Njengazo zonke izingxenye zokuphila kwethu, ubulili bubonakala endaweni engavamile kakhulu futhi engaqondakali yengqondo - ngamaphupho. Amaphupho e-Erotic angathintana ngokuqondile nezifiso zethu zangempela, kodwa kaningi izinto ezenzeka endalini esingeke sizicabangele ngalolo suku. Ukuze kuchazwe kahle imibono yezocansi, saphendukela ezingqondweni zengqondo. Babuye basinikeza isayensi yabo "incwadi yokuphupha": ukuchazwa kwamaphupho kungukuya ocansini. Lokhu kusebenza kubo bonke ...
Wonke umuntu ubona amaphupho angenangqondo. Ngokuvamile zibonakala zisondele ekuseni futhi aziqapheli ngokweqile. Owesifazane angakwazi ukuvusa ephusheni ngisho nalapho ekhuluma nje nomngane wakhe, ethanda ukuzindla kwakhe noma ... ebeletha ingane. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngamaphupho senza lokho ukuthi ekuseni asivuki thina ngokwethu. Ungesabi: okuqukethwe kwamaphupho akudingeki ukuthi kuhunyushwe ngokoqobo.
Yonke iphupho yinto eyodwa kuphela futhi isekelwe ezifisweni zakho, okuhlangenwe nakho, okuhlangenwe nakho kanye nokwesaba. Futhi ungagijimi ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi uphumelele encwadini yephupho - ngeke aphendule. Noma kunjalo, izazi ze-psychologist zakwazi ukubona izimo ezivamile zamaphupho okuhlukumeza.
Ukubingelela okudlule
Kwenzeka yini ukuthi ephusheni uhlangana nomngane wakho wangaphambili kanye naso "ekudubula" okulandelayo uzithola ulele embhedeni naye? Ingabe ngempela ukuthi awukwazi ukulikhohlwa? "Amaphupho okulala ocansini okubandakanya umlingani wangaphambili akufanele athathwe ngokungathí sina. Kungenzeka ukuthi lezi ziyizinkumbulo ezimnandi nje kuphela: ingqondo yakho engacatshangelwayo "ishicilela" into ekhangayo yocansi kusukela esikhathini esidlule. Kodwa uma leli phupho liba nzima, kufanelekile ukucabangela, - kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Olga Levinskaya. " Mhlawumbe, ngale ndlela, inkinga engaxazululwa izama ukuzibonakalisa yona, okungahambi kahle ngayo, isibonelo, usathukuthele ngenxa yezikhalazo ezedlule noma ungagcwalanga isizathu esivamile."
"Ubulili nomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili kungaba yisifaniso ngezifiso zakho, ezihlobene nomfanekiso wakhe, " wanezela isazi sengqondo uVadim Piotrovsky. - Isibonelo, uma uphupha ngomuntu owake wajabulela ukuthandana naye, lokhu kungase kubonise ukucindezeleka okuyimfihlo: ufuna ukukhipha ukukhathazeka okukucindezelayo, uphumule futhi uphumele endaweni yokukhathazeka. "
Ezandleni zesifazane
Njengoba ujabule iphupho lokusondelana nowesifazane, ungasheshi ukufakazela ukuthi ukufihla ukuthandana kobulili. "Mhlawumbe empilweni awunawo okwanele nokukhathazeka ngokwanele, uzizwa unesizungu futhi ulahlekile, futhi usemfanekisweni webhasikazikazi ukuthi ukunakekelwa, ukunakekelwa nokuzwelana okudingayo kuhlanganiswe, " kuchaza uVadim Piotrovsky. - Uma uphupha ucansi nomngane wakho, umlingani wakho noma owesifazane ojwayele, cabanga ngendlela oyiphatha ngayo ekuphileni. Ngokuvamile, ngokusebenzisa amaphupho angathandabuzeki abandakanya abantu esingabheki njengezinto zobulili empeleni, amaphuzu ethu okungaqondakali okufihla umona noma ukugoma. Ngakho-ke, ucansi lufanekisela isifiso sethu sokwamukela lezo zimfanelo zomlingani esingenayo, isibonelo, umqondo wokuhleka usulu, ikhono lokuziphatha emphakathini, ngenhloso noma ngokusebenza kahle. "
Inkathazo yasebusuku
Futhi kuthiwani uma ngephupho lakho lokuziphendukela komuntu ubona umuntu ongangabangeli nje noma yimiphi imizwa yobulili, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, uyazinengiso ngokuqondile? "Lapha isimiso esifanayo sisebenza: ngisho nasomngane ohlukumezayo, engumfundi ofunda naye omubi futhi engumakhelwane onobungozi emgodini, ngezinye izikhathi singazitholi izici esizifunayo thina. Ngisho noma lo muntu ephazamisekile, ngezikhathi ezithile ungase ufune ukuba nento efana naye, okungenani amandla okungaqapheli imibono yabanye, "kuqhubeka ukuchazwa kwamaphupho kaVadim Piotrovsky.
