Mhlawumbe komunye umuntu futhi kuyoba yindvodza yokuthi abesifazane ababona nje kuphela ngokobulili babo. Bobabili abalingani bobulili bakhathazeka ngokuthi bangayenza kanjani ukuze isigamu sakhe seneliseke futhi senelisekile ngemuva kokuthintana kothando. Futhi uma kunzima ukuphawula okuthile okuhlangenwe nakho kumuntu, akusho ukuthi abakho. Ngakho-ke, yini amadoda ayesaba kakhulu embhedeni?
Ukwesaba, okungabonakala ngombhalo owodwa: "Kuthiwani uma kungasebenzi?"
Uma konke kungowokuqala lapho bobabili besesimweni esihle, umbuzo ofanayo, ngisho nokufishane, uvakashelwe amadoda amaningi. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kwesaba kuyadlulela uma isimo esinjalo sesivele senzeka. Ngubani ozahochetsya ozizwa njengomuntu ongenalwazi noma abe yinto yokuhleka usulu yowesifazane, ikakhulukazi uma lo wesifazane ethanda. Ukwesaba okufanayo kungaba isizathu sokuthi ubudlelwane obusakhulayo ngokushesha ngeke buyele esiteji esilandelayo.
Kusukela esimweni esinjalo, akekho omzimba, futhi uma konke okushiwo ngenhla kukukhumbuza ubuhlobo bakho, kufanele uzilungiselele, futhi uthuthukise isu lomlingani wakho ongapheli. Okokuqala, akufanelekile "ukugqekeza ehlombe", ukuqeda konke ubudlelwano nokubalekela ukuhlonipha amahloni. Kodwa "thatha le nkomo ngezimpondo" kuleso simo akufanelekile, ukucindezela ngokweqile kungalimaza kuphela. Kungcono ukucabanga ngalokho okwabangela ukuba kungenakuguqulwa, mhlawumbe ukwesaba okulula, kuboniswe ngesimo sokwabelana okungathembeki kumlingani wakho. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kule nkinga ingaba yisikhathi kanye nokuthuthumela. Vumela indoda yakho izwe ukuthi owesifazane obuthakathaka nowesibindi uyisondelene naye, ozokhohlwa konke okwesabayo.
Yesaba ukuthi uzoqhathaniswa namanye amadoda
Amadoda amaningi ayesaba ukuthi owesifazane uzokuqhathanisa nabantu bakudala. Lokhu kwesaba kungesinye sezimbangela zokwesaba ukungahambi kahle. Lolu hlobo lwesaba lungaba khona esithweni sakho samanje, futhi luvela ngenxa yalokho okungazange kunikezwe nguwe othanda ngaphambili. Wena, skoreevsego, futhi awuzange ucabange ukuthi okushiwo ukuthi u-ex wakho kwakuyi-nihilism ephelele, kodwa embhedeni wazi ukuthi yini okufanele akwenze, ingaqondwa kabi. Kodwa-ke, hhayi abesifazane kuphela abasolisayo.
Ngakho-ke, leli zwi selishiwo kakade, futhi ukuthi lusizi kanjani ukuthi liye laba nomphumela omubi. Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Zilungiselele ukuthi kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukubuyisela ukuthula komqhubi wakho kunokuba uyiphule. Konke okungukuthi i-vamostaetsya, inokuthakazelisa futhi ayifisi nje kuphela amagama, kodwa nezenzo zokufakazela kumuntu ukuthi iyona engcono kakhulu.
Ukwesaba kwangaphambi kokuqeda
Izici zomzimba wesilisa zigcwele izimfihlakalo eziningi, futhi akuvamile. Mhlawumbe, ukuze indoda ikwazi ukuthi isithombe esifanayo singenzeka, futhi Yebo, kufihla konke kunokwenzeka. Futhi kwenzeka ngaleyo ndlela, lokho akuyona into evamile, kodwa, njengoba bethi, konke kwenzeka.
Ngakho uma ubhekene nalokhu, ungazitholi ngokushesha iziphetho, mhlawumbe umnumzane wakho wayekhathazekile nje, noma inkosikazi yakhe yangaphambili yayingacabangi kakhulu, okwakushiya impendulo ethile. Amadoda nawo abantu, futhi akukho muntu owehlukile kubo.
Uma umuntu othandekayo uzodinga ukuchitha isikhathi esithile, ngakho kamuva impilo yakho yobulili yayimnandi ngokubili kokubili. Zama ukwandisa isikhathi se-prelude ngaphambi kocansi, kancane kancane indoda yakho ikhululekile ngokwengqondo, futhi injabulo yakho iyoba yinde futhi iyavumelana, ngoba uzocabangela wena kuphela, futhi hhayi ukuthi ungayifuni kanjani.
Ukwesaba umlingani wakho wezocansi
Kuyinto eyenzeka ukuthi amadoda asabe besaba ama-mistresses abo, kungukuthi owesifazane ekhuthele kakhulu embhedeni noma ephikisana naye. Uhlobo lokuqala lwabesifazane luyafundisa abantu ngaphambili, ngesikhathi nangemva kokulala ngokobulili, ukuthi yini okufanele ukuthi yenzeni nokuthi kufanele yenze kanjani. Uma ngabe kungase kubonakale kumuntu ofisa ukwazi, khona-ke esikhathini esizayo uvele ejabule ngokuba yipopi, owenza imiyalo ngaphandle kokuthola ukudla kule nqubo.
Abesifazane abaningi abangenalutho, bashukunyiswa yiqiniso lokuthi abahlanganyeli ohlelweni lwezocansi. Mhlawumbe lokhu kubangelwa izinkimbinkimbi nokuthobeka okukhulu, kodwa ngubani ongathanda ukutshala imali enkambeni yamandla nomphefumulo ngaphandle kokuthola impendulo.
Yini ongayeluleka owesifazane kulokhu? Cabanga nje endaweni yendoda yakho futhi ucabange ukuthi ungubani, futhi ungathini endaweni yakhe. Esimweni sokuqala, zama ukucabangela hhayi kuphela wena, kepha esimweni sesibili, phumula futhi ujabulele inqubo. Ezocansini, akukho ndawo yokwesaba nobugovu, lapha konke kufanele kube ngokuhlanganyela, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho.