"Washada ngani na?" Ngeke ube nomndeni! Wena awukwazi ukupheka! Awukwazi ukugcina indlu ngokuhlelekile! Awunandaba nezocansi! Uhlale unganelisekile ngento! Awusona umndeni, unesithakazelo kuphela ekuzijabuliseni! Awazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezingane, awukwazi ukuba ngumama! Uhlale unesifo! "- izinkulumo ezinjalo noma ezifanayo, mhlawumbe, ngamunye wenu wezwa ngesikhathi sehlukaniso.
Basiphatha kabi futhi banganezeli ukuzethemba nokwethemba nhlobo. Siyaziqhenya futhi sizame ukuhlala sodwa . Kodwa ukujabula kwenkululeko kudlula ngokushesha kakhulu. Futhi siqala ukuzizwa singakhululekile.
Owesifazane akufanele aphile yedwa. Uphikisana. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba anakekele omunye umuntu.
Ukuba nomndeni kuyisifiso esivamile, esivumelekile somuntu ngamunye, ngoba uyumuntu ohlala emphakathini. Kuphikisana kuphela kubantu abakhethwe yizici ezilandelayo:
• Ukuqedwa ngokuphelele abantu abakuzungezile, ikakhulukazi abantu bobulili obuhlukile;
• ukungezwani okuqhubekayo ekusebenzeni komshado;
• ukuhluleka ukwehlisa;
• Ukunganaki komuntu ukubekezelela ukwehluleka kwamanye abantu, imikhuba kanye nezici;
• ukubeka phambili ekuziphatheni okungezansi, ukuxhaswa kwezidakamizwa, ukuphuza utshwala;
• Ukungabi nesifiso sokuba nomndeni.
Ngenhlanhla, izinto ezinjalo ezingavamile azivamile. Nakuba ezinye zazo zingaphazamisi ngokudala into efana nesikhungo senhlalo, esibizwa ngabantu "umshado" ... kuzo zonke izincazelo zalesi gama.
Sonke sidinga abantu abaseduze kanye nendawo lapho singafika khona ngenjabulo nezinkinga zethu futhi sizwakale. Futhi akukho ndawo ongayitholi khona.
Futhi uma singakwazi ukudala umndeni ojabule kakhulu kusukela okokuqala, asilahlekelwa ithemba lokuqaphela lesi sifiso emshadweni wesibili nowesithathu. Futhi kunjalo! Ngaphambi kokuba wenze lokhu, ngicabanga, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucophelela ukuthi kungani umzamo wokuqala wahluleka, futhi ungaphindaphindi amaphutha.
Umndeni wesibili nowesithathu uvame ukwakheka emfanekisweni futhi kufane nokuqala. Ngezinguquko ezincane kuphela. Futhi lo mlingani omusha ufana nomdala ngisho nangaphandle. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? "Kungani ngiwela ngenduku efanayo yokudoba futhi ngihlasele isondo esifanayo," ucabanga. Ake sizame ukuthola lokhu.
• ukhangwa uhlobo olufanayo lwabantu, kwenzeka okwenziwa ngokwezakhi zofuzo (i-satellite esizayo ngokuvamile ibukeka njengobaba);
• awufundile emaphutheni omshado wangaphambilini, futhi impilo ikunika ithuba elilodwa, okunye okumele ukuyiqonde ngawe kanye nobuhlobo nabantu;
• Ukucabanga kwakho kuncike ekuthonyeni kwezinkolelo, ongasho ukuthi ulahlekelwe ngumzamo onamandla;
• Lokhu kwenzeka futhi uma ungacaciswanga ngokucacile ukuthi ubani ofuna ngempela empilweni yakho, ukuthi yini oyikhethayo ngempela nomshado wakho.
• Awukushintshanga nhlobo, imibono yakho, imicabango, okulindelwe, imisebenzi, imikhuba ... Ngakho ufuna ukuthini kwabanye. Ingaphandle ilingana nengaphakathi. Shintsha - futhi izwe elikuzungezile lizoshintsha.
Ngezinye izikhathi kuhlambalaza futhi kungavamile ukuhlangana nomlingani wakho omusha ngalezo zici zobuntu ezazicasula kakhulu ngaphambili. Ngakho-ke, izinkolelo zizalwa, njengokuthi "bonke abantu bangabo ..." kuye ngokuthi yini okufanele uyenze.
