Kukholelwa ukuthi iminyaka lapho umuntu eqala ukukhombisa ngobuhlobo ubudlelwane obunzima nomshado, lesi sizukulwane singama-35-33. Lokhu akusho ukuthi bashada, ikakhulukazi kule minyaka. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kuphela emva kwalesi sikhathi baqala ukudala imishado eqinile noma engaphansi.
Izimpendulo ezingabodwa nezingokwemvelo zombuzo obesilisa abesilisa abakhetha ubuhlobo obunzima, cha. Ngokwengqondo kunombono wokuthi wonke umuntu nongowesifazane kulo mhlaba unesigamu sakhe sesibili. Kuzwakala sengathi uyithandana, kodwa kunesici esiyingqayizivele: amanye ama-halves uNkulunkulu asenzele wona, mhlawumbe angaphezu kweyodwa. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma othile ecabanga ukuthi ulahlekelwe uthando lokuphila kwakhe, lokhu kuyinto yesikhashana. Ngokujwayelekile amadoda nabesifazane babe emakhanda abo isithombe esicacile somlingani wokuphila esizayo, okuyinto, ngokombono wabo, ekahle ukuba nobuhlobo obunzima. Lesi sithombe sabhalwa kusukela ebuntwaneni kanye nohlobo oluseduze kobulili obuhlukile, futhi eminyakeni yobudala ephoswe ngenxa yezithombe phakathi kwabaculi, abadlali, izinkanyezi zethelevishini. Futhi inqwaba, noma ngisho namakhulu ezinkulungwane zabantu bobulili obuhlukile, iyafaneleka ngempela kulo mfanekiso.
Esimweni esivame kakhulu, isithombe somfazi omuhle wekusasa lomuntu sikopishwa kumama wakhe. Kodwa lokhu akuyona iphethini eqinile. Ingane ngayinye, eqala ngeminyaka engu-4-5 ubudala, ine "umuntu omdala oyinhloko". Lo muntu uvame ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili obuhlukile, okungukuthi isimilo sokuziphatha, sengqondo, nesimo sengqondo somuntu ozayo esikhathini esizayo. Uma umfana enganeliseki ngobuhlobo nomama, esaba naye, noma elahliwe nguye ngenxa yemisebenzi yamannies, angenza omunye owesifazane abe ngumqondo wakhe wobuntwana. Kungaba ngumfana, uthisha, unina noma ugogo. Uma ufuna ukutadisha okuthandayo komuntu othile, zama ukuthola ukuthi ubani owayengowesifazane oyinhloko osusana naye, futhi obani ayeliphupha ngokushada lapho engumntwana wasenkulisa. Imibuzo mayelana nokuthi hlobo luni lwabadlali bezintandokazi namamodeli noma abaculi abayithandayo, nakho kuyoba okungenakuqhathaniswa. Qaphela ukuthi izici zomama nomuntu omdala omdala banikeza umqondo wokuziphatha okukhethwayo nomlingiswa wendodakazikazi, futhi izici zenkanyezi ethandwa yithelevishini ethandekayo zivame ukubonisa okuthandayo emkhakheni wokubonakala komuntu wakho.
Ngokuyinhloko, bangaki amadoda, izinhloso eziningi zomfazi zikhona. Kodwa-ke, kusekhona imizamo yokudala uhlobo lwezintambo zabesifazane, okuyinto amadoda akhetha ukushada. Ake sizame ukuqonda ukuthi hlobo luni lwesifazane abesilisa abathanda ukusebenzisana kakhulu, bebukele ukuziphatha kwabo.
Uthando
Indoda enjalo ikholelwa ukuthi emndenini kufanele ibe phambili ebusweni, ukuzwelana. Bazisa imizwa eqinile, ukuthula kwengqondo nokulinganisela. Bambalala ngezinye izikhathi emibhedeni, uma bengakhonzwanga kahle, ngokukhululekile, ngomusa nangothando. Izinkinga eziyingqayizivele ngabo - endaweni yeshumi. Ngakho-ke uma ulungele ukushada nomuntu onjalo, kuzodingeka ubekezelele ama-antics akhe, lapho eyokunika ibhakede lama roses, uthenge wonke umholo.
