili, kodwa ngokuvamile bayesaba ukuyivuma. Njengoba ucwaningo olungabonakali lubonisa, ezinkulungwaneni zabaphenduli, ama-46% angathanda ukuzama ubulili obufanayo, ama-20% anesithakazelo sobulili obufanayo bobulili obufanayo, futhi cishe bonke (90%) baphupha ukunikela ngothando endaweni engalindelekile. Ngakho kungani singavumi ukuyivuma? Okumangalisa ukuthi iningi labesifazane besaba ukuphendula komlingani. Kodwa uma ungaqiniseki ngokuvunywa, lesi akusona isizathu sokuthula kuze kube phakade. Akudingekile ukuba ukhulume ngezifiso zakho "ebunzini", zama kuqala ukubuka i-movie ndawonye, isibonelo, ngezici zobulili obubi. Futhi emva kokubuka okuhlangene, cela indoda yakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngakho. Mhlawumbe, oshade naye uzovela ngesibindi futhi eqotho ezimpendulo zakhe, futhi ekugcineni uzokwazi ukukhuluma ngalokhu.
Sizimisele ukushintsha.
Sonke siyizisulu zemikhuba yethu. Uma sithanda into ethile, sikulungele ukuyiphinda njalo. Futhi uma nje isenzo esisodwa nesinye esifanayo singathinti kakhulu kangangokuthi sizoveza umphumela ohlukile. Yiqiniso, kunzima ukwenqaba ukwamukela okwakuke kwasebenza "nge-bang." Kodwa ngale ndlela, ubulili maduzane buzoba isethi yemiyalo eyaziwa kakhulu: ukubanga lapha, i-pat, ukupaka, ukugubha nokunye. Indlela eqinisekile yokuqeda isimiso socansi ukushintsha isikhathi, indawo noma isitayela sobudlelwane bokuthandana. Kungenxa yalokhu ukutadisha izifiso zakho futhi ulungele ukwenza imizamo ethile. Zama ukwenza uthando emisha entsha noma endaweni entsha noma ushintshe isitayela sobudlelwane bothando. Isibonelo, ubulili bobulili - ukuthanda, ukufutheka - ukudlala ukudlala. Ungazifaki izinkolelo zomndeni, kodwa uzibhubhise.
Ungabi ocansini wedwa.
Ngokusho kwengqondo, ingxoxo phakathi kwabalingani inzuzo enkulu. Kubantu abaningi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi owesifazane ufuna ini ocansini nokuthi yiziphi izenzo ezithile angazijabulela. Ukuveza ngokucacile izifiso zakho, ungasiza umlingani wakho ukuthi aqonde lokho akwenzayo, futhi yini engalungile. Enye yokuxhumana ngezihloko ezithandanayo ukuthi izingxoxo ezinjalo zifudumala isifiso socansi futhi zibangele ukuvusa okukhulu. Akukhathaleki nokuthi uthini, into esemqoka ukuvuleka nokuthembela. Ngikholelwa, amazwi angakwenza ube mnyama, anganikeza ukukhanya okungakaze kube khona kokuphila kwakho kobulili.
Setha ukuya ocansini.
Abesifazane bakuthola kunzima ukushintsha futhi ngokushesha ngemuva kwehora lesishiyagalombili, ukulungiselela ukudla kanye nokuhlanza ukuhlanganyela ocansini oluvuthayo. Thatha isikhathi esithile semaminithi angu-15 futhi uzinikezele kuwe - vumelanisa ukufisa. Okokuqala, zihlanza: hlanza futhi ususe izinwele. Ngisho noma wenza uthando nomyeni wakho, lokhu akusona isizathu sokungaziqapheli futhi ulale emaphakameni amadala e-flannel. Okwesibili, zishaye ngomqondo owedlula wonke wezwi. Caress i-clitoris yakho, uhlambulule isisu sakho ngokunyakaza okuyingqayizivele, ungene emlonyeni wakho emzimbeni. Umlingani wakho uzomangala kakhulu ngentshisekelo yakho engavamile. Futhi ngaphambi kokuthakazeliswa kothando, akulimazi ukuphuza indebe yekhofi, ingilazi yewayini, ingilazi yotshwala. Isilinganiso esincane sokuphuza utshwala sizokusiza ukuba uphumule futhi uvumelane nomzwelo wesithandani.