Uma unikezwe ithuba lokuqhubeka le nkulumo, yini ongayibhala kusayithi "layo ..."? Umdlalo ku-association, njengasehhovisi le-psychoanalyst. Yini efika engqondweni yakho ingqondo yakho yangempela kule nkinga. Lapha futhi kuyadingeka ukucinga.
Uyazi mayelana nephethini enjalo engokwengqondo - ezithintekayo esingazithandi kakhulu kwabanye abantu kanye nalabo esivame ukulwa nabo kwabanye, zikhona ngempela kithi? Yizo kuphela ezifihliwe ezijulile ku-subconscious.
Ngazo zonke izindlela sizama ukuzifihla kwabanye. Kodwa ngokusho komthetho wobuthakathaka, lokho okufunayo ukufihla kuyabonakala. Angikaze ngiqaphele? Cabanga ngakho ngesikhathi sokuzilibazisa. Qinisekisa ukuthi uzothola wena umzila ozonda umphathi wakho.
Labo abakhulu abakhuluma nge-vampires energy noma ukubonakaliswa okukhulu kwe-avarice, ngokwabo empeleni baba yizimpi zamandla ezikhanyayo noma ezimbi. Lapha kanjalo!
Zama ngokuhlakanipha, ukulahla izikhalazo zangaphambilini kanye nemicabango yokungaziphathi kahle kwakho, ucabange ngezimbangela zezinkinga zakho zangaphambilini. Kuphela hhayi ngombono wesisulu esikhohlisiwe, kodwa kusuka esimweni somuntu okwazi ukuzibheka ngokweqile yena nokuphila kwakhe. Qonda izimbangela bese udweba izifundo.
Uma konke lokhu, ukubuka ngobuqotho emehlweni eqiniso, ngokuzumayo uqaphele - abantu bayanyamalala empilweni abacindezelayo nezenzo ezihluphayo futhi bakwenze ube namahloni. Ngenxa yalokhu, umuntu akadingeki enze lutho ikakhulukazi, qaphela futhi wamukele lokhu ngokwakho, ngokuthula nangenhlakanipho.
Kuyini ukusetshenziswa kokutshela ukuthi angikaze ngishintshe noma ubani, ngoba nginomuntu oyedwa othembekile, oqotho futhi ozinikele. Kuyamangalisa! Othembekile, othembekile! Kodwa uyajabula? Hlanganisa lokhu ukuzinikela eforeni odongeni futhi ujabulele! Noma faka isikhumbuzo phakathi kwekhishi. Ngokungazelelwe izinzalo ezibonga ziyoguqa.
Futhi kubuthakathaka kuwe ukuthi uzamukele wena kanye nezwe njengengaphelele, ukuze kube khona ukuhlubuka, amaphutha, nezenzo ezingalungile?
Nasi, isibonelo, othembekile futhi ozinikezele, kodwa "ophezulu" uMnumzane Masha, umakhelwane, akazange anikezwe mboleko. Bazisola ngakho. Futhi khumbula, ngoMgqibelo, lapho kungekho muntu ohlala ekhaya, awuzange ugijimele nxazonke ngendoda yokuhlanza njengenjwayelo, futhi awuzange ukhala ngakho konke okwakhathele ukuba yizinceku, kodwa nje ulale phambi kwe-TV usuku lonke, njengomuntu ogcina ukuvila onogcwele ogcwele we-pop -Ukuzonda, okuzondayo ukuphuma emaceleni ngemuva kokugculiswa nezingane zakho. Kukhunjulwa? Aha! Ngakho awuphelelanga kakhulu. Futhi kwabanye, lindele uhlobo oluthile lwezenzo ezinhle nokubonakaliswa. Yehla emhlabeni, othandekayo! Futhi wamukele njengoba kunjalo, engaphelele futhi engalindeleki!
Futhi ukhohlwe ngobuhlobo obuhle nobunikazi bomndeni obuvela kuma-movie e-Hollywood. Azikho!
Ukuphila kuhle kangangokuthi akukuhle kakhulu!