"Amaphupho anjalo avame ukufanekisa isithukuthezi: isibonelo, umlingani ongathandeki ngumsebenzi omuhle, " kuchaza u-psychotherapist u-Olga Levinskaya. - Ngokwemithetho, amaphupho ngokwabo ayanamathele futhi angenasono, ubulili kubo bubucayi, buba buhlungu futhi bubacasula. Kulesi simo, lokhu kuyisignali esiqinisekisiwe yokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha okuthile empilweni yakho. "
Finyelela kwenkanyezi
Ubulili nodumo, mhlawumbe, luhlobo oluvame kakhulu lwamaphupho ahlukumezayo. Incazelo yakhe incike kakhulu kumongo wephupho nobuhlobo bakho bomuntu kumuntu odumile. "Uma igumbi lakho lokulala liboshelwe ama-posters abonisa inkanyezi oyikhonzile futhi uthanda kancane, iphupho elinjalo yilokho okubonakalayo okufisa izifiso zakho. Ithi futhi empilweni awukatholi umuntu wakho ofanelekayo. "Ubuthongo obunzima" bungabonisa uhlobo oluthile lwe-infantilism: awukathuthukisi okunamathiselwe kwakho futhi usebenzisa izithombe ezenziwe ngomumo, "kusho uVadim Piotrovsky. - Uma i-hero yephupho lakho ingabangeli neze imizwelo empilweni, isibonelo, uyamazi njengomuntu owaziwayo, ukhuluma ngesifiso sakho sokufeza okuthile okunye ekuphileni. "
Ubulili no-Stranger
Kuyinto enhle kakhulu ukubona ephusheni ukuthi umfokazi akukhathaza kanjani. Amaphupho anjalo ajwayelekile kakhulu. U-Olga Levinskaya uthi: "Ubulili nomuntu ongaziwa bukhuluma ngombono wakho othuthukile futhi unxanelekile. - Ngosizo lwamaphupho anjalo unqanyuliwe ezinkathazweni zansuku zonke futhi wangena ezweni elithakazelisayo lokuzijabulisa komzimba, okungeke kudingeke uphendule kunoma ubani omunye. Awunayo imizwa ekulungele, imizwa nezinkinga, ongayiphazanyisa enkambisweni, njengoba ungamazi umlingani wakho, futhi awusabi imiphumela yokusondelana ngengozi. Kodwa-ke, abaningi baye bathola enye inguquko yendaba, lapho uzithola ulala nomuntu ongaziwa endaweni yomphakathi, futhi abantu abaningi bakubona. Ukukhathazeka yiyona leitmotif esemqoka yamaphupho anjalo. Kungabangelwa ukungajabuli ekusebenzelaneni nomlingani wangempela noma ukwesaba ukusondelana ngemva kokucindezeleka. "
QAPHELA UMSEBENZI
U-Eugene Kulgavchuk, isazi sezocansi, isazi sengqondo sengqondo, i-vice-president we-Russian Association of Sexologists.
