Kodwa laba "bantwana nabazukulu" abanjalo baphenduka ngokuthula ngombono wokuthi "umshado womphakathi" futhi bakhetha lolu hlobo lwezinyunyana nezibopho ezisemthethweni, ezinqunywe isitembu epasipoti, kaningi.
Izizathu ezikhuthaza abantu abasha ukuba bangazibophezeli ngezibopho zomthetho zihlukile. Amadoda angamafriji enkululeko, angathandi ukuzibophezela nganoma yiziphi izibopho. Ngisho noma bezofeza lezi zibopho, kulula ukuba zifeze ngaphandle kokuphoqelela okusemthethweni.
Abesifazane bakunzima kakhulu. Owesifazane ongavamile ubeka isimo esiyisisekelo sokuba nobuhlobo bokuqala bomshado wezomthetho, ngoba ngaleso sikhathi angakwazi ukulahlekelwa ngumuntu othandekayo ngokungahambisani naye.
Isimo sengqondo esihle sabesifazane emishadweni yomphakathi sithinteka umshado wabo ophindaphindiwe. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlangenwe nakho okubi "kobudlelwane bomthetho" kusikisela ukuthi kuphephile kakhulu futhi kulula ukuhlala nomuntu othandekayo ngaphandle kwezibopho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kwenza ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane bube bukhuni futhi buqaphele, ngoba ngaso sonke isikhathi kukhona ukwesaba ukuthi omunye wabo uzothatha futhi ashiye. Futhi uma ihamba, khona-ke kukhona okunye-ngeke kube khona konke lokhu okubomvu tape okuhambisana nezinqubo zesehlukaniso.
Akunakwenzeka ukukhuluma ngabesifazane okuthiwa bakhululiwe. Sekuyisikhathi eside beyeke ukwenza yonke imisebenzi abesifazane ababizwa ukuba bayenze emshadweni. Bazimele, bazilahlekele, imali yabo kanye nesikhathi sabo ngokwabo futhi abadingi umuntu othola imali, owayekade ethathwa njengenhloko yomndeni kanye nomthengisi. Futhi nakuba abesifazane abanjalo befuna indoda enamandla futhi enakekelayo eduze kwabo, ukushada ngokombono wabo kuwuhlobo oluletha izinkinga ezingadingekile, ngoba ngeke bayeke umsebenzi, indlela yabo yokuphila ngisho nengane ngeke ishintshe lesi simo.
Inamba enkulu yabesifazane abakhetha ubudlelwane obukhululekile yibo abamele iqhaza elihle labantu, okuthiwa yi-elite. Njengoba ezalwa ngokwezimali ngokwezimali, enayo yonke inzuzo yempucuko, abesifazane besigaba abavame ukukhawulela inkululeko yabo. Ukulahla isizathu esiyinhloko semishado eminingi, okungukuthi yezimali, babeka ubuhlobo bothando ngokwabo enhliziyweni yobuhlobo.
Njengoba kungase kubonakale sengathi kuyinkimbinkimbi, kuyisiko emaqenjini aphansi ukuzuza ubuhlobo futhi kuphakathi kwabesifazane abanjalo ukuthi amaphesenti omama abangabodwa angaphezulu. Okokuqala, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi iningi labo libona injongo yalo ekudaleni umndeni, emshadweni. Kodwa hhayi kuwo wonke amadoda yimindeni eqinile. Emva kwemishado idlalwe futhi yonke imali isetshenzisiwe, umzuzwana weqiniso ufika - izinkinga zansuku zonke, okunye, njengoba kwaziwa, abaningi abathanda izikebhe baphukile.
Ngakho-ke, imfundo emikhosini eqinile, isifiso sokugcina umuntu ocebile noma umqondo wengane ezayo, onelungelo "lokuqinisekiswa ngumthetho" kusho konke lokhu kuchaza isimo sengqondo esibi sabantu besifazane ekubhekaneni nomshado womphakathi, lapho kungenziwa khona ikhefu. Abesifazane abanjalo babheka kude esikhathini esizayo, beqinisekisa ngezinkinga zemali ezingenzeka. Kodwa njengoba kukhonjiswa, umshado osemthethweni awuyona isiqinisekiso sokuphumelela futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ubuhlobo besikhathi eside. Kuningi kuxhomeke emadodeni nakwabesifazane ngokwabo nasemibonweni yabo ngokwabo emphakathini. Isimo sengqondo sabesifazane siyaqondakala - ngokuvamile siyabonakala ngokungavikeleki nokulahlwa ngokokuziphatha, njengoba imibhangqwana eshadile isacatshangelwa ukuthi iyisibonelo emphakathini wethu, futhi abesifazane abangenazo izingane bazwela.