Ungathuli.
Bambalwa abesilisa abakulungele ukwanele futhi ngesithakazelo baqonde izifiso zabesifazane. Abanye bangase bacale ukucabanga ukuthi owesifazane uhambela isithunzi sakhe wesilisa futhi uphazamise "umthetho" (kusukela ekubukeni kwesilisa) ilungelo lokunquma ukuthi kanjani nokuthi kwenzekani. Indlela elula yokukhuluma ngezidingo zakho ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Ngokuhlala njalo, ubuhlobo besikhathi eside, kungcono ukuqapha ngokucophelela izenzo zomuntu futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyomdumisa uma "ehlasela lokho okuhlosiwe." Khombisa ukubonga kwakho okungenani izikhathi ezimbili - ngokushesha emva kwalokho ngemuva kwalokho ngosuku noma ezimbili kamuva. Isibonelo, ukuthumela i-SMS mayelana nezinkumbulo ezimnandi. Ungase uzame ukuchaza ngokuningiliziwe "iphupho lakho" elisha, lapho, ngaphandle kokungabaza, ukutshela ngokuziphatha okufisayo nokuphendula kwabo okucacile. Enye indlela ukusebenzisa imithombo yesithathu. Isibonelo, bhekisa esihlokweni osifundayo noma sibone umbukiso we-TV bese ubuza ukuthi umakhethi wakho ubhekisela kanjani ulwazi olusha kuwe.
Ama-stereotypes mayelana nobulili besifazane.
Kukholelwa ukuthi abesifazane abathandi izithombe ezingcolile. Akulona iqiniso! Ngokombiko ongaziwa, abesifazane abangaba ngu-60% babheka amafilimu e-pornography ngenzalo. Kuvela ukuthi asigcini nje kubantu. Phakathi kwabo, abalandeli be-eerotic ngokuqondile bangama-10-12% kuphela.
Inganekwane ingabizwa ngokuthi abesifazane bangenza ngokuphepha ngaphandle kocansi. Okokuqala, akusizi ngalutho ukuthi odokotela besikhathi esidlule baxhumene nenkinga yesifazane ngokunganeliseki ngokocansi. Ukucindezeleka kwengqondo, ukungatholi indlela yokuphuma ebudlelwaneni bobulili, kungabangela ukukhathazeka, ukuphazamiseka kokulala ngisho nokuphazamiseka kokuphazamiseka. Okwesibili, ukungabi nobulili kunesimo sangemuva se-hormonal, esingabangela izinkinga zempilo ezimbi.
Iqiniso lokuthi abesifazane bajabule isikhathi eside kakhulu kunamadoda, nakho ukucabanga okungenalutho. Ososayensi baseMelika baye baphikisana ngokwesayensi ngalesi simangalo. Balinganisa izinga lokuzondwa kwamadoda nabesifazane ngenkathi bebukela izigcawu ezithandayo futhi baphetha ngokuthi bobabili amadoda nabesifazane bafinyelela ukuphakama kokuvusa ngocansi ngesikhathi esifanayo. Okunye okuwukuthi ezimweni ezivamile, kunzima kakhulu abesifazane ukuba bahlanganyele ocansini ngenxa yokucindezeleka kanye nemicabango engaphandle.
Kuvela ukuthi into esemqoka yobunqunu besifazane akuyona ukubukeka kwesitayela kanye nesithombe esihle. Ubulili besifazane, ngaphezu kwakho konke, imizwa yakho, imicabango yakho nezifiso zakho. Kuvumelana phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho. Ngisho noma singaziqondi ngaso sonke isikhathi, inkinga ebuhlotsheni ingahlala inqobe uma uthando nokuthandana kuvutha emphefumulweni.