Umzali womama
Naphezu kwayo yonke inkululeko, kukhona namanje amadoda ambalwa abheka isisekelo sothando - ukugcinwa. Amadoda atholakale lolu hlobo lwabesifazane abangenasisekelo, abancinci, abavame ukuba nesimo senhlalakahle bancane kakhulu. Umkami womzali-mzali kufanele abe mncane kunye, angafundile kangako, angaphumelelanga kangako, kusuka endaweni ehluphekayo. Amadoda anjalo angashada ngokuvakashelwa ukuvakashela izivakashi ezivela emaRiphabhulikhi angomakhelwane noma kusuka esifundazweni esikude. Bathanda ukufundisa wonke umuntu, futhi umfazi kufanele alalele le nkosikazi, ngokubekezela enze iziyalezo zakhe ezingenangqondo, alalele izimfundiso zokuziphatha.
Indoda "ingane"
Lo ngumuntu omuhle okwazi ukwenza impilo yomlingani ujabule, ijabule, ngokuzenzekelayo. Ukuvuleka kwakhe kanye nokuzijabulisa kwakhe kunqoba wonke umuntu, kuvele kube yilapho eqala ukunakwa kunoma iyiphi inkampani. Ngesinye isikhathi linikeza umbono we-henpecked, ukulungele ukugqoka umfazi ezandleni zakhe futhi wenze zonke iziyalezo zakhe ezibalulekile. Lokhu kuthinta okukhohlisayo, ngoba igunya lomuntu onjalo nalo likhona. Uvele embozwe nge-vagaries, isithombe sokungabi nasizo nokungabi nasizo okwenza owesifazane athathe imithwalo yemithwalo yemindeni eminingi. Emadodeni anjalo, ukukhetha okubonakalayo kuvame ukuchazwa ngokucacile - bathanda abesifazane abakhulu, abakhulu. Ngokuvamile ukushada nabesifazane abadala kunabo, nabantwana kusukela emshadweni wabo wokuqala. Futhi bahlala endlini eyodwa ingane engaphezulu.
I-Rationalist
Ukuze unqobe umuntu onjalo, umuntu kumele abe nesiyalo sensimbi, ingqondo ethuthukisiwe kahle futhi cishe ukungafiki okuphelele kwemizwa yokuzizwa. Ngokuvamile umuntu onjalo akaphuzi nhlobo, akabhemi, akavame ukubhekana nemikhuba yokugembula noma intshiseko yinkampani enobungane. Konke kuhamba endlini, kodwa futhi kumkayo ufuna okufanayo. Ngemuva kwakhe, owesifazane uzizwa efana ngemuva kwodonga lwamatshe. Lokho kungukuthandana nje, amazwi ngothando, futhi nje ukukhuluma ngenhliziyo nomuntu onjalo akufanele alinde.
I-Independent egoist
Uhlobo oluyinkimbinkimbi lwamadoda afaneleka kahle kakhulu futhi aphumelele emakhakheni asemsebenzini. Uyazi ukuthi angamcindezeli kanjani umkakhe, hhayi ukucela kuye isihlalo ekhaya, kaningi akawuthandi umphumela wakhe, akahawukeli osebenza nabo. Kodwa futhi ufune isimo sengqondo esifanayo ngaye. Umuntu onjalo ukhetha ukugcina ibanga nabo bonke abantu abakuzungezile, futhi noma yikuphi ukungena esikhala sakhe siqu kumethusa.
Umthandi wokulingana
Abesifazane ngokwabo baye bazama ukulingana namalungelo afanayo namadoda. Manje kufanele sisuse. Kuningi amadoda afuna umlingani olinganayo. Bafuna umkakhe asebenze kangako, kodwa balungele ukusiza nxazonke endlini, ekhishini. Amadoda anjalo akafuni ukuthatha ukuphepha kwezimali komndeni. Ngokuvamile bazama ukwethula isabelomali esihlukene somkami nomyeni, futhi umndeni ngamunye ukhiwa ngokulingana okuthile. Akusizi ngalutho ukuzama ukumphoqa umuntu onjalo ukuthi akunike izipho ezibizayo futhi azalise ama-whims akho. Esikhathini esithile uzokukhuthazelela, khona-ke uzohamba afune lowo wesifazane omthandayo. Ngenhlanhla, esikhathini sethu izinkinga ngalokhu kumadoda azivuki.