Yini eyokusiza kuwe emshadweni omusha
... futhi ngokuqinisekile kuyokusindisa ekucindezelekeni nakwephutha njengalokhu:
• Ukubekezela . Ikhwalithi ewusizo kakhulu ayinikezwa wonke umuntu. Ngoba kudinga umzamo othile. Isibonelo, kanjani ngokuzithoba nangokuhlekisayo ukuphoqa ukuthi umyeni wakho nezingane bakhethe amasokisi abo phansi? Ngomzamo omncane, ungakwenza. Kodwa ezinye izimfanelo zomuntu siqu ze-satellites ngeke zishintshe. Yebo, futhi umsebenzi ongabongi wokulungisa umuntu. Awukwazi neze ukubekezelelana nokungaphumeleli ngokomzimba, izici zengqondo zomunye umuntu, ubuthakathaka bakhe. Ngoba ukuhlaselwa kwezindawo ezibuthakathaka kuyisihlungu kakhulu.
• Ukuzwa amahlaya . Zama ukubheka konke ngokuhleka, ngisho nalapho ungahleki. Kukhona ingoma endala, okufanekisela lokhu mqondo: "Vuka uphinde uhlabelele, zama empilweni okungenani kanye ukuze ungabikho ukumamatheka emehlweni avulekile. Vumela impumelelo engenangqondo, ukhetha kulabo abangakwazi ukuzihleka kuqala. Hlala ulele, uhlabelele ephusheni, vuka uphinde uhlabelele! "Kuhle, ngempela! Labo bantu abaphumelela kuwo, bayakwazi ukujabula kunoma yiziphi izimo.
• Ukungabikho kokulindela okungenakulinganiswa nezidingo ezingaphezulu . Awucabangi ukuthi uphinde ufune umlingani wakho. Futhi ngokungafani okuncane kunalokho okulindelweyo uwela ekuphelelwe ithemba, uphinde uthukuthele, uphinde uthukuthele. Ngubani okutshele ukuthi unelungelo. Omunye umuntu akadalwanga ukuhlangabezana nezilindelo nezidingo zakho. Ukubaluleka kwayo emhlabeni akuxhomekile emibonweni yakho. Khumbula lokhu. Futhi wamukele, njengoba kunjalo. Noma ungathathi nhlobo.
• Ukuziphendulela . Ungabi maximalist emshadweni wesibili. Ukuzikhukhumeza nokuziqhenya, ukwehluleka ukuyekethisa, ukungaqiniseki nokuqinisa ukhonkolo, ongase ubize isimiso, empeleni nje uyisiphukuphuku. Futhi kungenzeka ukuphuka ekungezwani. Akukuhle yini ukufunda ukuba yi-diplomat, ukwenza izivumelwano, ukuba uvumelane? Kuhlale kungcono kunokubhekana ngqo. Kalula nje, yiba lula, ube nesidlo esikhulu futhi uguquguquke kakhulu, futhi impilo izophela ukukubeka ezindongeni zekhonktha, lapho ushaya khona ikhanda lakho ngokungazelelwe.
• Ukuthakazelelwa . Zama ukubona okuhle kumlingani wakho, hlakulela kuye izimfanelo ezinhle. Ngamazwi anomusa ayobe akubonga kakhulu kuwe, futhi noma ngabe okuthile kokudumisa kwakho akuhambisani neze neqiniso, kodwa kuyinto efiselekayo kuphela, maduzane kuzoba ngokoqobo. Shayela umuntu ingulube, futhi ngokushesha uzogwinya. Shayela i-swan, futhi iyoba yinhle. Ukugxeka ngokweqile nokukhwabanisa akufakisi isimo esimnandi endlini. Kodwa yilapho sonke sizama khona.
Ungaphelelwa ithemba uma okwesibili kungasebenzi, usenayo isikhathi, kuze kube yilapho usugugile ungasesha futhi uhlole. Abanye baphatha ukushada ngo-75, 80 ubudala. Kungaba isifiso!
Ungalokothi ubeke isiphambano sakho. Abacwaningi abaningi baye baqaphela ukuthi emshadweni wesibili umuntu ubekezelela futhi abe mnene. Ufunde ngokuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, akasasafuni ukunqoba insimu futhi akalwa nokuzuza. Uzama ukuhlala. Ngokuvumelana nawe nomlingani wakho. Ukuba khona kwesifiso esinjalo yisinyathelo sokuqala empumelelweni yomshado omusha!
Inhlanhla emkhakheni wokuphila komkhaya ojabulisayo!