Lesi simo, njengamaphupho ahlukumezayo - esinye sezibonakaliso zobulili bomuntu. Ngokuzizwa esivumelwaneni ne-sexologist ekhadini lokuphumula, imibuzo enjalo ithathwa ebhokisini elihlukile. Ngokuziqeda isikhathi eside, inani lamaphupho ahlukumezayo landa. Ngakho ngosizo lwabo, ubuchopho bethu bukhumbuza ukuthi ingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila njengezocansi. Kodwa-ke, amaphupho ahlukumezayo akasivakashele abantu abanomthethosisekelo wezocansi obuthakathaka, ngoba amandla abo ezocansi aboniswe kahle.
Amaphupho ama-Erotic an analogue of fantasies. Kuphela, ngokungafani nalezi zinsuku zokugcina, zivezwe kakhulu ezingenalutho. Amaphupho alula futhi anzima. Emaphusheni alula kukhona isakhiwo esiyifunayo kuphela - lokhu kuyi-clot yezifiso zethu ezingenziwanga. Ephusheni eziyinkimbinkimbi, isakhiwo sithola izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene kakhulu, sithandana futhi sinocansi, kanye nengqondo, kanye nobuhlobo.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupho ahlukumezayo kungcono kushiywe kudokotela we-sexologist-psychotherapist. Futhi kubalulekile ukucabangela izici zengqondo zomuntu othile, ukuhlaziya okuqukethwe kwabo. Ngemuva kwalokho, amaphupho afanayo kubantu abahlukene angase abe nencazelo ehluke ngokuphelele. Isibonelo, isimo esithandekayo sokudlwengula ephusheni lentombazane encane singakhuluma ngomqondo wecala (ozelwe ebuntwaneni) sokwenyuka kwesifiso sobulili.
Okwamanje, akufanelekile ukubandakanyeka kakhulu ekuchazeni amaphupho. Ukubonakaliswa kocansi okunempilo kudinga imizwelo emihle, hhayi ukuzithanda. Ngaphandle kobufakazi obukhethekile lokhu kuzongonakalisa isimo sakho sengqondo usuku lonke.
UMTHETHO WOKUPHAKATHI WAMAPHUMA uyayichaza izimpawu zamaphupho ahlukumezayo ngendlela yawo. Akudingekile ukuba ufune ngokuqondile ncamashi kusuka encwadini ngayinye yephupho ukuchazwa kwamaphupho - kubalulekile ukuhumusha ucansi ephusheni ngokuqondile. Kodwa nokho, kunamagugu ajwayelekile kwamanye amaphupho.
I-SEXY - uyakhangwa ubulili obuvinjelwe, ingozi kanye nokuthakazelisa.
THIRST - ukulangazelela ubulili nokunganeliseki.
I-ORANGE - isilingo, injabulo. Uvame ukucabanga ngezocansi ngokuphathelene nomuntu ongaziwayo.
I-ARBUZ iyi-orgasm. Uma uphupha ngokuthi usika kanjani ikhabe, khona-ke empilweni yangempela, injabulo yangempela yezocansi ayitholakali kuwe. Kufanele uzenze sengathi ungadumisi umlingani wakho.
I-BAZAR - impilo yokuziphatha ngokocansi.
BANAN - ekuqaleni komuntu, phallus.
Shintsha - ufuna ukushintsha wena noma ukumangalela othandekayo wakho wokungathembeki.
I-GORB yisifo sakho somzimba, okukuvimbela ukuba uzibonele kahle futhi ukhululekile.
I-Kabluk - ufakazela ukunganeliseki kwakho ngeqhaza lakho locansi.
I-ICONA isho ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho nomlingani buyisono futhi abubi.
I-INVALID - uhlushwa yi-complex inferiority, futhi lokhu kukuvimbela ukuba uvame ubudlelwane nobulili obuhlukile.
IZINDLELA - uphatha ubulili bukhulu kakhulu. Uhlala uzama, kodwa nganoma iyiphi indlela awukwazi ukuthola lokho okuthandayo.
I-WINDOW - uvame ukuzivalela kumlingani wakho, uhoxiswe kuwe, uma ngabe kukhona okushiwo ngokuhlukile kunalokho owakufunayo.