Izibonakaliso eziyisikhombisa ezingasithandi

Ingabe ukhathazekile ngekusasa lobuhlobo bakho? Unakho ukungabaza? Yiqiniso, kunzima ukuvumelanisa nezinguquko ekuziphatheni komlingani wakho, kodwa uma ufuna ukwazi kabanzi mayelana nethemba lobudlelwane obuseduze, buyekeze lolu hlu futhi ngokuhlaziya izenzo namazwi weRooo yakho ehlile yenza umbono oqondile mayelana nekusasa langempela lokuphila kwakho okuhlangene.
1. Ukungabikho nokuvuma okunye
Uma umngane wakho engasabonakali isithombe somuntu oqinile ebuhlotsheni bakho futhi uthatha ukuthi uyathanda ukulingana, awunikeli ukwelashwa kwesizwe esithandwa kakhulu, ukubonwa kwangaphambili komuntu onamandla ngokuqondene nabuthakathaka sekuphelile, okusho ukuthi awusaboni ngaye. Akasakucabangi ngawe njengendoda ebaluleke kunazo zonke ekuphileni kwakhe. Ngcono kakhulu, ubuhlobo bakho buzobambisana ngokubambisana, okungeke kube khona indawo yothando.

Eminye yemikhuba yakho ingamcasuli.
Kukhona indlela enhle yokuqinisekisa ukuthi isoka lakho limise isithakazelo kuwe. Uma uqaphele ukuthi ngisho nemikhuba yakho ecasulayo manje "kuze kube yilabhu", khona-ke lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sokuthi ubuhlobo bakho obuhle ngeke buhlale isikhathi eside. Ukungabi nentshisekelo komunye nomunye kungenye yezinto ezimbi kunazo zonke ezibhubhisa impilo ehlangene.

3. Uyakhathazeka kakhulu ngokubonakala kwakhe
Uma umngane wakho ngesikhathi esisodwa ephonsa umdlalo wakhe owuthandayo ngenkathi uhlala, futhi manje waqala ukuya ejimini futhi wayekhathalela ngokubukeka kwakhe, lokhu kubonisa ngokucacile ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukumjabulisa umuntu. Kubuhlungu ukuvuma ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buyafa.

4. Amazwi amnene ayanyamalala izingxoxo zocingo
Uma isoka lakho liyeka ukushaya, "alilenga" nawe amahora efonini, ezingxoxweni zefoni, amagama amnandi kangaka afana ne "othandekayo wami" noma ngisho nento encane "othandekayo wami" asekho, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuxwayisa ukuthi imizwa yakhe eqinile endaweni ethile, bese kwenye inombolo yocingo, kodwa hhayi kwinombolo yakho yefoni. Njengoba abafana bethi, "uthando aluhlali lapha".

5. Uhlangana nabangane ngaphandle kwakho
Abafana abalahlekelwa isithakazelo kumantombazane abo, baqhubeka behlela noma yiziphi izinto nabangani. Ukuzibandakanya ukuchitha isikhathi nawe, ukuba khona kwakho emacimbini nabangani kuyabangela impela - lokhu kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sokuthi imizwa ikhulile, ukuthi uyamkhathaza, futhi ufisa ukuhlangana nabantu abasha. Kumele ukhulume ngokukhululekile noma uzame ukuphefumula impilo ebuhlotsheni bakho obungapheli.

6. Akaseyona incwadi evulekile
Umngane wakho waqala ukukhohlwa ukutshela ngosuku lwakhe oludlule, wayeka ukukhuluma izindaba ezimnandi kulokho okwenzekile kuye namhlanje. Lokhu ngokuqinisekile kungenye yezibonakaliso ezingenaso isifiso sokuba incwadi evulekile kuwe. Mhlawumbe unokuthile okumele akugodle, kukhona okuzofihla noma ukhathele ukukhuluma nawe. Uma kunjalo, khona-ke ungakwazi ukubona kalula ushintsho olunjalo ekuziphatheni kwakhe. Hlaziya uma uqaphela ngokujulile, uzenzele iziphetho.

7. Waba matasa kakhulu ukuphendula izingcingo zakho
Amadoda azohlala ethola izizathu eziyinkulungwane zokufihla ukungathandi kwabo. Omunye wabo yisitatimende mayelana nokuqashwa kwakho ngokweqile, okungekho nhlobo isikhathi sokuphendula ucingo lwakho noma umlayezo wombhalo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka kaningi futhi kuphenduka isistimu, udinga ukuthola indlela yokuhamba engxoxweni engacacile ukuze ucacise ukuthi ingabe unesikhathi esingaphansi futhi udinga usizo lwakho noma uqinisekise ukuthi akasasafuni ubuhlobo bakho.